Woman over 30, single and can't find good men? Aww

mojo_juju · 2016-09-12T21:44:32+00:00

Must just be her.. I became recently single again in my mid thirties..

I put forth NO effort!!

Last three dates I took them to dollar well drink night, spent maybe $10 total (yea, I'll buy a girl drinks if they are a buck). Laid on the first date all three times.

Like shooting fish in a barrel. Sure they are a little older, but fuck it!

Man_Jose · 2016-09-12T21:13:02+00:00

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askmrcia · 2016-09-12T22:47:19+00:00

Soo this past weekend my female friend (she's a lesbian) held this party. Mostly single women all in their early 30s appear. These women all play in rec league sports so that's how most of them know each other and that's how I know the lesbian.

Anyways we start drinking and this one woman constantly jokes about how she sucked in volleyball in high school. Then she started joking about how she's old and fat. Now she's making jokes about it but everyone could see right through it. I observed the other woman and just reading their faces they looked guilty of what she was saying too.

Then this woman started joking about how she doesn't have no real friends because all her friends got married and they never invite her out.

She says all she does is she hang with her parents in her free time. I'm like "damn that sounds depressing."

So I get up to use the bathroom and she looks at me and say "oh you don't want to listen to me because I'm boring right?" I'm thinking, talk about insecurity ".

Fast forward this girl leaves around midnight. Now all the other women start talking. Saying things like the girl made them all feel bad because some of those women were older (33-35). They were saying things like" does she realized she made me feel bad. I'm two years older than her and I'm not married or anything. They start talking about how all the guys they date were assholes and blah blah blah.

The best part was one girl told me she had a friend that got kicked off some dating site because they thought her pictures were fake because how Good looking she was. And believe me she was very good looking (no exaggeration). I said "why is someone so pretty on a dating site?"

She responds "because all the guys around her is assholes. She can't find a good guy."

I just say "oh yea that's too bad."

Anyways I can keep going, but the point was all these thirty year old women were pretty miserable that they didn't have a man or family. It was obvious and kind of depressing. I almost wanted to feel bad for them because they all came across as nice fun girls. The wall is no joke and the older I get the more I see it in full affect.

highenergysanders · 2016-09-13T04:25:30+00:00

It's like a cruel social experiment. You spend your entire adult life and everyone laughs at your unfunny jokes, tells you your boring stories are super interesting, and just generally tells you how amazing you are. Guys will spend hours upon hours, and 100s or even thousands of dollars for the slight chance that you will show them a little affection back.

Then one day the rug gets pulled out from under you. People will start to find you unfunny, find you less interesting, and stop praising you for existing. People don't make an effort to please you anymore.

There is no way to ever go back to that happy and fun place. You cultivated no skills or personality. You literally are incapable of understanding why a guy would not just randomly buy you flowers on a first date.

It's quite sad and depressing to be honest. I mean how is someone supposed to turn out if they are treated like that from age 15-29?

__ROOSTER__ · 2016-09-12T21:20:42+00:00

I'd plate them.

TRP has me scared out of my mind for my last LTR though. Kind of fucked up to tell a 24 year old she better lock up a man quick if she wants her fantasy life to come true. But it might be the only way.

I'm going to enjoy the ride, myself. I have no problem telling a 30+ woman exactly what my financial situation is. That should make them just fine with being a plate.

I wouldn't fuck up my lifestyle for a woman anyway. Never again, anyway.

deskgrunt88 · 2016-09-12T21:02:07+00:00

30 year old desperate women are pretty good for a quick pumpndump though.

Invalidity · 2016-09-12T23:49:44+00:00

The only reason why marriage worked in the past is because women had limited options. If a woman didn't get married in the past, she'd end up as a spinster with few, if any, resources available to her.

Modern society throws all these resources and more towards women, and the end result is that you have a significant amount of single women and single men, and a significantly higher divorce rate within the past decade (it is decreasing now because there are fewer marriages overall).

