It’s go time

LeatherTotal991 · 2024-05-05T01:25:04+00:00

Definitely go time and you also sound like your sick of her you blocked her that was good

NoLawfulness8554 · 2024-05-02T21:29:52+00:00

She is responsible for her own happiness. Contact an attorney, explore divorce, and try couples counseling.

warrior_up · 2024-05-02T13:25:54+00:00

I’m in court for the 2nd time in 5yrs since divorce the same kinda women. 1st false child abuse claims, now I was attacked by her scumbag boyfriend I’d never met at our youngest sons little league baseball game

The more you live well, the more vindictive she will get. Don’t let the BS effect you, head down, get an attorney, keep doing the right things even when no one’s looking

These types are really good at burying themselves. Just be patient, it’ll all catch up to her, you’re gonna lose money, it’s all worth your freedom. Don’t panic- this is just what bitches do in 2024, threaten divorce, get divorce, then live miserable lives angry at you for divorcing them

dudefromyork · 2024-05-02T09:03:16+00:00

“When your enemy is making mistakes, don’t interrupt them” - Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

Document. Record. Get witnesses. Get your lawyers advice and maybe get a restraining order of some description. Tell your bank she doesn’t have your permission to withdraw money. Get everything on record as much as possible. You need to roll with the punches for now. If/when this gets to court she’s screwed herself.

Keep calm. Let nature take its course! 😉

UseResponsible4368 · 2024-05-02T06:04:51+00:00

Just one quick point - if she insists on returning to the home, do everything possible to have a third party with you. Consult with a lawyer and see if you can record in general. Or the legalities of installing recording devices around your home, make sure it is working at all times and backing up

mikeiswhatmikedo · 2024-05-02T03:51:57+00:00

Screen shots of all her messages, no response back and straight to a lawyer.

Diabolus-Optima · 2024-05-02T01:48:46+00:00

5 months from now all you'll have is bills. And QUIET 🤫 😁

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-05-02T01:04:34+00:00

Don’t respond. Your job isn’t going to fire you because your wife is a nutcase. Calling your family will only make her look more insane.

Frankly all this is good, she’s making herself look totally nuts which will be great evidence. Obviously keep your composure and let her self destruct.

roshi-roshi · 2024-05-02T00:46:50+00:00

My god man. This is awful. Sending you positive vibes and support. Wish I could do more. This is a nightmare.

Vivid-Juggernaut2833 · 2024-05-02T00:29:20+00:00

Shut everything in your name (including shared) that she has access to.
Contact and retain a lawyer immediately.
File a protective order for harassment. Why? Because you need it in writing to contextualize whatever she says about you to your job.
Sit back and let her make outlandish claims. She’s essentially doing your work for you by discrediting herself.
Get some therapy, even just a few sessions over several weeks. If nothing else, being able to fully vent will help.

TreetopTarantula · 2024-05-02T00:23:00+00:00

Unblock her so she can keep ranting. It will be good evidence later on. Just silence her notifications.

Let your work and family know that you are going through a potentially nasty divorce and your STBX has threatened to malign you at work and to your family. Put them on notice. Get ahead of it so if she does do it they already have context to put it in.

Open a new bank account with only you on it and fill out a new direct deposit form going to that account. Close all joint credit cards.

Stop paying any of her bills that are in your name. Close accounts that you can (cell phone, etc).

Start saving money and building a war chest for an attorney. She doesn’t sound like she’ll be up for an inexpensive divorce. Sorry, brother.

Don’t ever become a stepfather again. My money is on you losing your stepdaughter’s relationship on top of your marriage.

captainchippsixx · 2024-05-02T00:06:51+00:00

You talk to everyone asap. And get a lawyer.

Moms_Sketti88 · 2024-05-01T23:34:41+00:00

Same boat, minus the bank account part (separate bank accounts or she would have already done that). Mine also says she’s going to call my work and get me fired by whatever means necessary. She’s flat out physically attacked me a few times. Disappears and then proceeds to blow up my phone. She’s also reached out to my family and her family to make all these outrageous claims about me. Today she refused to take our daughter to school, so I had to call out sick to take her. I told her she needs to fuck off, which lead to her calling me about 65 times to be exact... She just doesn’t get that we are not a good team and a divorce is coming. She got into my wallet and even saw my attorneys business card. She goes from being in denial, to physically abusive, to manipulative, to begging me back, to saying she hopes I die. It’s unreal. Mine claims I’m ruining her life, etc. Are we married to the same woman? I think our wives may have Borderline Personality Disorder. Look it up. I have no experience or education to diagnose, but if I was a betting man I’d say that’s what it could be.

bluephotoshop · 2024-05-01T22:08:02+00:00

Step 1: create another bank account in totally different bank. Set up your payroll deposit to that account. Ensure she doesn’t have access to it.

Salty-Box6418 · 2024-05-01T20:48:01+00:00

If I was your boss and I found out you care more about your job than your wife I would instantly promote you

21YearsofHell · 2024-05-01T20:37:35+00:00

Maybe head on over to r/BPDlovedones, post your story, and see if anything sounds familiar…

producechick · 2024-05-01T19:57:45+00:00

Is there a way to get her for theft? She's going to get in shit for that in a divorce either way, but seriously wtf is wrong with all these women? With all the threats you have from her on texts I'd call the police first before she does or she'll claim domestic and you'll be even more f**ked! Good luck

Least_Winter9632 · 2024-05-01T18:44:36+00:00

I agree with the previous comment to lawyer up yesterday. Document everything. She sounds fucking nuts. I would be extremely cautious to be around her; prepare for fake domestic violence claims. Print out or save pdf files of the bank statements. I don’t think you’re screwed at all. I think SHE is. Lawyer up and take her down!

Jhonnybgood2017 · 2024-05-01T18:36:14+00:00

Fail to plan, plan to fail. 7 years of marriage does not usually lead to lifetime of servitude/alymoni. Maybe half of the length of the marriage. If u didnt adopt that kid, u may not owe child support. Lawyer up yesterday and buckle up.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2024-05-01T18:34:31+00:00

What’s with all these single moms not appreciating what their husbands gave for them, they’re all for the streets bottom of the barrell scum

TheWormTurns22 · 2024-05-01T18:04:43+00:00

Contact everyone you can and tell them she's on the rampage, especially HR at work. Be as neutral as possible about it, so you don't sound coo coo for cocoa puffs like she is

Title	It’s go time
Author	BackgroundEbbnFlow37
Upvotes	16
Comments	37
Date	May 1, 2024 5:52 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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