I'm a little over six months post divorce (16yr relationship / 13yr marriage) being finalized and just started dating again.

After going on a few dates with a few different women, I must say that I am surprised how easily something minor will happen and I cut a girl from the roster without even thinking twice. As I thought about this today, I came to the conclusion that my list of deal breakers is about 20 times longer than it was pre-marriage. Here are a few examples of what I apparently will not tolerate anymore:

  1. Tardiness - Can't be bothered to show up on time or be ready when I pick you up? You're out.
  2. Social Media - If I see her checking her Face Book every 5 minutes or see that she has an account with every social media service under the sun? She's out.
  3. Rudeness - Can't be nice to the waiter or a clerk when they make a minor mistake? Out.
  4. Sloppiness - If I go into her house and there's filth, dust, things out of sort, etc. Out.
  5. Temper - If we have a minor disagreement and the first thing she does is start raising her voice at me, she's out.
  6. Cooking - If she can't even manage to prepare a basic meal with under a 30 min total prep and cook time, I'm not interested.
  7. Financials - If she complains about how she doesn't have enough money for gas this week or that her credit cards are maxed out but she's got a Chanel bag over her shoulder, I'm running for the exit.
  8. Intimacy - I'm not interested in a woman who even seems like she'll withhold sex to get what she wants. Also, I'm not interested in a woman who doesn't have the drive for sex at once a week bare minimum. (I came from a dead bedroom marriage with a 4 year complete dry spell at the end). I actually went on a few dates with one girl who, after we had sex 4 times, told me "I hope you don't actually expect sex once or twice a week...I really don't have that much of a sex drive." I cut her loose about 2 minutes later.

This is just a few.....and there's at least 10 more that I could type out if I wanted this post to be way too long.

I feel like my ex broke me. Before I was married I would tolerate a lot of things from girls I dated, but these days I next them like my life depends on it....and I do it without a shred of remorse or any fucks given.

Anyone else in the same boat as me? I'm a little concerned that I'm being entirely way too harsh to these women.