A very common female fantasy is to have sex with a man who is dominant in bed (hairpulling, spanking, choking) what is the equivalent male fantasy?

jkonrad · 2020-01-18T09:19:19+00:00

This answer is so obvious that I fear I have mistaken the question, since you have essentially answered it yourself.

A common male fantasy is to be the man who is dominant, with multiple women, at once, whenever and however he pleases. To own a room of young hot willing women and everyone goes to town. To satiate his every carnal need. And I'm being literal, here. How many guys would put "Have a threesome" at or near the top of their sexual "To Do" list? A majority, I'd reckon. And of those who enjoyed it, how long on average did it take them to wonder, what would 5 be like? Or 8, but staggered so I can rest and pace myself. It doesn't get said very often, but fucking is hard work. Putting two girls to sleep back-to-back is unlikely if you're only in average shape. Then we have to consider clothing, with an eye towards accessibility. If I want her to be able to sit on my cock at any moment, how is that tailored?

I edited this and rambled a bit on purpose to demonstrate my point: This is how the male mind works. What I'm describing is sexual fulfillment to a level never seen. Some women will read that and try to insert some negative ass bullshit in there that I never said or implied or even think and if that's you then bugger off, examine your premises, because in my version everyone is having a great fucking time. Why can't everyone be having a good time in your mind? Food for thought.

This is the ultimate male fantasy: to be able to live a normal productive life, carving our way through the world, while also meeting a decent percentage of our sexual desires, with an assortment of great women--although one-ish good one will often do just fine. However far a man may be from that goal, he certainly isn't going to get there being timid, passive or feminine.

Serious men don’t have fantasies, they have goals.

Does that answer your question?

When I was a young lad... a fanciful daydream was to have mind control powers in that and other scenarios. Not to rape (or "coerce" lol) but just have my way with enthusiast participants.

It's a good fantasy. Highly recommended. The first one, not the mind control one.

SeasonedRP · 2020-01-18T10:01:45+00:00

Threesome with two attractive women.

LexaBinsr · 2020-01-18T10:18:31+00:00

I'm speaking personally, for myself. A submissive girl that treats me like a king, not because it is a requirement but because I've earned it. Also doing stuff that a lot of men don't get (dick sucking, worshipping, anal, filthy rough sex). Visually speaking, my fantasy are slim thick, basic cutesy and/or goth girls with chokers who act like whores and let me destroy them in bed. Then they get aftercare later and tell me how much they loved it.

Although I think a lot of men are submissive and lazy, apparently. So, I would say that (for most men) their fantasy is to let their woman take charge and be the Top essentially while they get to be lazy and get their dicks slobbed. Most guys are submissive and weak, Dominant Alphas are few and rare. It makes sense logically.

goneaway2thewind · 2020-01-18T09:47:30+00:00

Don't women here often make the point that hardcore kink isn't common? And that guys only like it because they are porn addicted? Weird

Anyways, guys are simple, all we need is enthusiasm and we're good.

joesmithasdf · 2020-01-18T09:15:14+00:00

Is male submission really that common? I lean dominant, nothing crazy, just some spanking, name calling. It can dig deeper but most women prefer it at that level.

king_of_red_alphas · 2020-01-18T09:15:36+00:00

I don’t believe there is an equivalent.

I would theorize that the rise in popularity of these kind of domination / degradation fetishes in women is precisely because they are expected to be “strong, confident respected women” in public and in the professional world, while they often still have a fundamental desire to submit, be infantilized, treated as a sex object and sometimes even be degraded on a sexual level.

Obviously there are degrees and it’s in the confines of absolute comfort and safety.

But, the more they have to go against this part or their nature in the public world, the more crazy shit they are going to want to get up to in private.

SomeTurdInTheWind · 2020-01-18T09:18:15+00:00

There are many more men into dominant women than people think. But there are very few women who want to take the lead in bed, it's generally expected that the man does and the woman receives. You know, the man performs and the woman judges. The man fucks, the woman gets fucked.

So the problem isn't that men don't like being dominated, it's that most women don't like dominating men. They would rather be the one "put into submission".

WIA20XX · 2020-01-18T11:10:28+00:00

MFFFFFFF+.

chomponthebit · 2020-01-18T12:00:29+00:00

A common male fantasy is dating a pretty woman with low n-count who is submissive, honest, and chaste, and who values a man for his personality, honesty, and integrity. She has a sense of right and wrong, a sense of honour, and a sense of duty. Makes decisions out of conscious necessity instead of base desire. Would die for his survival, as he would die for her’s. Muh, fantasy

Johnnycage456 · 2020-01-18T14:54:07+00:00

I'm a man and I'm way, way more into sexually aggressive women. Maybe dominant is too strong a word, but it's a massive turnon when women will lead and take what they want.

Nothing is more dreadfully boring to me than women who are super submissive and just want me to be dominant. Sadly, that seems to be the most common dynamic by a long shot.

Ironically, a lot of what I find attractive in women are traits that stereotypically women seek in men. Confidence is huge, I love when women are hot and know it. Not to an obnoxious degree of course, but when they know they have that seductive power..... oof.

