Thoughts on weightlifting and maintaining femininity

metajenn · 2019-12-16T11:31:43+00:00

I've been training seriously for 10 years and competed in powerlifting. I actually feel more feminine while training and have become so much more comfortable in my body because of fitness. While I probably have a higher thresh hold for how much muscle I think is feminine and sexy, I don't think a woman can naturally achieve anything close to being masculine.

With that being said, it's all about how you carry yourself. I remember some of the girls in soccer when I was a kid gave off way more masculine energy than some pro bodybuilding women I've known.

Ghustgan · 2019-12-16T15:51:53+00:00

Not gonna go into detail here but it's impossible for a natty woman to look bulky enough to the point where she won't look feminine. All that stuff about super swole women looking like men is due to extreme roid use.

Legs may get a bit thick, sure, since legs have big muscles and all and it also depends on your body structure (thick vs thin legs, wide vs narrow hips etc) overall but you have nothing to worry about.

2019-12-16T14:12:57+00:00

Natural bodybuilding is very, very different than enhanced athletes. I’m all natural bikini bodybuilder and I lift, HEAVY! Being able to create the shape of my body and eating foods to fuel my body for performance makes me feel feminine and in control of my health. I don’t look bulky at all.

Theendisnearornot · 2019-12-16T13:51:21+00:00

I have been working on losing weight and building some muscle by weightlifting. My husband loves it :). I show him whatever new muscle I have and he gets really excited for me (he likes smacking my butt too to see if the squats are working lol).

terrapinninja · 2019-12-16T12:52:06+00:00

Fitness models are the peak of femininity for a lot of guys. They didn't get that way by running on the treadmill and lifting little pink dumbbells. Female bodybuilders look masculine because of taking male sex hormones and because they run very low bodyfat levels (like unhealthily low). To achieve that takes intense dedication and purpose. It's not gonna happen by accident or overnight. You won't wake up one day and be like "oh no what have I done, I'm a dude." And even if you got somewhere you didn't like, it would be easy to just cut back on lifting and gain a little more bodyfat, and presto you're back where you were before

BigendBlueAnt · 2019-12-16T16:40:23+00:00

Weightlifting did wonders for my self-confidence and femininity! In my experience, it made me more likely to wear clothes that showed off my physique, improved my posture, and boosted my mood. My husband loves my body and laughed out loud the one time I expressed concern about looking too masculine.

I’ve read (and agree) that most women enjoy the aesthetic results of strength training with more lower body focus (glutes, quads, etc) as opposed to more upper body days like guys generally do, but it’s all up to you. Like others have said in this thread, it’s almost impossible to “overdo it” and look too masculine without steroid use, and it’s definitely not going to happen overnight. I’ve noticed that even “jacked” women rarely look visibly huge when fully clothed.

iLiveInAHologram94 · 2019-12-16T17:03:41+00:00

At around 97 lbs I don’t think you’ll intimidate men. This is ridiculously cute that you say so though. I think wearing cute work out gear or French braiding your hair may help you feel like you’re maintaining it. Because I think a lot of femininity is being in touch with it yourself

gscheit · 2019-12-16T11:27:57+00:00

So I’ve never pursued weight lifting but I know a few women who do and none of them look particularly muscular. I’m pretty sure it’s really hard to get a muscular look as a woman, so unless I’m wrong about this I wouldn’t worry at all

jonmarli · 2019-12-16T17:48:49+00:00

Femininity doesn't require weakness, helplessness, or small size. Self-respect and maintaining good health can come in different packages, and I think a woman who lifts heavy things and cares for her body and appreciates what it can do and how it can look can also be wonderfully feminine.

Some men may be intimidated by a fit, strong woman with a disciplined gym and diet habit, but many of them just because they don't think they'll measure up. And aesthetic preferences for waifish women exist, but you'll never please every single man with your appearance. Any man who is super hung up on these things is probably a man you'll want to weed out of your dating pool anyway. You should be looking for someone confident and comfortable with health and self-discipline.

sadgyallexi · 2019-12-16T16:17:48+00:00

Bulking up and looking “masculine” takes a lot of work, in the gym AND the kitchen. You won’t look like Ronda Rousey after lifting some weights a couple of times a week.

chessk · 2019-12-16T17:22:24+00:00

Heavy weights a few times a week won’t turn you into a guy. The women you see that have “masculine” bodies are probably in the gym every day and take steroids. A good example of fit & feminine muscle is katya Elise henry or Tammy hembrow. A non-steroid weightlifting body is clearly fit and muscular but also very feminine

blueberrypanda1 · 2019-12-16T18:38:07+00:00

I think every woman’s physique and body structure is different. Many women can lift heavy weights and still look feminine. I - cannot. I stick to p.volve workouts mixed with some gym stuff.

I’m petite with a small bone structure and was an athlete in my youth, so always had a fair bit of muscle and build it easily. I do lots of working out with my body weight and some weights for my core/back/legs ie dead lifts and squats, but if I start bench pressing my chest looks bigger and more muscular as well as do my arms and I start to look bulky quite quickly. In other words - I lose part of my feminine look. I envy women that can lift hard and heavy without getting bulky and still look feminine but I am not one of them. So try different things and see what is best for you!

relaxilla420 · 2019-12-16T18:54:22+00:00

I feel more feminine after getting on a gym routine than I did during the years I wasnt working out at all. And men notice. In 2019, it can be really difficult to find a woman who isnt flat out fat, or at the very least "skinny fat" because they eat poorly and don't hit the gym. Men are attracted to health, its only natural. Toned muscle and lower body fat just makes anyone healthier, and when you're healthier, you literally ooze confidence and stand out from the crowd.

