HVM examples in fiction and irl?

LevelTurbulent · 2021-01-11T00:55:19+00:00

Michelle Obama had said flat out she was raising their children by herself and Barack had the attitude of “what’s her problem?! I just want some tenderness!” And then she finally accepted she would do it alone and he’d see her career as inferior to his and then their marriage “improved.” Because she accepted he was a shit father and husband.

I’m tired of him being called HVM. Read his memoirs and hers. He is garbage by both accounts. She just submitted to it and deluded herself that it was fine in classic pick me fashion. They are not goals.

Danigirl_03 · 2021-01-11T00:52:50+00:00

Gomez Adam’s, Danny Tanner, Mr Rogers, Michael Buble, Dwayne Johnson

ALocusInTheBiosphere · 2021-01-11T05:59:06+00:00

This was a surprise for me but after recently binge watching King of the Hill, I would have to say Hank Hill is definitely in the HVM realm like 98% of the time barring a few problematic episodes.

-Hank was raised by a very misogynistic, hypermasculine father that was abusive to him but Hank vows to not treat his wife and children in that manner

-is hard working, honest, dependable, always sticks to his word

-takes the 'being a good neighbor' attitude to heart and is always willing to help someone in need, male or female. Kind and respectful to everyone he meets

-is involved with his local community; takes active interest in his son's education and extracurriculars

-several episodes show him performing domestic duties. His home and work spaces are always neat, clean, and organized and he takes pride in that. He never grumbles or complains about having to clean

financially literate and responsible

-holds himself accountable. If he makes a mistake, owns it and tries to fix the wrong doing

-holds the people around him, including his friends, son, and boss accountable for their actions. Multiple episodes of him calling out his friends if they are in the wrong and not letting his son make excuses for being lazy and skirting responsibility

-always puts his family first and is supportive of them even if they are doing things he doesn't really agree with or has no interest in

-recognizes he has emotional issues stemming from his upbringing and tries to work on them.

-doesnt use his wife (or anyone else) as a personal therapist. He deals with stress and anger by working on his lawn or other home projects. Also has male friends he can talk to and will help him out

-hates pornography and would never watch it willingly. Doesn't objectify women and would never consider cheating on his wife

-in the same line, is a good role model for is naive niece. He's always telling her to think for herself, work hard, stand up for herself, and to not be duped by 'nice guys' who are only after sex. One episode he defends her from sexual harassment

-leads by example. Instills good morals in his son. Everyone looks up to him

Hank isn't absolutely perfect by any means and there were a couple of episodes where he sinks temporarily into LVM territory but he usually realizes he's in the wrong and bounces back. I can say with 100% certainty Hank is the best animated fictional men on TV compared to horrible crapshoots like Peter Griffin and Homer Simpson.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-01-11T03:59:37+00:00

celebs/politicians have publicists and staff curating their image for consumers like a product, and HVM is a type. Im never surprised anymore when you find out a seamingly HVM turns out to get metooed *cough Bill Cosby cough*

papanezismysaviour · 2021-01-11T06:33:38+00:00

Matt Damon is a HVM, if his wife is Ben Affleck.

adultpioneer · 2021-01-11T10:35:50+00:00

Here is my (very short) list:

(fictional) -Aragorn from LoTR -Gomez Adams

(real life) -Nick Offerman

daisy_0720 · 2021-01-11T11:36:15+00:00

Apparently Matt Damon is cheater, he just does it more quietly than other male celebs out there.

SamuelaTheThrifty · 2021-01-11T18:21:54+00:00

George Clooney has too big an age gap with his wife to be a HVM.

Mr. Darcy also not HVM as he initially shunned Elizabeth Bennett and her sister for not being wealthy enough, viewed Jane as a gold digger.

Matt Damon married a woman with much less money and clout than him, no doubt so he could have the upper hand in the relationship.

I’d agree with Keanu Reeves but don’t know who Cameron Hamilton or Khalid Al Ameri are and I don’t know anything about Noam Chomsky’s marriage.

I think Obama has already been summarized but not HVM either.

Maybe Jimmy Carter, he’s been outspoken about the abuse of women and girls.

Hugh Jackman, perhaps? Haven’t heard too much scandal about him.

ChoiceScarfMienfoo · 2021-01-11T06:31:22+00:00

it's pretty interesting to hear everyone's lists but as someone who isn't very familiar with western pop culture, i'd also like to know what they've done to be HV!

smartierthanthou · 2021-01-11T15:44:11+00:00

Chadwick Boseman, Lin Manuel Miranda, Dwayne Johnson, Joe Biden, Nick Offerman, John Mulaney, Stephen Colbert, Hugh Jackman, Pierce Brosnan, Brandon Sanderson, Ronan Farrow, Dan Rather, Anthony Fauci...

I don't think anybody is perfect, but these guys seem to be making the world a better place while having good family lives.

littlepip38042 · 2021-01-11T18:40:40+00:00

Stephen Colbert always makes me smile. He's so sweet to his wife (on-air) at least, an they've been together for so long.

Also, I love Khalid Al Ameri. And a good example of a Muslim couple that isn't vilified or accused of being abusive.

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-01-11T02:12:46+00:00

Bernie Sanders

Warren Buffett

It looks like Colin Kaepernick might be one.

LeBron seems like one.

Michael Jordan (basketball)

Tom Hanks

Jason Mamoa

Maybe I don't know their full stories tho.

fruitpunchsam · 2021-01-11T19:41:35+00:00

If you're down for a Korean show, I think the male lead of "Start-up" (Nam Dosan) displays a lot of high-value qualities. He's still flawed and makes mistakes throughout the story, but I think he reacts to them appropriately and corrects them well. He's also the most supportive male love interest I've ever personally seen. Like, he'd basically do anything the female lead asks of him—and he does sweet things for her/her loved ones without even being asked.

SpecificPatience8 · 2021-01-11T02:40:09+00:00

James McAvoy, Cillian Murphy❤️

Candid_Check_4843 · 2021-01-10T23:44:42+00:00

Not to be too political, but Joe Biden seems like a HVM as well. You can tell that he treats his wife well, values her, and isn't intimidated by her PhD. His family in general also seems to regard him highly. That empathy and sympathizing with others' hardship comes so easily and naturally to him is very high-value. And the fact that he comforted the boy who struggles with stuttering and gave him advice on how to overcome it is so kind and heartwarming.

candyfox84 · 2021-01-11T22:49:05+00:00

I've always liked Alan Alda, lol.

And I'm on way too many blind gossip sites to include George Clooney ;-)

Africanaissues · 2021-01-11T07:36:25+00:00

George Lucas

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