Most women were pleased to be able to become independent and work for their own money instead of having to rely on a beta provider. They believed that having those resources would enabled them to find more attractive partners. The reality ended up being that they have sex with more attractive partners, but none of whom would commit. And for the men who were significantly wealthier, those men would not settle for domineering women.

Logically speaking, if a man was making a significant amount of money, he'd want a younger, hotter partner. And he could simply pay for it. Why would those guys want to commit to domineering women? Society is trying to push the notion that women who are high-achieving or successful career-wise are attractive, but they are not.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-13T00:11:38+00:00

Woman over 30, single and can't find good men?

This is a problem for women who spent their 20s being Too Cool For the Universe. Then they reach the great 29/31 dividing line where their declining SMV meets their elevated expectations and -- WHAM! -- suddenly, "THERE ARE NO GOOD MEN LEFT!!"

Because no matter what is a "must have" on a woman's 4,735 point checklist, in the World of Men, what MEN want matters, and that's not going to be a ~~Strong, Independent~~ LOUD and OPINIONATED post-Wall skank.

Oh. Did I say that out loud? /grin

victor_knight · 2016-09-13T00:46:10+00:00

Society always tells men to settle for whatever they can get. For example, don't fault her beauty, don't fault her weight, don't fault her lack of education and other "superficial" things. For she will "automatically" make for a "good mother" by virtue of failing in all those other areas.

Women, on the other hand, are always told by society they can do better and should look for better. If he's poor, dump him. If he's not fit, dump him. If his looks don't please her, dump him. If he's not funny, dump him. If he's not a big spender, dump him. If he refuses to change diapers, dump him. If he doesn't do the dishes, dump him. Well, ladies... there aren't many guys left after all that.

Stythe · 2016-09-12T21:28:58+00:00

It's funny to see the transition occure unnoticed by women.

I was plating the roommate of a friend and the friend has gotten pretty chubby since we first met. At one point my friend was going out to the club and came into the room to ask the roomy if her dress looked good. It was just a black dress that didn't hide her chubby figure but let half her ass hang out. After some jokes she decided to change when the roomy said "she still thinks she's thin." I had a laugh but it made me kind of sad.

mill58 · 2016-09-12T21:46:56+00:00

What about the near 30 women? in the company that I work there is this hot woman that is probably around 25-27 years old and she have rejected every single guy that asked her out.

After being co workers for like 7-8 years she has never be in a relationship and only one time shown interest on another co worker but they guy had a girlfriend at that time.

People "know" that she is not lesbian but she is not in a relationship and by now people at the office just think that she is just too picky and that she is waiting for the perfect millionaire 10/10 prince.

She is the most strange case that I have ever see for a woman that is not 30 years old yet (Sorry about the bad English).

jewishsupremacist88 · 2016-09-13T03:14:04+00:00

this is why online dating sites are going to implode soon. they are the modern day ponzi schemes in the sense that they need to keep a fresh batch of desperate mingers activated to message these solispistic females to stroke their egos.

backpage is a way better dating site than tinder, pof, etc.

writemeoffgiveuponme · 2016-09-13T01:38:00+00:00

23 here. Pumped and dumped a cute ass 34 year old on the first date just the other day. It was awesome. No effort, no money. Just easy poon.

2016-09-13T12:59:54+00:00

Almost every post-wall or fastly approaching woman who is single that I know has the EXACT same problem: they're overweight and can't come to terms with it. On a different forum a few years back some meathead made a point that has stuck with me for years, despite how simple. "All a woman has to do to avoid being single is not be fat and not be lame - and it's incredible how many of them can't pull it off."

pcadrian · 2016-09-14T18:56:08+00:00

There is a great quote in The Rational Male: Women get the men they deserve.

