A while back I wrote in a thread that asked RP why they hated sluts that "everyone hates sluts; it's just a matter of where they draw the line. Even if you think an N-count of 20 is acceptable in your mid-20s, you might not think that 90 or 120 is acceptable. Everyone has a limit."

I didn't have a good example of that then, but now I do. A self-confessed slut mourns the fact that her daughter's n-count at 19 is higher than her own at 19.

The author of this article is so slutty she's lost count of her n-count, she's just sure that it's "under 70."

http://jezebel.com/whats-your-body-count-a-mother-and-daughter-talk-about-1764789456

Lauren tells me the number of sexual partners she’s had in the two years she’s been sexually active. I’m opting not to share the number here—primarily because my husband might read this, and this is not something Lauren would share with him. Let’s just say, her number is higher than mine was at 19. And my initial reaction was that the number was much too high for an almost-19-year old who has been sexually active for two years. I did my best to continue the interview with Lauren without dissolving in “where did I go wrong” tears.

Are there any BPers who's willing to tell me with a straight face that they would have no negative emotional reactions whatsoever, not even a sliver, if their 19 year old daughter told them that her n-count was over 100? Anyone? Because if you're not willing to say that, then you hate sluts too, like RP, you're just bargaining over definitions.

And the daughter in the piece isn't non-judgment of sluts either. She is deeply invested in the fact that her number is "normal" in her peer group. This is slut shaming, in that it acknowledges that it's possible for someone's n-count to be abnormal, unreasonable.

Well, sometimes I think, is that a reasonable number? But mostly, I think it’s normal.

The mother then asks the daughter about how she would feel if her eight year old sister, 11 years in the future, told her that she had the same n-count as her at 19.

I’d be like…wow. I don’t know how I’d respond.

I wouldn’t focus on that. I would want to know who these people were. And I would need to know the how, when and where of these experiences. I’d need that information before I could say this is okay behavior or not okay behavior. Also? I’d ask her. Is this something you think is healthy?

And then, after expressing dismay at the possibility that her sister may become as slutty as she is...

MOTHER: Do you think there are some potential partners that would be concerned or perhaps even uninterested in pursuing a relationship with you because of your number of partners? How would you feel about that?

DAUGHTER: But if someone thinks I’ve slept with too many people because of some arbitrary idea they have of what the right number should be… that’s not okay.

That's not OK. You heard that, men? That's not OK.

Bonus Prostitutes slut-shame other prostitutes who actually enjoy the job.

I used to dance myself, and sometimes during a rather close lapdance, I would orgasm. I remember the first time that it happened, and I was pretty surprised.

But I also remember feeling as a stripper that I would be judged by my coworkers for getting pleasure from my job. The whore stigma creates a virtual cage of its own by and among sex workers. Like somehow you’re really a slut if you like it (as if you’re only pretending to be a slut normally, and that pretend sluts are infinitely more acceptable than real sluts). I remember a floor manager from a club who once said that how far a girl goes in her dances depends on how much of a “whore mentality” she has.

http://titsandsass.com/getting-away-with-hating-it-consent-in-the-context-of-sex-work/

If you ever visit a stripper forum, you'll find that a common topic is how the "real sluts" who offer handjobs, blowjobs, sex etc, at the strip club (and it's incredibly pervasive) ruin it for everyone else, because they make the customers more pushy for sex acts.