Like others said theres almost no way you'll get too buff out of nowhere. I do weights everyday and I'm not even that strong, looking or feeling, because I'm petite (Im literally the same weight as you). Women dont naturally build bulk without special training.

RainingGlitter28 · 2019-12-16T19:10:57+00:00

Personal Trainer here. You definitely will not get too bulky if you stay natural.

sebastianconcept · 2019-12-16T19:46:38+00:00

You can train as hard as you want the lower train. What makes a muscular girl look less feminine in my eyes is in order of high to less importance: 1. overdeveloping shoulders 2. overdeveloping biceps 3. overdeveloping back (lats) 4. six packs Check some models to compare. I say, if you don’t overdevelop those, your shape will not look masculinized. In opposition to that, the most feminine is to work for or maintain a nice bubble butt, thin waist and nice legs proportions

Dilldogo · 2019-12-16T19:10:04+00:00

Lifting heavy has many health benefits including healthy bones. You will only turn into a man if you start taking steroids, that is what the muscle monsters do. Worst case scenario you will probably look like an underwear model, it will give you a shapely form, think Victoria Secret angel.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2019-12-16T22:29:22+00:00

About the "bulkiest" you can ever hope to be as a relatively young female weight lifter is this girl, and she is sexy without a doubt.

Don't worry about it. toned strength is feminine and hot. No man will say that you look too bulky unless you are taking suppliments or trying to outlift men on bench or something.

August12th · 2019-12-16T20:58:01+00:00

There is no way you will become overly masculine by lifting. Building muscle is a very slow and hard process

simmingslytherin · 2019-12-16T21:18:21+00:00

i wish i had the discipline to work out enough so i could look like that. you go girl! growing up my mom was the physically strongest person i knew so fitness never seemed unfeminine to me.

WarViper1337 · 2019-12-16T21:22:48+00:00

If your a natural weightlifter (not using steriods/testosterone etc) then you will be just fine. Women just don't have high enough testosterone levels to build and maintain large amounts of muscles. Most of the women you see with large muscles are taking testosterone to achieve those results. So work out till you hearts content. Even if your lifting heavy you wont have much to worry about. You will build muscle definition for sure but there is little chance you are going turn into an imposing muscle woman that men won't be attracted to. Most men are going to be attracted to a well toned body anyway. Just be sure your lifting safe with proper form and allowing yourself enough recovery time.

lord-cat · 2019-12-16T23:09:11+00:00

you’ll be fine as long as you don’t do steroids(anavar). women can stay toned and healthy looking but biologically impossible to gain muscles like men. women you see on every social media they are all on steroids

szsunshine · 2019-12-19T23:55:36+00:00

My doctor actually advised me to start lifting weights to keep fit and improve my bone density.

IMO femininity is about how you act and carry yourself. You can be 6 feet tall and muscular and still be incredibly feminine. You can be a boxer (like Leila Ali) or a CEO and still be feminine.

atx78701 · 2019-12-20T16:18:38+00:00

almost impossible to do, dont worry about it. Women that are extremely cut dont just lift.. They have specially formulated diets, supplements, etc

hazeltabby · 2019-12-22T00:09:20+00:00

Im always surprised when people think they gonna look like a bodybuilder if they pick up some weights. gaining muscle is incredibly hard

cherrykitty87 · 2020-01-06T17:59:26+00:00

Good job for you and your hard work! Seriously!

I’m an elite powerlifter , I’m nationally ranked and I’ve been doing this for 4 years now.

As long as you continue eating healthy, exercising the right way, and don’t take hardcore supplements you should be good to go.

I’m pretty toned from some angles but still very feminine looking.

The right kind of man won’t be intimidated by your lifting and muscles. Unless you’re taking steroids, then maybe. I’ve found lifting also makes you curvier, in all of the right places! I think most men admire a woman in the gym , and if he’s seriously intimidated by a small, strong woman, then he’s beta lol.

WildTenderness · 2019-12-16T14:58:01+00:00

There's definitely a threshold. In the end though, you're not going to appeal to everyone. Going to the gym and paying attention to what you eat is healthy and attractive on its own, and like the others said, unless you're using some unnatural methods, it's virtually impossible to look masculine with bodybuilding.

I personally try to do leg days more often than upper body, and on upper body days I do cardio to reduce any gains I might make. And actually, since I've been on exam break, I've been going the gym a ton more and I've felt more feminine and attractive these past few days than I normally do! My suggestion is to focus on how you feel, recognize your goals and work towards them appropriately, I promise you there will still be tons of men out there that find you attractive and sexy!

CMOAN_MAYNE · 2019-12-16T21:54:46+00:00

Strong legs will never be a problem on women

Whisper · 2019-12-16T22:48:38+00:00

Oh, goodness, don't lift weights! You wouldn't want to turn into this ugly troll! Or this hideous man-beast! Or whatever this is.

Its_scottyhall · 2019-12-16T17:47:58+00:00

Unless you use male hormones (steroids) you will not lose femininity. Period. There is no debate what so ever.

Title	Thoughts on weightlifting and maintaining femininity
Author	ya-moms-ya-uncle
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Date	December 16, 2019 11:23 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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