After more than a year, the final divorce judgment is about to be signed. I’ve spent around $100,000 in legal and forensic accounting fees — the majority of which were due to her being completely unresponsive to filings. So I had to be ready to defend myself.

We were married just over four years. We haven’t had sex in the last two. She walks away with $10,000 and I’m buying her out of the house for $133,000. I’ll have 50% custody of our four-year-old daughter. I get to keep my business and all of my retirement accounts.

I’m 47, she’s 37. I was the one who filed. She refused to work on the relationship, wouldn’t go to therapy, wouldn’t sleep in the same room with me, and everything had to be her way or not at all. Sex happened less than 10 times during the entire marriage. She often told me I was a terrible husband and a terrible father. I filed not just for emotional reasons, but because I could see the financial damage staying married would eventually do. Thankfully, I got out and kept what I worked for.

It’s a bittersweet feeling. I’m also a little scared of what life will look like now. I’ve been dating someone I met shortly after filing, but the reality is I’m running a business and caring for a four-year-old on my own, with no family to help. It’s not going to be easy.

Just wanted to share where I’m at with people who might understand.