Summary: We have heard it time and time again how women would rather share a high value man than having a low value man for themselves. I wasn't doubting the theory but today I saw it first hand and it was a true eye opener. So much that it showed me my status on the pecking order.

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This is my first post on the main TRP so I hope this actually brings something new to the table, and I apologize if anything is wrong so feel free to correct me. Onto the story, which I will try to keep short.

I met a HB7 about 4 months ago. It was at a family party (obviously she isn't related to me) and we sat down and had a few drinks and had a good conversation. After a while of talking I decided the party was getting kinda lame and wanted to go to another party my friends had invited me to. Seeing how we were having good chemistry I decided to invite her to come along with me and she eagerly agreed to come with me. Once we got to the party we met with some of my friends, and in the group was a special friend of mine, let's call him Chad Thundercock.

At the party nothing major happened, we just hung out with my friends and made casual conversation. Chad was pretty obviously the AMOG and would dictate where the conversation was going and what we were doing (either playing beer pong, inside dancing, outside smoking, etc...). Once the party was over I drove HB7 home and got her number. We made plans to hang out again the following weekend and have some drinks, no KClose. I didn't really mind, at the time I had just broken up with my ex and wanted the company of a new girl and I figured maybe that could lead to something.

Next week rolls around and we're making plans during the week and all that... and she asks me if Chad is coming with us to have drinks. I say that maybe he'll meet us there but it's not for sure because he has a date with another girl. She said ok, and when the weekend came around we went to the bar and had some drinks. I'm at the bar dropping mad cash buying us drinks and making conversation. She doesn't seem that into me and it just vibing to the music. I try to pull her to dance with me and she kinda gently pulls away and keep dancing by herself.

Couple of hours later, Chad shows up (I had told him I was going there with her, and he can meet us there if he wants). It doesn't take long before they start dancing and making out. Mind you, Chad knew I was interested in this girl but it didn't stop him from taking her right in front of me. I consider Chad a friend and I didn't mind much he took the piece of ass I wanted, it wasn't mine anyways. At this point, I would say 50% of guys would like a friend like Chad to server as a buffer for girls they are interested in, and the other 50% would stop talking to him for being a douchebag. I took the keeping him as buffer.

Anyways, story does not end there... I'll try to make it fast since it's getting long.

I decide to keep HB7 as strictly friends, since its nice to have a girl to go out drinking with, it makes you look less creepy to other girls and sometimes she can even pull some for me. We start hanging out once in a while and going to the bar and getting drinks. I keep buying her drinks but not as often, she still doesn't even gift me a dance (still in BB mode). After a while of us hanging out, I ask her why Chad isn't joining us anymore to have drinks. She says they hung out once but then he started ignoring her. I know why, Chad has many other plates. She asks me if Chad is seeing other girls, I say "well you guys aren't exclusive... he is dating other girls..." and she goes on and on about how much of a turn off that is and how he lost points in her eyes (very beta of me to put my friend out there but whatever, at that point I kinda considered her a friend too).

So turns out we go to a friends ghetty, and Chad is there. I expect her to be distant from Chad having this newfound knowledge that he is seeing other girls. Couple of hours into the ghetty and they are grinding and making out. Later on he leaves with her and I guess we all know how that ends.

All this brought me to a realization. I am a BB provider. I say this because I just started seeing this new girl... another HB7. She actually seems to be into me and asks to see me often, but all I do is keep buying shit for her (dinners, drinks, going out, concerts) and we still have not had sex, while my buddy Chad has literally dropped $0 on these other girls and he's getting all the sex. This new girl has even told me how much she loves sex, but whenever I try to initiate she tells me not until marriage, even though she isn't a virgin, because she is now very religious.

Lessons learned:

  • Women will literally rather share and alpha than exclusively date a beta.
  • You cannot buy attraction.
  • You cannot negotiate attraction.
  • You shouldn't buy drinks for girls.
  • You should have a buddy that's more alpha than you to buffer your LTR prospects.
  • Don't get married
  • Don't be a provider.
  • Don't be like me.
  • Don't wait until marriage for sex.
  • Do have some platonic girl friends, they can come in handy once in a while.