My main girl (a cute, fit, orgasm-machine of a woman) was telling me about her “problems” earlier today and a classic shit test popped up on my radar. As I’ve experienced it many times before and read ALL about it here on TRP, it seemed like a good experience to share.
I want to preface this by saying that we have been seeing each other for over a year and have gotten a good bit closer over the past six months so I’m reaching the point where some men may find themselves getting more comfortable with the idea of opening up to their lady friends.
As she starts confessing her issues with the problems she’s currently facing in her life, she paused and thought for a minute.....and told me I should have a drink with her because it makes it easier to talk about our feelings.
LOL. OUR feelings????? That’s funny. I see where this is going.
I laughed and looked at her and asked her how she was doing....as she clearly had something on her mind.....
And like the solid, slightly invested guy that I am, I listened and nodded and answered her requests for advice for 5-10 minutes before I made my move to steer the interaction to something a little more fun.
She proceeded to tell me how her life is so different this year compared to last year and how “she’s having a hard time adjusting right now....blahblahblah...”
“I used to have this friend and these co-workers who I would check in with weekly and for whom I was a confidant... and I miss having that in my life...blahblahblah....”
“I miss having people tell me their problems and being there for somebody.”
Oh really, do ya now?
Anybody see where that drink was supposed to come into play yet? Rookie move lady.
So I decide it’s time to steer things and get back to the good times at hand and I make a joke and ask her to go make me a cup of coffee.
“Ok!” she says as she hops up off the couch.
On her way to the kitchen she looks back at me and asks, “Self-honest, why don’t you ever share your problems with me?”
BOOM. Been waiting for that one for a good 10 minutes at this point. Nice casual buildup by her, but I didn’t take the bait so she had to come straight with it.
My life flashes before my eyes. The real problems I’m facing, intentionally, as a man are ten times as serious and dramatic and REAL as the “problems” she invents for drama in her own life.
If she only knew the risks and consequences and magnitude of the shit on my plate right now....
With a sly look I responded back, “Because I don’t have any problems, babe.”
Now let’s be real. She’s not an idiot. She knows I’m a human being and we all face problems in our lives. I mean...shit...Covid-19 lockdown has me furloughed for the past 4 months, I don’t know when I’ll work again, if I’ll have unemployment money for much longer, when I’ll be able to resume my normal social life, when I’ll be able to go to the gym to fix my shrinking muscle mass....god the list seems endless right now like I’m sure it is for a lot of you guys out there... so on the real, she knows I’m just playing the game when I say I don’t have any problems.
She paused for a second, “........am I a problem for YOU?” she asked very provocatively.
I chuckled and shot her another look, “You????” I laughed. “I don’t have annnyyy problems and somehow YOU are a problem?! my only problem??? You’re funny baby”
She smiled, then she literally ran like a little kid and flopped onto her bed, telling me to come jump and flop next to her.
“Why does flopping into bed never get old?!” she asked as she moved her face close to mine and wrapped her legs around me.
I kissed her.
I’ll spare the rest of the details only to say, the intensity and passion of a woman possessed is unrivaled.
In the past I might have felt that there was a point where opening up was equivalent to moving the relationship forward with a woman or something that signified a certain status we had achieved together.
Had I told her of my concerns and fears for the present and future I promise the outcome would have been VERY different to say the least.
Happy hunting. Your intermingling with women should be about having fun and spreading good vibes. Keep your problems to yourself.
TL;DR Be a fun loving guy who doesn’t need or want a mommy figure in his life or be prepared to get grounded and sent to your room all alone without dinner.