There's a worrying amount of posts where the woman has no idea she deserves respect and bodily autonomy...

IAmGoingToBeBetter · 2020-11-26T11:58:11+00:00

And you know what sucks? She states in the post that she’s already told him she doesn’t like it, but there are still going to be comments telling her to communicate.

MadamLeFay · 2020-11-26T11:58:35+00:00

"How do I get this to stop??"

By leaving him. She's already asked him to stop repeatedly. There is no "magic" sentence that is going to make him suddenly stop. He knows what he's doing and continues to do it.

GrapeJuiceEnthusiast · 2020-11-26T11:53:10+00:00

I didn't know what to name the title so I'll just type out my thoughts here. Everyone is probably fed up of seeing 50 posts about male depravity every day but this one just made me really depressed. I feel like there's several posts like this on the relationship subreddits every day and they're all the same. Woman has a boyfriend/husband. If the post is sexual then the male is either already raping her or is trying to get her to do something she's uncomfortable with. Woman has no self-esteem and is too meek to put her foot down. Most of the time she doesn't even realise it's rape. Instead of asking for help on how to escape an abusive situation she usually asks how to get it to stop without hurting the male's feelings.

It's genuinely worrying how many women just don't realise that they deserve to be safe and happy and comfortable in their bodies? I was taught by my parents that my boundaries and feelings matter above all else so if I was in OP's situation I would have dumped him the first time he tried to put his fingers in. But it seems like there are loads of women out there who just... don't realise that they don't need to put up with aggressive sexual behaviour like this? Why tf are girls being raised this way??? This is extremely concerning. Does she even realise that there are boyfriends out there who don't rape their girlfriends? She probably thinks this is what a normal relationship is like and that she just needs to put up with it somehow. Nowhere in the post does she realise that what is happening to her is RAPE and I'm concerned if she doesn't realise this that she'll never leave him.

I am so sad for this woman and all the other women who have made similar posts and I just hope that they'll realise that they don't deserve what is happening to them and that they don't need to put up with it. They deserve to be happy. They deserve to have enjoyable sex. They deserve not to be humiliated around their acquaintances.

Sorry for how rambly this is but I'm genuinely so fed up of seeing several posts like this a week. There are so many males out there happy to take advantage of their poor girlfriends and so many women out there who just put up with it because they don't think they deserve any better.

Aquamarine_eyes · 2020-11-26T13:29:12+00:00

I have been a long time lurker but just started an account for this post.

I am a school teacher ( Geography) and am aware this is occurring alot with girls and their adolescent boyfriends. When I say "girls" I mean 15-16 yo girls sexually active with their 15-16yo boyfriends.

Another common thing is girls consenting to give blowjobs - and the boys shoving their heads or slapping the side of their faces while they do this act.

I am aware of these behaviours as I hear the girls talking during lunchtime while I am on yard duty. I am often 10-15 feet away but I can hear everything they say. Everything is couched in humour - like 'Lol this is what happened to me!' Girls are always comparing notes it seems - and they are brainwashed to think these things are normal instead of bizarre. I fear for their generation

We are an all girls school might I add.

omfgreuben · 2020-11-26T13:59:02+00:00

The last time a scrote pulled this shit with me, he ended up being savagely beaten by 2 male friends of mine and my uncle who was fresh out of prison.

He never tried that with me ever again 😂

Mella_20 · 2020-11-26T12:40:36+00:00

Literally everything he did just shows he's pornsick. It's porn. It's so frustrating. I don't get how she still calls him her bf after all that.

AwkwardDisaster4150 · 2020-11-26T13:28:59+00:00

She asks how she can get it to stop.. you can get it to stop by dumping him. I remember being like this when I was 19, and it’s painful to think about.

FortisEtLiber_ated · 2020-11-26T14:43:09+00:00

We need to start pressing charges with these scrotes. They’ve become so pornsick and depraved. You should only have to say no ONCE.

2020-11-26T16:36:50+00:00

“Hey r/relationshitadvice mod here, have you tried cOmMuNiCaTiNG you don’t like when your boyfriend regularly rapes you without hurting his feewings?” 🥺

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-11-26T15:04:42+00:00

has someone messaged her a link to this sub?

DallasOMalley · 2020-11-26T17:24:38+00:00

It blows my mind that she's asking how to make him stop sexually assaulting her. This is a side effect of a patriarchal faux-feminist culture; a woman who don't understand it's her right to revoke a man's access to her body, without explanation, when the man repeatedly rapes her.

This is sad. Hopefully she dumps that piece of trash.

slythergin23 · 2020-11-26T12:28:36+00:00

so he keeps trying to rape her, but she still sticks around. oh dear... someone needs to save that girl

No_Energy7768 · 2020-11-26T20:25:15+00:00

Sexual assault is so normalized in relationships

-pop-fizz-clink · 2020-11-26T18:07:01+00:00

How to get this to stop? The police. This is r*pe.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-11-26T17:34:52+00:00

It will stop when she leaves.

gothicctemptress · 2020-11-26T20:38:37+00:00

Rape. Extremely dangerous abusive relationship. Get away quick before he starts noncing up any kids resulting from your union.

Title	There's a worrying amount of posts where the woman has no idea she deserves respect and bodily autonomy...
Author	GrapeJuiceEnthusiast
Upvotes	339
Comments	49
Date	November 26, 2020 11:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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