Posting as a partial rant / partial question. Anyone else run into this problem?
My ex wife and I were married for 16 years. I divorced her after discovering hard proof of a physical affair. I accepted my part of the blame in all of it.....I was already punching way above my weight in the looks department when I started dating her. However, I let myself get caught in the sex life death spiral: As sex started to dwindle, I started caring less and let myself go more and more....which in turn killed her attraction to me. In the end we went the last 4 years of our marriage with zero sex.
Well, she moved on with her affair partner which lasted all of about a month. Her new boyfriend was married and when his wife found out, she blew up everything and took his ass to the cleaners. I guess even though he was an extremely good looking dude, when he became flat broke he wasn't nearly as attractive anymore. Funny that.
We had an amicable divorce. We had no children. I gave her a 50/50 split of everything with no fight (she walked away with over $600k in cash after we sold the house). I was hoping that she would be set up with enough money that she would never come back to me for anything.
Looking back, I did way too much for her. Not just the every day little things. Before I discovered the affair I helped her set up a business. I got all the licensing done, I set up leases for all of the equipment, the found the office that she leases, I hired the accountant, I set up the bank accounts and maintained the company ledger.
Now she calls me for EVERYTHING. "What kind of gas do I put in my car? Does my car need an oil change? I got a letter from the IRS saying my company missed it's tax filing deadline....what is that? How do I pay my credit card online? There's fraudulent charges on my debit card, what do I do? Whats a form 1099? How do I setup my utilities on auto-pay?" Its never fucking ending.
I don't know how she gets by on a day-to-day basis. A woman in her early 40's should understand how to function in daily life. Especially one that is a "strong, independent, business owner." I finally said to her yesterday: "Look...we are divorced. We have no children. There is literally no reason for us to be in communication whatsoever. You need to start figuring things out on your own. You can literally get answers to everything by spending 2 minutes on Google." Of course I get cussed out and called every name in the book, then hung up on. The next day.....a text "hey, how much air is supposed to be in my tires?" Fuck off already!
At this point, I'm about to block her and change my number. I really thought that by giving her half of everything and literally setting her up for the next 5 years at minimum, that I would never have to speak with her again. Guess not.
Anyone else ever deal with anything similar?
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