Wedding ring

Jdatscool · 2026-01-07T13:20:46+00:00

Mine's in a drawer somewhere. Don't really know, don't really care.

Available_Cow_3915 · 2026-01-07T04:01:40+00:00

Wife here. I don't wear mine because of my job and I hated putting it on and off. I also hate my marriage so that's why I don't wear it anymore. He could care less because that's what he does

Available_Cow_3915 · 2026-01-07T03:59:19+00:00

Stop now

Doc13075 · 2026-01-06T00:48:37+00:00

I took mine off the day I managed to catch her red handed and threw her out. I kept it in a glass beside my whisky and 4 months after being separated from her I'd not even thought about it. She still had access to my house due to Scottish law and when I was away from my house she would come to walk and feed her dogs. She was handy at just taking things from the house without asking and claiming it was her things only.

Pretty early on I had started to photograph and video the house and belongings in order to keep track for legal purposes further down the line. November I'd been away for 5 days. When I returned the ring was gone. Won't give a straight answer to if she has took it but she and my son where the only 2 people to be in the house as my daughter was with me.

Son said he hadn't touched it as he'd barely been in the dinning room where the whisky was. I know she took it and even with the before and after pictures I doubt I can truly prove it. I was angry to start with but then laughed as I had learnt soon afterwards that she is getting into debt with her drug use.

Be glad when every legal link we have is gone and she is but a speck in my rear view mirror.

AA23_Cell_2187 · 2026-01-05T22:08:47+00:00

I still feel it’s missing sometimes. A lot like forgetting my watch or something. You will get used to it. So much that I currently have no idea where I put it and don’t care.

Ok_Business5507 · 2026-01-05T21:56:40+00:00

I stopped wearing it within about a minute after X told me she was planning to divorce me. It is in my desk drawer, not really something I feel I need to deal with. Divorce is final, not that I think she will come back or anything, just not important.

Outside-Jicama-8468 · 2026-01-05T21:55:48+00:00

The moment I filed. Im no longer wanting to be tied to the dead relationship.

There is a creek i go to when im feeling down or depressed. Its filled with wild geese and ducks. Ill buy some bread or crackers and feed them.

Once its final. Im gonna go there and throw my ring in. If throwing the bread and crackers in brings me peace and happiness, maybe throwing my ring in will too.

Hot-Ad-7424 · 2026-01-05T20:46:51+00:00

I wore mine for a little after my stbx stopped wearing hers. During this time I begged to make it work even trying to meet her at a completely open relationship and she said I wasn’t hearing her and she didn’t want to be married to me or to anyone. She wanted to do whatever she wanted and not have to listen to anyone else. As soon as that conversation finished I took it off. That “person” was no longer my wife she was gone.

NC_Geezus · 2026-01-05T20:08:35+00:00

I debated this with myself too, until I met with my stbx for something and noticed hers wasn't on. Mine never made a return after that. I did keep the ring incase one of my kids wants it for something, but I have no intention of ever wearing one again.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2026-01-05T20:02:33+00:00

I took mine off when it became clear my wife had no intention of reconciliation.

It definitely felt weird as I had not taken it off for 22 years other than a few cleanings.

I kept it along with wedding photos etc for the kiddos to look at one day. It is in a box in my garage. If I had no kids I would have kept it a year or two and then tossed it once I was over my ex.

My next wedding ring is going to be tattooed. Better make this one work 😂.

TheFrozenCanadianGuy · 2026-01-05T19:59:52+00:00

You guys can always melt it down into a part of a necklace or something.

6StringFiend · 2026-01-05T19:58:45+00:00

Haven’t worn it since she filed

BigBubbaMac · 2026-01-05T19:55:45+00:00

Mine was off the the day I knew I was going to file.

krazykanuck · 2026-01-05T19:49:29+00:00

what does the ring represent to you? I know the obvious answer, but there is a personal aspect to it as well. Only you can decide based on what it means to you and your current situation, everyone will be different.

As far as the weirdness of not wearing it, there will be many moments like that. Some funny, some devastating. Just ride each like a wave and you'll get through it.

