Do you agree with ending a potential or current relationship as soon as the other person does or says something that you don't agree with?

XtoDoubt · 2020-04-13T22:41:14+00:00

no, she probably just wasn't that interested to begin with

superlurkage · 2020-04-13T23:17:37+00:00

You’re being very vague here, which makes me suspicious. Did you throw some red pill lingo at her?

Are you using us to try and argue with her that her feelings are unreasonable and incorrect?

jigglypuff__0 · 2020-04-13T22:31:18+00:00

Women stick around for men they think are worth it. The more attracted they are to you (not always based in only looks) the more they’ll put up with.

If you’re dating a girl you’re meh about but are seeing her because nothing’s gone wrong and you’re having a decent time with her, you’re also more likely to leave if she insulted you in some way. It’s easier to be like “nahh this yellow flag aint worth it” and bounce.

If you’re not offering her major attraction, security or an intense emotional connection, you’re replaceable. But don’t fret, everyone is replaceable. Men just operate in dating from the scarcity mindset and understandably so. But that’s why you don’t understand women can set their boundaries and stick to them.

If you had a ton of women clawing at you for attention, or you simply stopped giving a fuck all together you’d definitely start thinking “I don’t have to put up with this” a lot more.

SplushkaMcOwlFace · 2020-04-13T22:42:58+00:00

Nah...to say something silly or inappropriate is not a big crime. We are all doing it from time to time, but it's important to communicate about the issue. Although if it' an against the basic life values of other person then it's an issue.

NarniaFox · 2020-04-14T01:15:15+00:00

There are things that one can say or do once and it would be enough. But they are all the kind that I just can't ignore. Justifying rape, pedophily, misogynistic language and behavior, being abusive, bullying, agressive without a reason etc.

During first dating months more things can be seen as red/yellow flags and it's okay just to end it now and here, if you aren't interested in clarifying them.

GennyX · 2020-04-13T23:05:47+00:00

I agree with ending a relationship for any reason at all.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2020-04-13T22:56:14+00:00

what do you mean "agree" with it. who cares what other women do

goatismycopilot · 2020-04-14T00:13:04+00:00

Depends on what it is the disagreement is about, or what the negative commentary is about. I think when it comes up early on it tends to be a sign of how things will be and I am inclined to just walk and let them find somebody they don't want to make negative commentary about. Personally, I do not have the time or patience to date somebody who has major "fixing" to do. Life is too short you accept people where they are at or you part ways so you can find somebody you view as compatible.

SslimReaperr · 2020-04-14T01:08:58+00:00

Yeah I would happily leave a man if he made a comment that I strong disliked. More specifically, if the comment he made was intentionally disrespectful, hurtful, or all around distasteful.

ontherailstoday · 2020-04-14T00:22:23+00:00

> a woman who was attracted to me until she thought that I had made a negative comment about her appearance

> I had planned a date that she was looking forward to on top of actually making the effort to talk to me.

You negged her right after she'd shown interest... what the fuck do you expect her to do say "Oh yes that's fine... I've shown interest and you're willing to have something with me but now you're immediately pulling me down, obviously you only want this relationship if you can make sure I'm being dragged through the mud and have no self esteem. I obviously like myself too much to be your girl as I am! But who cares pick me any way pick meeeeeeee!"

Of course she took any idea of a future with you and yeeted it into the sun. Any woman with the slightest amount of sense would.

wtknight · 2020-04-13T22:24:40+00:00

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AngelxEyez · 2020-04-13T23:40:36+00:00

Its really depends on what and how it was said. It could easily be something that upsets me but we could discuss, or depending on what it was yea i would dump someone for holding a disturbing point of view

WicGoingAnonymous · 2020-04-14T00:10:14+00:00

It highly depends on what was said. There absolutely are things that someone can say and then it's over.

An example of what would make me call it quits emediatly would be saying something out of which I can subtract that you are against abortion.

Instant we are done.

2020-04-14T01:52:53+00:00

Depends on two things. My investment in said relationship and the seriousness of the offence. I'll generally give someone a few warnings before I drop them, but there are certain behaviors I won't tolerate at all, and I always lay those out clearly in the beginning so there won't be any misunderstandings.

Grub09 · 2020-04-14T03:00:33+00:00

You want people to be with partners they don’t like or respect?

Sounds like a recipe for harmony and happiness!

