Listen to Men when They Tell You Who You Are: A Story about a Pickme in the Wild

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-05-25T21:08:56+00:00

I hope she's working on her break up speech cus the scrote could not be anymore clearer on his responsibilities in life.

feeturingmyself · 2021-05-25T20:13:49+00:00

So when exactly does he plan on being a father to his child? For the photos and videos he will share on social media? Or for tax benefits?

basuragoddess · 2021-05-25T22:47:09+00:00

It’s absolutely wild that a 30+ year old man would have that kind of attitude towards his future family, and be so confident in his rightness that he would express this openly to his girlfriend. As if women don’t already make huge sacrifices - our comfort, pre-baby bodies, time, money - to have a child to begin with. I hope she leaves his sorry ass, and he finds deep lifelong fulfillment with his gym time. 🤡

denimlace · 2021-05-25T23:23:24+00:00

Nobody needs to spend 3 hours at the gym to stay fit. Guaranteed he is hogging the squat racks while salivating over teenagers on TikTok. Gross.

splendiddiamonds · 2021-05-25T20:23:09+00:00

Wait. Is the baby here?? or is this some hypothetical baby

TheDameWithoutASmile · 2021-05-26T06:00:17+00:00

I actually saw a post where a guy said that if a new dad isn't gaining a little weight/not as fit, it means that they're not doing enough childcare. It really struck me, because women are expected to lose the baby weight immediately AND do all the childcare, and here was someone saying, "Yeah, until the kid is older, some things are going to slip, and that's normal."

Granted, he was saying dads, but why can't we say the same for moms?

spinsterchachkies · 2021-05-26T01:18:38+00:00

Lol they have day care centers at most gyms for this exact reason.

GabbaG0ul · 2021-05-26T03:18:37+00:00

The worst part is; most gyms offer childcare. He just doesn’t want to put the kids in the car. 🤷🏻‍♀️

carmen_sandiegos_hat · 2021-05-25T20:52:45+00:00

People literally say who they are if you let them talk but for some reason, pickmes think men like him can change. Also, that sub makes me so mad/sad. It's not good for my health.

abby_ch238 · 2021-05-26T01:27:45+00:00

He could have said anything else. Like at the very least if they both were active he could have said “we’d both reduce our gym hours and I’ll take care of OUR child while you’re at the gym and you’ll take care of OUR child while I’m at the gym.” Like the answer was SO SIMPLE really.

lostmillenia · 2021-05-25T23:30:43+00:00

Another answer could have been hiring a babysitter for that time but no... lets extract free labor from mom.

ilovesanddollars · 2021-05-25T20:39:31+00:00

Hold on a minute guys. As a single mom I have learned that if you want to stay sane and not burn out, sometimes you need to be proactive in taking time for yourself and get childcare for a few hours.

Parenting is a 24/7 job. If you don’t get some kind of break, it will break you. And it can break relationships if you’re in a couple and don’t proactively take time to spend on each other.

Having said that, I am not defending this man, because in my experience the ratio of HVM to LVM is such that in all likelihood he is an LVM.

lmc80 · 2021-05-26T09:26:01+00:00

Believing someone will change, or that you can change them is a delusion I harboured for far too long.

haunted_vcr · 2021-05-26T20:39:05+00:00

Translation is he doesn't want any part of being married. The fact that she's asking him resentful questions shows she understands he's an unfit candidate but can't pull the trigger on bouncing.

Title	Listen to Men when They Tell You Who You Are: A Story about a Pickme in the Wild
Author	Twohagsover30
Upvotes	759
Comments	48
Date	May 25, 2021 7:19 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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