Accurate-Pilot-5666 · 2026-01-05T18:19:33+00:00

I could take or leave the ring, but once the decision was made to divorce, I couldn't wait to lose the tan line on that finger.

Commercial_Song_7595 · 2026-01-05T17:43:46+00:00

Left mine at the house we shared, haven’t worn it since the day she said she was done.

Electrical-Mix9687 · 2026-01-05T17:27:14+00:00

I moved out and it's sitting in a drawer in my apartment bathroom. I haven't worn it since before I moved out.

I guess I took it off when I realized there was no fixing things.

pulsed19 · 2026-01-05T17:26:07+00:00

Dang I remember this. Sometimes I would still wear mine even after the divorce because I thought it was “temporary”. Now that I know it’s not, I stopped a while back. I think the proper time is when you realize it’s over…

thanksvitalik · 2026-01-05T17:08:45+00:00

There is a Spanish movie from the 90s in which a wedding ring gets stuck in a hooker's vagina. Think about that option.

ItzDayByDay · 2026-01-05T17:03:22+00:00

I took mine off for a month. Put it back on for a month. Then I went to throw it in the bin when we were moving stuff around the house and my daughter told me she wanted to keep it. I have no idea where it is now tbh.

I put it on as a reminder that we were (and are) still legally married, but it was too painful to keep wearing it and I felt like an idiot.

oohyamz · 2026-01-05T16:54:47+00:00

The time is now brother. You’ll get used to a naked ring finger!

rightwist · 2026-01-05T16:46:42+00:00

When you feel done with it

If you need to take a full year off after everything is finalized, then in my opinion it's fine to wear that ring. If you're done with it right now, also fine.

Vollen595 · 2026-01-05T16:24:24+00:00

Took mine off the day I discovered her cheating and she left the house.

I still have it, planning on melting it down and having it re-cast into two new rings, one for my daughter.

KuzoKing · 2026-01-05T16:21:25+00:00

Well, after trying and trying to make work after she cheated, I came to my senses and its now down deep in the water in Canary Warf. STBXW Still wears hers and I don't get it.

UnknownUsername113 · 2026-01-05T16:13:51+00:00

I took mine off as soon as I knew it was officially done. I still have it in a drawer somewhere but I’m not sure why. Maybe as a reminder of what was once good.

Epic_Ranting_Man · 2026-01-05T15:58:35+00:00

Time to take that ring off.

UrAristotle · 2026-01-05T15:56:15+00:00

I lost so much weight during the 3 months that we were trying to work things out that my ring literally didn’t fit any more and would fall off on its own.

In hindsight, it seems like quite a metaphor.

I took mine off for good after she officially filed.

shell_shocked_today · 2026-01-05T15:54:23+00:00

I took it off on the day she moved out (separated).

Reasonable-Glass-965 · 2026-01-05T15:43:29+00:00

Took mine off the moment I found out she was fucking someone else.

Sock_Eating_Golden · 2026-01-05T15:34:40+00:00

I took mine off the moment she said reconciliation wasn't happening.

NilEntity · 2026-01-05T15:34:16+00:00

You have to do what feels right for you.

I only took it off when we left the city house after the divorce was finalized and completely done. She took hers off months earlier, probably didn't like a reminder while she was with her new guy ... Taking it off any earlier would have felt ... Wrong

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2026-01-05T15:33:57+00:00

Bro get rid of it. Toss it out the window and move on.

stay_at_home_friend · 2026-01-05T15:31:33+00:00

For me it was before I moved out. I used to wear it all the time and was pretty proud to have only have not worn it for maybe a few days over the years. One day it felt uncomfortable and took it off and never put it back on. After the divorce was finalized I threw it out. It felt even after 2 years to reach for it and not feel it there but everyone is different

ConfidenceSuch8793 · 2026-01-05T15:31:30+00:00

I took mine off for good when she told me I have no business knowing where she is in her drug and alcohol recovery process.

Title	Wedding ring
Author	waggers5
Upvotes	19
Comments	39
Date	January 5, 2026 3:17 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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