Imapancakenom · 2016-09-13T03:34:42+00:00

Sometimes I browse the plenty of fish website, looking at the profiles of women in my area (Southern California), and it's actually pretty sad. I truly feel sorry for a lot of these women.... they are just so heartbreakingly clueless.

Tons of women actually look really pretty in their pictures, they definitely catch your attention, and their age is whatever.

Marital status: Divorced
Has kids: Yes
Intent: Looking for someone to marry

The "about me" section where they're supposed to describe themselves often says "Just ask" or they just write "....." or "I'll fill this out later." But even more often, they write a bunch of stuff in the "about me" part that isn't about them at all. It's a list of characteristics that a man must have or not have in order to be good enough for this woman to date.

Looking for a tall athletic guy
Looking to meet someone who is ready for a relationship
Looking for someone who is family oriented
Please do not message me if you are only looking for hookups
Please do not message me if you are under 6 feet tall

And so on. I wish I could give them helpful advice, like "you're really not going to get what you want that way," but I know they wouldn't take it.

TryDoingSomethingNew · 2016-09-13T15:59:06+00:00

Interesting coincidence. I've written a few articles over at Return of Kings, and this very subject was on my mind to write about.

Theme: Single women over 28 or so who are alone for much time deserve to be alone. No sympathy.

(Underlying rationale: if they're alone at that age and can't appear to get or keep a man, it's because they choose that life: their poor choices, behaviors, and mental/personality issues are their own fault).

Women have far too many opportunities to find, and keep, worthwhile (imperfect, but good) men and choose to not work on themselves and address the fundamental causes of their failures and loneliness. They deserve NO sympathy when that is the case.

Personal experience from dating women in those age brackets has taught me that when a woman is alone for long at that age, or goes through many men, there's a reason why.

2016-09-12T23:14:47+00:00

If you're fit, it is really easy to land a 30 yo for a one night stand. Do it OP, I recommend it

YouDislikeMyOpinion · 2016-09-13T00:49:10+00:00

I was just talking to my plate about this today. She is 25, cute, pretty, seems like a good girl but she doesn't want kids for "at least 5 more years."

It's sad. I would love to have kids but I have never had a good enough relationship where that was a possibility. All the while I am getting older. I don't want to be an old dad.

On the plus side I am getting more sex than I used to, but it seems the old days of raising kids and being good parents is a pipe dream.

Easih · 2016-09-13T10:53:41+00:00

I've dated a few mid 30s doctors/dentists, never married with no kids. They want to start a family but they still expect to get Chad. They are "looking for Mr. Right."

Due to hypergamy successful 30s women with prestigious jobs have very few options, especially if the girl herself is tall. Do you think a 35 year old surgeon who is 6'2" wants a 33 year old optometrist when 26 year olds are throwing themselves at him?

5pecial · 2016-09-13T19:07:54+00:00

One of my favorite things to do is to match with 30-35 year olds on bumble and ignore their messages. Finally having some revenge after having so many of my messages ignored over the years.

Repsych · 2016-09-13T02:52:00+00:00

As long as no one marries any of these chicks. Valuable lives can be saved.

SiggiZeBear · 2016-09-13T09:01:50+00:00

My guesses is that she shot herself in the leg with that carrer. Women want men that are better than her. But it seems that she is so successful that the man would have to be really fucking successful. And what do really successful men want? Really hot beautiful women. And i bet she is not it.

2016-09-13T09:18:32+00:00

Yup. Not only is the 30+ crowd not nearly as hot, but they have higher expectations and are more jaded. I made a few honest attempts at dating girls in their 30s, and I ended up working harder for less.

I will date 20-year olds for as long as possible. Hotter, more bubbly / care-free personalities. It's the best of everything.

soviet_dissident · 2016-09-13T18:41:29+00:00

20-25:

"The younger a woman is, the younger her eggs are, which means they are less prone to chromosomal mistakes," says Richard J. Paulson, M.D., director of the University of Southern California Fertility Program in Los Angeles. As a result, your baby's risk of any chromosomal abnormality (1 in 500) or of Down syndrome specifically (1 in 1,250) is relatively low. Because your eggs are so "fresh," the miscarriage rate—12 percent in the first trimester—is the lowest it will be from this point forward (the average for all ages is up to 25 percent)."

