Revenge or not

godolphinarabian · 2023-06-29T05:55:47+00:00

Facts aren’t revenge.

IHateMyExB · 2023-06-29T05:08:18+00:00

Nope, honestly when someone fucks you over, I think they deserve a taste of their own medicine. I do not in any way condone physically harming someone. But I don’t think people should be able to get away with sticking a knife in someone’s back like my ex did. Yours sounds like a real piece of work as well

Throwaway_858493 · 2023-06-29T04:34:10+00:00

If I was the husband I would want to know. I don’t think it’s necessarily revenge at that point.

Kenny_Power55 · 2023-06-29T04:47:48+00:00

Not rude imo. Just make sure you’re aware that it could lead back to you and cause more problems for you and you’re prepared for those consequences. If you want to go scorched earth, disregard the advice.

redditrock56 · 2023-06-29T07:04:54+00:00

Just cover your ass and make sure it never gets back to you.

Sorry_Rain5699 · 2023-06-29T07:35:28+00:00

Must run in the family cheating. Good for you.

Beneficial-Win-5269 · 2023-06-29T11:18:43+00:00

Two birds with one stone you get revange and your former brother in law won't be a victim of lying cheating cunt. Remember kings they only cheat because of their selfish egos and lack of accountability for women in this country. They're cheating because they think they can get away with it.

nsbbeachguy · 2023-06-29T10:51:05+00:00

Sounds corny, but the best revenge is living well.

Classic_Dill · 2023-06-29T14:14:26+00:00

That's not revenge my man, that's called mercy! tell him, my ex wife's Ap's wife told me and i thanked her a lot!!

He deserves to know, but dont be over the top, be humble, you're about to really hurt him with the news, and you might want to have evidence.

Worth-Prompt195 · 2023-06-29T14:59:42+00:00

The intent behind your actions makes it revenge or not. The key is to be honest with yourself first. If you find relief of your pain by doing it, it’s most likely it’s all about you. If the other husband, is someone you care about, and you authentically are there for supporting him… That’s another thing.

In my opinion, if you’re just opening up a canna worms and shit for them to deal with, what’s the difference between you and them?

Gonzo458 · 2023-06-29T13:49:48+00:00

You'd be doing a disservice to a fellow man by NOT telling him.

Speesh-Reads · 2023-06-29T15:11:33+00:00

If you were that guy, would you want to know?

wisstinks4 · 2023-06-29T10:25:41+00:00

Pay the neighbor kid $20 to hand a note with his wife’s cheating and your ex cheating stories. Then pay the kid to give copies to their wonderful parents and say “nice job” on the back of the envelope.

RideATX · 2023-06-29T14:20:54+00:00

When I see a house on fire I walk away. Go live your life and be awesome, forget about the past.

Professional-Peak935 · 2023-06-29T15:33:00+00:00

Cheaters deserve the worms.

captainchippsixx · 2023-06-29T19:19:50+00:00

The guy should know. I would do it now.

cdjohnny · 2023-06-29T19:30:11+00:00

I'm a strong believer that people have a right to know that their spouse is cheating.

dietermeaterbeater · 2023-06-29T20:30:54+00:00

Just send it now. That’s not even revenge, that’s helping someone else that you care about, whose in the same shoes as you. Fucking tell him dude

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2023-06-29T21:19:20+00:00

Your brother-in-law deserves to know the truth. It’s a difficult conversation, but it needs to occur.

Be prepared for him, not to believe you. And it will forever strain your relationship with him.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-06-29T23:51:18+00:00

Birds of a feather.

Elterchet · 2023-06-30T00:21:29+00:00

You are, you should inform her husband ages ago.

AirSailer · 2023-06-30T02:53:38+00:00

If you tell him and he confronts her, then she'll turn around and tell him you've known for while, which I'm guessing is the case. He probably won't like that you've known and didn't say anything, so be prepared in case he gets upset with you. Be aware, this could seriously backfire on you.

As for the revenge part, if you told him she's cheating to hurt her it probably won't make you feel better. If you do it because it's the right thing to do, then at least you'll know you did it for the right reasons.

Doing the right thing is hard, doing the wrong thing is easy.

Title	Revenge or not
Author	life-is-short-
Upvotes	24
Comments	23
Date	June 29, 2023 4:15 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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