Is Alimony permanent?

RichardCleveland · 2025-04-30T16:03:13+00:00

What state do you live in? It's very hard to give you a direct answer unless we know. Your attorney is being fairly rock solid on his statement. But as you can see that's not normal, even in shitty divorce states like California.

mm025019 · 2025-04-29T01:36:31+00:00

And is she still with AP? Wow, she cheats on you and even steals your money, the good thing is that you don't need to talk to her anymore

Pleasant-Mechanic-49 · 2025-04-24T14:29:41+00:00

Guess what. After your ETERNAL alimony, do u REALL u think she will get back in marriage unless guy is Super Rich? No. They will take $$ from 2 guys lol.
In doub,t You will need to hire a detective to find out her new man

Aggravating-Ad-5793 · 2025-04-24T10:32:09+00:00

Are you paying alimony, and it just happens to equal 32% of your military pension, or did she get 32% of your pension as part of the property division?

engineered-chemistry · 2025-04-24T09:41:36+00:00

I’m in VA. What is your wife’s earning potential? My attorney hired a vocational expert to analyze her earning potential as she’s grossly under employed. 20 years is a “magic” number for the potential of long term alimony. Many judges default to the Fairfax formula used to calculate pendente lite support which keeps all rulings more or less equivalent (google it) and then add or subtract from there.

Read the section of law a few times, it may help too.

M4hkn0 · 2025-04-24T03:18:30+00:00

Depends on the state you divorce in.

Some states have permanent alimony if you are married 20+ years.

How much that is, all depends on what income and assets both parties have.

Upper-Guess1330 · 2025-04-24T02:27:21+00:00

God I'm in a similar situation. I'd rather take a medically retirement, than pay my soon to be ex 32%.

TenOfZero · 2025-04-23T23:34:27+00:00

Depends what country you live in. Laws really vary a lot around the world.

Commercial_Music_931 · 2025-04-23T23:14:22+00:00

32% Jesus Christ. Funny how many divorces happen pretty soon after people retire from the service. Almost like they were planning for it

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2025-04-23T23:00:07+00:00

I negotiated so she got none of the pension or alimony. Need a lump sum of cash or house with a bunch of equity though

bg555 · 2025-04-23T20:44:31+00:00

Yes, in the divorce agreement you can set it up so that alimony ends if she starts living with another romantic partner. Doesn’t even have to be married.

jimsmythee · 2025-04-23T20:39:29+00:00

It depends on what state you got divorced in, and what your divorce decree says.

kansurr · 2025-04-23T20:22:50+00:00

Alimony likely won't be lifetime, however she will be owed 50% of the value of your pension during the time you were married, it's an asset more than it is alimony. It's treated like a 401k. So she could get even more than that, permanently. They will take the value of your pension at time of marriage, minus the value of your pension at date of separation, and she will get half of that value in some form or another. If you have other assets, cash, retirement, house value, then you may be able to keep the full pension.

RCougar · 2025-04-23T20:17:37+00:00

Did she work at all? If she was a stay at home mom or wife she might be entitled to a permanent part of that pension if she was married to you while you served. Military pensions have some specific rules to them. If she demands it from the judge he will give her a percentage of your pension and that isn’t considered alimony. It’s like getting half of someone’s 401k, but she gets it on the back end when it pays out. It’s normally a calculation like if you were in for 20 years and married for 15 of those that would be 15/20 so 75% of the pension is marital when it pays out so she would be entitled to half of that 75%. That should be the worst outcome the court probably would order YMMV. Don’t let her trick you into giving more and work to negotiate for less.

Moist-Caregiver-2000 · 2025-04-23T19:48:39+00:00

Not a lawyer but alimony is almost never for life anymore. The intended purpose is to use the money to go back to college and get on their feet. Example, Florida repealed lifetime in 2023. My grandfather was paying my grandmother for a very long time, more than 20 years (NJ), but he hired a lawyer because she wasn't using the money for anything meaningful and it went away. Says here that NJ made it so alimony can not exceed the length of marriage.

So, it depends what state you're in.

throwingit_all_away · 2025-04-23T19:27:37+00:00

is it not specifically called out in your decree?

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2025-04-23T19:19:47+00:00

What does your MDA say?

cschoonmaker · 2025-04-23T19:17:03+00:00

Again depends on the state.

In California ALimony is set at 1/2 the length of the marriage for marriages that last under 10 years. For marriages that are 10 years or more, no end date is set. It is NOT lifetime alimony. There are quite a few different factors that can end alimony even for long term marriages.

And alimony is based on a basic formula. 40% of the higher earners incomes minus 50% of the lower earners income is the base formula. And then judge has discretion to make changes based on specific circumstances.

CRobinsFly · 2025-04-23T19:05:23+00:00

This is state-dependent. As much as I generally dislike when people say this: consult with an attorney in your area, this is 100% a question for them.

DeepAnt8165 · 2025-04-23T19:04:36+00:00

Depends your state

Title	Is Alimony permanent?
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Date	April 23, 2025 7:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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