For the average guy, we all know Tinder sucks, but even if you never get laid from it, I believe it's doing men a favor: In economics terms, it "facilitates price discovery," showing a woman's true relationship mate value. To define terms, relationship mate value is a more specific valuation of a person's true options. For women, since non-sluts generally value relationships more than sex, a woman's RMV reflects the SMV of a man she can lock down for relationship. The men an average woman can get to commit to relationship are generally 2-3 points lower, sometimes much more, than a man she can pull for sex.
While this price discovery process is boosting the N count and the egos of millions of women, creating an asset bubble, it eventually causes the SMV bubble to burst when women attempt to convert short-term SMV points into long term RMV assets, only to discover a currency discrepancy caused by high SMV men "shorting" most women in the RMV market.
This concept will be self-explanatory for many, but to explain a bit further why and how Tinder works as an RMV price discovery machine:
A dating app based almost solely upon looks will cause the top 20% of men to receive the majority of matches. These men will pump & dump with impunity, because a large urban area have a virtually inexhaustible supply of women to match with the top men. So a lot of women swipe only on the men they think are hot, and eventually go on dates with these hot men. The Tinder newbies and the less discerning will spread their legs on the first date, or at least give up a BJ, and few tinder date trajectories get to the 3rd or 4th date without sex. That's when women start to push for commitment. This, gentlemen, is the beginning of a woman's true winter of discontent on Tinder, especially if they're 30+ and looking to settle down.
Men with options will always resist the pressure of monogamy. Or if they do capitulate to a woman's monogamous pressures, it's often a Trojan horse (heh) of capitulation, while the high SMV man continue to spin plates, therefore snatching up options. High SMV men are basically able to, with a single swipe and some tight game, initiate a call option on a slew of dames. Being outgunned on the RMV market, even just theoretically, by the younger, hotter, tighter, they fail in converting SMV to RMV points for the men they desire.
So women end up getting burned, over and over. The young, high SMV ones don't care, they don't realize they're on a treadmill to nowhere, they bask in the loving glow of attention.
The older ones, those looking to get into a relationship, i.e those 30+, become Tinder-jaded after a few failures to convert on 4th down--that is, she gives up the poon on the 2nd or 3rd date, then goes for the monogamy touchdown, only to have the pass batted away by an ever-so-slightly younger, hotter, tighter dame who also matched with the guy with 200+ matches.
This is why the most common phrase to close a Tinder bio on a woman older than 26: "No hookups," or some variation. Hamster translation: I've been burned a few times and I want a guy who won't bail when I ask for commitment after a few dates of trading saliva, followed by hot sex.
How do I know this? I'm a fit, articulate, 40 year old with a photogenic face, good photos, and a decent bit of text game, and have had dozens of tinder dates, banged handfuls, and consistently match and get at least date #1 with 21-25 year olds preferentially, but with hot women up to late 30s. I get opened consistently on Tinder by women 8-10 years younger than me.
Some of this discovery for me became clear after a few dates that went poorly. On one in particular, with an older woman, I felt frustrated, her ego was out of control, so when the subject of our tinder experiences comes up in conversation, as it often does, I casually offer the fact that I match with 25-year old hot-yoga teachers with Instagram accounts, and other YHT dames. The response was illustrative. She folded. Since then, I've showed a few mid-30s dames my Tinder account. It doesn't matter that I haven't bedded a particular young morsel, only that I've matched and have conversed with a serious hot young competitor. Upon checking out my market ticker, older dame's eyes bug out, and then they act like they've been hit with kryptonite, and usually the date goes south with a quickness from there. I usually only use this strategy on older broads who are putting up a lot of attitude, and whom consistently shit-test and/or try to steal the frame. It's a nuclear option, but I feel that this form of a naked short offers more efficient price discovery for these broads on the RMV market.
Some post-price discovery tracking--on Tinder, it's relatively easy to see who's still in the market, and I notice that a lot of broads I match with don't stay in the market long. Their accounts often go dark. It only makes sense. After all, I can't be the only high SMV guy who's exploiting our current well-endowed market capitalization.
Finally, I know a ton of 30's women in my social circle on Tinder, and I know of only 1 successful couple created out of this roiling market, and they're both fairly well-matched in RMV because both are semi pro athletes, she's early 30s but still hot, and he's mid 30s and not into spinning plates.
TL;DR, Tinder provides a reality check for women on the relationship market.
Edited for spelling & clarity.
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