Illustrious_Drive · 2020-04-14T05:38:32+00:00

My past self would have let things slide if I was uncomfortable or didn’t agree.

My current relationship had a ton of tiny little comments similar to the ones you mentioned that made me uncomfortable in the beginning of the relationship, but I let it slide. Yesterday, my bf came out as a porn addict. No longer will I let little comments like that slide.

In the beginning of a relationship, you should be on your best behavior. If you’re making someone feel uncomfortable off the bat, it could set off alarm bells that would absolutely be worth dumping them for at that point.

mangolover97 · 2020-04-13T22:23:35+00:00

I’m kind of torn on this because it’s a thin line. Ultimately though it would depend on what exactly it was he said or did. Unless it was something absolutely horrible, I’d talk to him about it first and see what his motive or intentions were. This would help me decide if I’m just being petty or if this could be a potential red flag I’m ignoring that will come back to haunt me later on.

Hedy__Lamarr · 2020-04-14T01:48:35+00:00

What's to agree or disagree with? I could say what I would do in that woman's shoes given a specific situation. I could think of a million different scenarios where what really happened was completely justified or where it was silly. If you've already done or said something she doesn't like, this last thing, while it may have seemed slight or a misunderstanding to you, could have been the final straw. There are so many possibilities.

But beyond knowing specifics (which I don't care about), yeah, of course it's fine for them to end a relationship over something done or said that they don't agree with. Why wouldn't it be? No one inherently owes you a second chance.

I can think of a lot of things a man could say or do a single time that would make me end things.

MerryVegetableGarden · 2020-04-14T04:38:37+00:00

I want more details.

1) Tell exactly what you said to the best of your recollection. Do not tell me your intent. Not yet. Just what you said. And in response to what? I’m only interested in what happened at the surface. Type out your response before proceeding to 2. Don’t go back to edit it.

2) What did she say in response? Give us her argument as she laid it out. Do it in such a way that you know that she’d agree that you fairly relayed her thoughts on the matter in a way that is accurate and impartial. After you’re done with 2, proceed to 3. Same rules apply for not editing this answer after you’ve already progressed to and read 3.

3) What exactly were you trying to communicate? What was your tone? Was it offhand or calculated with a desired response in mind? Provide any other relevant contextual details here.

DazzlingMolasses7 · 2020-04-14T07:11:53+00:00

Depends what it said. But generally negging will cause me to drop a man immediately.

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wtknight · 2020-04-13T23:14:02+00:00

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2020-04-13T23:32:37+00:00

It depends on how much we disagree. If it's serious enough and we disagree extensively enough...Say goodnight sweetheart. If it's just the odd thing, nothing major...I'm all good. Disagreements are an intrinsic part of relationships and in part, a reason why people are attracted to eachother. The tension, the differing viewpoints. Providing we can work through our disagreements, who cares?

2020-04-14T00:30:40+00:00

haha bro pls tell me what you said? would really love to know. thanks

poppy_blu · 2020-04-14T00:42:52+00:00

Depends. What did you say to her?

JohannesClimaco · 2020-04-14T02:05:42+00:00

I think I would leave someone if they said something really extremely, like they didn't think the Holocaust happened.

iseeyouxo_ · 2020-04-14T02:34:58+00:00

What did you say?

Kizka · 2020-04-14T04:47:16+00:00

Well that really depends on what the dude is saying, no? My SO constantly says stuff I am not agreeing with but that's normal in a relationship. If he were to seriously say something like "Slavery is actually good and men are inherently more worthy than women" then yeah, that would be a reason to end the relationship.

crookedsummer2019 · 2020-04-13T23:10:38+00:00

Sounds like she may have reacted too much to it but it really depends on what you said?

What did you say exactly that she interpreted as a negative comment towards her appearance?

SILENTSAM69 · 2020-04-14T15:11:03+00:00

No. That is a way to end up lonely. You will never find a person you always agree with.

I doubt there has ever been a relationship that a person agreed with everything their partner did.

MahoganySkye · 2020-04-14T02:24:52+00:00

Come on bro, women 101: watch what they do, not what they say.

If you were the hottest guy she was dating at the moment, you could say how you admire Hitler and genocide ain't so bad and she'd still be hitting you up at 1am for booty calls.

She clearly has a guy she likes better and cut you loose. Doesn't matter the reason she says.

Title	Do you agree with ending a potential or current relationship as soon as the other person does or says something that you don't agree with?
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Date	April 13, 2020 10:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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