26-34

"Miscarriage rates rise to 12 percent to 15 percent. Down syndrome risk remains low until age 30, when it is 1 in 1,000 and 1 in 400 for any chromosomal abnormality; by 35, the risk rises to 1 in 400 and 1 in 200, respectively. Children born to mothers who were 30 or older at first delivery are more likely to score higher in high school testing, a likely effect of advanced parental education and resources, says Elizabeth Gregory, Ph.D., director of the Women's, Gender & Sexuality Studies program at the University of Houston."

35-40

"One in 5 women in this age group will have trouble conceiving, with fertility nosediving at 38. Still, more children are now born to women 35 and older than to teenagers, according to a 2010 Pew Research Center survey. In fact, 1 in 7 U.S. births is now to women 35 and older (in 1970, it was just 1 in 100)."
"One in 4 pregnancies among women in this age group will end in miscarriage, and the risk of chromosomal abnormalities goes up exponentially: At 38, the risk of any chromosomal abnormality is 1 in 100. While you can't prevent such abnormalities (aside from using donor eggs), accurate prenatal screening and diagnostic tests do exist. Women age 35 and older are more likely to conceive twins, regardless of whether they use fertility treatments, because hormonal changes increase the likelihood of multiple egg release during ovulation."

I love the interspersed nonsense in the article. Because facts are mean! e.g.,:

"Susan Lusty, 46, of Seattle, is happy she waited until age 38 to become a mom. "I had a life full of travel and adventure before having kids," she says. "I would have felt like I was missing out on the world if I had been saddled with a child in my 20s or early 30s." Gregory says this was a common sentiment among the 113 35-plus-year-old women she interviewed for her book Ready: Why Women Are Embracing the New Later Motherhood (Basic Books): "You have a sense of having seen the world and grown through your responses, so when you're ready to start a family, you bring more resources. You know yourself better.""
"But knowing yourself better means knowing what you like, and Gregory says older women may struggle with adapting to a new lifestyle, one that may require you to skip the yoga class you've faithfully attended twice a week for the past decade. Combat any resentment by recasting your new schedule in a positive light: Soon you'll be able to teach your 3-year-old how to Downward Dog."

She managed to conceive later than nature intended ~~thanks to the miracle of modern medicine (created by men)~~; I wish they quoted the mothers who could produce nothing but miscarriages. They're probably happy they waited too. At least they'll have plenty of time for downward dog in spinsterhood.

2016-09-13T11:14:24+00:00

Ive met a few women in their late 30s recently.

One is quite nice but the desperation gleams through almost. She got cheated on in her last LTR so I think she is a bit messed up.

Another I met for a coffee a few weeks back, she basically ignores me since then saying she is busy with work. She texted me last night to say "dont forget about me, Im just busy". A few texts later she is saying she wants to be my girfriend. A few more after that and she says she is looking to get married and have kids soon. She can't even be bothered pretending there'll be any fun in it.

Guess which one is hotter? lol

TrumpSEXYMAN · 2016-09-12T21:02:45+00:00

A 33 year old woman who makes "tons of money" doesn't have roommates.

And what kind of grown man has women roommates?

vegamenian · 2016-09-13T06:12:33+00:00

Ugliness is inherited you don't choose to be unattractive (in most cases).

Im sure there are women who don't really have much power in their sexual lives because they are unattractive.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-09-13T15:02:39+00:00

Single women are like men who aren't fucking. Sluts and beta's. They deal in the same ways. Both sluts and beta's rationale away their low value. They have incredible high standards whilst having low standards for themselves. They are generally lazy all over the board.