DConstructed · 2020-01-18T16:21:30+00:00

There are plenty of male submissives out there who want a dominant woman.

acron5n5 · 2020-01-18T09:16:10+00:00

Being the male part of that fantasy. It is less prevalent though I guess, but still the most common thing.

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TheJim66 · 2020-01-18T10:33:38+00:00

It's doing these dominant things.Men like rough sex.

Notsonewguy7 · 2020-01-18T10:34:23+00:00

I don't think a equivalent exists along those lines. Some guys like to be dominated as well but even that is a kink thing not super common.

Most men don't like the idea of being powerless sexually or otherwise.

cuckspace · 2020-01-18T11:17:26+00:00

I used to fantasize about being the dominant one, giving all that to a submissive woman. But after more experience and learning how modern western women compartmentalize this kind of sexuality strictly to the bedroom, while they become more and more dominant and masculine in their everyday life, it's not that exciting anymore. It's also not a conquest anymore when you know that's what most women like by default anyway. By compartmentalizing like this they get to have their cake and eat it too, and I don't want to be their dancing monkey and enabler of their twisted double standards.

So, long story short, an example of my fantasy now is to be dominated by a voluptuous woman who pins me down and rides my face hard. Needless to say it's hard to find IRL so I guess I'm voluntarily celibate for now.

PapaPinyun · 2020-01-18T13:38:06+00:00

It's obviously multiple hot women. It's in every single drama that depicts a dominant and victorious male. The Wire has 2 consecutive episodes in season 3 that end with it, in each case the tough guy is coming home and that is his reward.

ohheyhi99 · 2020-01-18T13:47:14+00:00

A well-adjusted woman who wants to be a “freak” for him because she’s so attracted to him and satisfied by him.

I can already hear FDS regulars swooping in to say that this is actually just pure selfishness disguised as selflessness, but it isn’t for every man. Also, depending on his preferences, he might be the one dominating, being dominated, or both.

hammerhaunts · 2020-01-18T14:42:42+00:00

Playing video games at home

reluctantly_red · 2020-01-18T15:40:46+00:00

A woman who wants to be taken by you. She need not be submissive. Indeed it's probably better if she's not submissive. What's important is that she wants you and wants you now!

Notice how the make him wait three months strategy is totally inopposit.

barbodelli · 2020-01-18T16:43:54+00:00

I dunno maybe I'm gay or something but the whole threesome thing never particularly appealed to me (referring to the other posts in this thread)

Honestly my fantasy is a woman who enjoys fucking ME as much as I enjoy fucking HER. Has a strong emotional bond to me the same way I do. So basically making love with the purest definition of the word. Not just fucking.

Finding some attractive chick to bust a nutt on. I mean it's not easy but its a lot easier then finding someone who enjoys it as much as you do.

wtknight · 2020-01-18T17:25:28+00:00

The threesome is the male equivalent because it’s the sexual extension of polygamy just as the dominant man is the sexual extension of hypergamy.

dicklord_airplane · 2020-01-18T17:32:13+00:00

I think the most common male fantasy is to have sex with a variety of women who are very enthusiastic about having sex with them. Not submission or power over women, but being desired by a variety of women. Absolutely degenerate, i know.

skunkbear444 · 2020-01-18T19:03:51+00:00

Get home. Girl smiling in the living room with a sandwich made, drink on the table, and a joint sparked. Good music playing. You sit down, she kisses your cheek. You put the sandwich in your mouth and she puts her in hand in your pants, biting her lip, with the joy of a child opening their first present Christmas morning at 5AM.

isweartoofuckingmuch · 2020-01-18T19:15:12+00:00

Not act like I’m asking them to drink battery acid when asking her to swallow

GreenSatyr · 2020-01-18T23:26:21+00:00

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-wide-wide-world-psychology/201502/the-surprising-psychology-bdsm

Christian Joyal and colleagues (2015) asked over 1,500 women and men about their sexual fantasies. 64.6 percent of women and 53.3 percent of men reported fantasies about being dominated sexually—and 46.7 percent of women and 59.6 percent of men reported fantasies about dominating someone sexually. Overall, we can probably conclude that a substantial minority of women and men do fantasize about or engage in BDSM.

It would appear that both men and women like both dominating and submitting, but to slightly different degrees.

JaJammerJan · 2020-01-19T00:29:34+00:00

There is no equal to this female fantasy that can realistically be obtained by a majority of men, therefore will never be 'common'.

The moment you bring any type of fetish into the bedroom as a man is the moment your sexual relationship comes to an end. Meanwhile hairpulling, spanking and choking is often already expected from you even if it's just a one night stand lmao.

k1985g · 2020-02-19T21:40:51+00:00

I fantasize about both sexually spanking a woman and also getting a spanking from her--as well getting a mild bare back whipping.

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Title	A very common female fantasy is to have sex with a man who is dominant in bed (hairpulling, spanking, choking) what is the equivalent male fantasy?
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