Listen fuckers

LandOfSod · 2023-06-26T08:28:23+00:00

I was handling this well until her first partner got introduced to my kids without my consent (which was prohibited in our divorce decree).

Thank god for therapists.

PyneBerries · 2022-05-03T00:40:26+00:00

it’s been 7 months since we split up and i’m sitting on my back porch sobbing. i just want her out of my head

monkagainnow · 2022-04-22T02:24:33+00:00

GOAT divorce mens advice and life saving right here.
Mahalo nui.

Phoenix_765 · 2022-04-21T02:19:46+00:00

I hate entire justice system now so much that all judges and lawyers go to hell. It's not the divorce which screws men. It's the system set up in the form of 'best I nterest of the child ' bullshit

oli_21_ · 2022-04-16T19:25:56+00:00

Word. Embrace the fucking storm. Grow. Adapt. The new you will be thankful you didn’t falter

You will lose family, friends, and your old life. But it’s completely worth it for the new you

Focus_On_A_Check · 2022-04-16T17:19:47+00:00

FUCKERSSSS💪😤✊

Suki100 · 2022-04-16T12:16:42+00:00

Why are men in this era so quick to choose this route? Men of the past had similar struggles but never so quick to want to call it quits. What has changed in how men process hardships?

cyberdeception · 2022-04-15T20:46:20+00:00

Take an award my liege... You sir,are awesome.

My ex, 17years of bieng together and then she took everything and I have been barred from seeing my son (4Y).

Its been a month now since we got our decree, but words like this, this hits in the guts

I have recurring thoughts of just putting n end to everything, and every day I come on this sub.,it helps. Thanks a ton mates.

wodanob508 · 2022-04-14T04:59:10+00:00

"Do not under estimate the whole your absence would leave in the lives of those who love you."

Dr. Jordan Peterson

Objective_Problem_90 · 2022-04-14T00:05:21+00:00

I started to read before my divorce how hard it was for us men. Something like 3600 males who divorce kill themselves. Thought it was crazy. Then I myself was put through the meat grinder with a narcissistic bi polar ex who got a hot shot lawyer and tried to take every penny I had, while limiting access to my son 4 days a month. She ended up getting everything while my style of living decreased dramatically. It pains me that I cannot see my 3 year old son. Worse that I know it affects him greatly while she lives in this world that she seems to think it's "best for him". Life is unfair. But guys, we need to keep making it. Our children need us and so does the world, even if it doesn't want to admit it. It will get better.

Grousers · 2022-04-13T22:42:27+00:00

“The greatest sight in the world is to see a great man struggling against adversity.”

Keep grinding. More people can relate than you think.

GrayWallsWhiteDoor · 2022-04-13T22:23:19+00:00

Ugh. 4 years later I am absolutely embarrassed that I ever considered hurting myself over my ex. The begging, the pleading oh my god, that shit is so embarrassing to think about. For some 36 year old woman who couldn't ever figure out how to give a decent bj.

henrysmyagent · 2022-04-13T20:52:16+00:00

Do not use permanent solutions to temporary problems.

The despair most men feel at the end of their or being betrayed is a sudden drop of oxytocin (the love drug) in your brain.

Once your brain adjusts to the new lower level of oxytocin you can go back tonyour usual rational self.

You feel like your life is a waste, like you will never love or be loved ever again...and then slowly that all fades.

Then you are free.

oneknocka · 2022-04-13T19:11:29+00:00

I’m gonna be honest. I hate this kind of just man the fuck up type talk. Everyone has a different history and a different path. But its ok, we all dont have to agree on everything

SwamiSweatSocks · 2022-04-13T16:10:05+00:00

About two months after my ex left me, I found out an old friend from high school killed himself. His wife had left him about two years before and he was heartbroken.

I knew I didn't want to let my divorce affect me like that. I have been through times of hell personally, the fighting was just simply unbelievable with my ex wife during the divorce. It's been over four years since the divorce began, it took two years to be divorced and in the two since I have been doing a lot of healing. I've been dating, working hard and I have kids that are nearly grown so I'm moving into a very different part of my life. It is in no way easy, but it does get much better. I have hope and that is what really matters I think.

NohoTwoPointOh · 2022-04-13T13:25:48+00:00

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FriendswithPoodles · 2022-04-13T09:52:23+00:00

Yes, smacking someone in the face with a brick, as you do with your post, is helpful.

ijustdontcare74 · 2022-04-13T06:35:14+00:00

The advice I always give is to lean on your MALE friends for support as they will likely know what you are going through, won't judge you and can offer the support and help you need. When I hit rock bottom just after finding out my wife (of the time..now divorced thank god) cheated, my best mate booked a week's holiday for us both in the French Alps to do some cycling. That allowed me a lot of time alone in my head (riding up mountains does give you a lot of time to think, you try to concentrate on anything other than the pain & fatigue) and to square things away and formulate a plan to move forward. Getting that distance away from her allowed me to start to disentangle myself from her.

The absolute WORST thing you can do is ask another woman for advice or support. One, they often don't like vulnerable men and see them as weak and beneath them...and two, you could end up emotionally involved with them, which is going to end up doubling your pain and just bring chaos to your life. DON'T DO IT.

SecondChantzes · 2022-04-13T03:47:28+00:00

Yep. Any poor bastard on this sub can direct message me and I would reply. If you want to talk I would gladly give you my phone number.

Skurvee · 2022-04-13T03:41:38+00:00

Join us on WhatsApp

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2022-04-13T03:30:57+00:00

I really crave this energy you're putting in the table right now

ct3747 · 2022-04-13T03:30:18+00:00

I lost my balls when I started to please my wife, now that I'm going through divorce is time to man up again and never let any woman step over me.

us027952 · 2022-04-13T02:53:08+00:00

I like you. I had balls like this once, before I was married

SudetenNachkomme · 2022-04-13T02:30:11+00:00

Totally agree. We gotta hang together.

Also: props to OP for the attention-grabbing title. A C-bomb would have also been effective 😂

Seriously though: it does get better. Don’t do things you can’t undo. You don’t know what is around the corner. (Think of Tom Hanks’ speech from Castaway - you never know what the tide will bring in.)

Shitpostradamus · 2022-04-13T02:28:06+00:00

As someone who has just come out of the dark tunnel and into the light - Can Confirm.

Those of you who choose to push through and work on yourself and rediscover your passions, will be rewarded with the understanding that this is the best thing that ever happened to you. Much love to all of you still in the struggle. It’s so worth it on the other end

kwkcardinal · 2024-04-18T01:46:31+00:00

This is nice.

I still wish I ate a shotgun shell when she slept around, or when she beat me in my sleep. I never will, but it’s nice to think about.

I’m glad you said this. It’s great to hear. I’ll never be happy, but maybe I can be useful again. Not to her, or any individual, but maybe. I am working, I’m eating and breathing, and I won’t stop just because it helps someone else.

Anyway, thank you.

Title	Listen fuckers
Author	oli_21_
Upvotes	205
Comments	55
Date	April 13, 2022 2:02 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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