If TRP was for women it would look like this. Don't be a slut, don't give your sex away easily, only fuck in return for real commitment and friendzone (a.k.a. plates) allot of dudes if you can.

dotte11 · 2016-09-12T21:08:27+00:00

People have plataonic female roommates? Is that normal now?

2016-09-13T04:38:26+00:00

Women in their 20s are more pickier than men because they haven't hit their wall and it is easier to have sex with a hotter guy. The problem however is that when they are ready to settle down the hotter men won't settle for them because:

They are not good enough for a long term relationship
They have had too many sexual partners - men prefer women who haven't had many partners
They never had to develop a real personality

So what you have left are 30 year old women freaking out because their ovaries are going to expire in 3 years.

YouDislikeMyOpinion · 2016-09-12T21:37:31+00:00

Translation: She rode the CC, found a great guy but then made a mistake. She chose her career over their life together. She CHOSE it

No, that is a lie. Women are just holding out for Mr Perfect.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3778407/The-REAL-reason-women-freezing-eggs-Women-waiting-perfect-father.html

nicoleo2016 · 2016-09-13T13:34:50+00:00

Contrary to popular believes, not every woman has game, and girl game is what a woman need to lock down a man for marriage, even blue pill men. These girls don't have game.

I can speak from experience that there will be no shortage of very decent men that would want to marry you if you made them feel the way they needed to feel. A woman doesn't have to be young and hot, a woman can be a fat post wall single mother and it wouldn't matter. You'd be surprised how much men will overlook that stuff if they feel like they are in love with you.

2016-09-13T10:13:18+00:00

Lol this is nothing new man. I'm more concerned about the woman part you wrote get this... they don't give a shit. That's how I know you're still blue pillled.

Dopeska · 2016-09-13T12:02:43+00:00

Genderrrrrr ratioooooo yoooo

2016-09-15T03:57:19+00:00

I've never seen the website for Fetlife literally ever (not using literally sarcastically either). My Co worker has told.me its.an excellent tool whenever I've asked him about it. Would you recommend as well?

2016-09-13T21:03:23+00:00

Sorry. I thought women are single in their 30s not because of their choices but because of THE WALL? Not every girl in their 30s rode the CC into oblivion. I'm dating a girl who is 31 and she's only slept with about 5 guys. (ib4 SHES LYING BRO!)

hatefulreason · 2016-09-14T06:40:06+00:00

you guys got me all pumped up. i'm gonna fly to the U.K. in a couple of weeks and im confident im gonna make a killing ^{_^} (also i've noticed when i speak a foreign language i have different game o.O)

quicklogaccount · 2016-09-13T12:32:46+00:00

Man, you're showing a fair example of how bluepill screws CC riders and women who chose to live as men.
I suppose there are a myriad of women not unlike your example that will lock a beta. Maybe some might grow into enough self awareness to make a functional relationship for him too. Who knows. Just because we don't see them around, it doesn't mean they don't exist.

I (quite recently) dumped a feminine and committed woman (that held a thousand hard to solve issues) because I've wasted all the energy I could sticking up with being disappointed with issues bp brought me and eventually had no energy left to actually help her out of her crap. It's a pretty mess.
BP fucks women, women fucks guys, they blow up together;
BP fucks guys, guys fuck women, and they blow up together;

BP relationships only work with AT LEAST one of the sides (most often the male but you'll see females like that) being insanely unfulfilled, living on anti depressants.
It doesn't matter whether she's a CC rider or straight out of the church in a conservative household, it doesn't matter if he's a trademarked nice guy or some playboy. It doesn't matter the variations in between, it doesn't matter if you care to point out stereotypes more extreme than these. A BP relationship won't fucking be fulfilling, period. The expectations are wrong. It might thrive between heavily disappointment resilient people.

Title	Woman over 30, single and can't find good men? Aww
Author	Man_Jose
Upvotes	292
Comments	234
Date	September 12, 2016 8:11 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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