35+ Queens - He Still Ain't S**T

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whitefox00 · 2022-01-15T03:18:46+00:00

Around 40 myself, and I feel incredible freedom at this age. My ex-husband left me for someone younger because I stopped tolerating his crap and started drawing boundaries. But now that it’s just the kids and I-I do what makes me happy. I wear outfits I like, wear my hair how I want, partake in hobbies that interest me. I love it! There’s no worrying about attracting anyone.

Isn’t it interesting how much we can see clearly as we get older?

asoww · 2022-01-15T02:14:27+00:00

I had a "friend " (25M) who would only date women 35+ and who would turn into a controlling abusive pos when they didn't do what he wanted He tried it with me, thanks to him I understood I'm done with straight male friendships

East-Willingness513 · 2022-01-15T02:26:13+00:00

I wised up around 28 and I’m 30 next month- only because of FDS. I was a liberal feminist pick me before 😭 and guess what! LVM hateeeee me, it’s like they know that I know all their dirty little secrets. I don’t give them the time of day and they scamper around for a pick me to make them feel better after the mean and OLD 29 year old stared them down. I now only attract HVM and HVW, they love that I don’t take bullshit and genuinely appreciate me.

I’ll never forget my NVM ex say to me when I was 22 that he needs to find an 18 year old who will think he’s cool after I started to get the “ick” and that summed up how every NVM/LVM thinks.

I don’t look much different from when I was 20 except a bit of fat loss in the face and that actually makes me more attractive now. They just can’t handle that by 30, our brains are fully matured and we are typically thriving in our careers, households and personal lives. We never stop aiming for better meanwhile they are all stuck in the same cycle of wake up, fap, work, fap, dinner, games, fap, bed.

They don’t hate older women, they’re TERRIFIED of older women. If they weren’t a threat then men would love them. Instead they keep older women at a distance by watching MILF and GILF porn to get their fix.

Dear ladies, ageing is one of the biggest gifts you will ever receive, don’t let scrotes make you feel bad for something that happens to literally all of us. You are not special because you are young, you are naive and impressionable. What makes you special is the ability to use your experience to accomplish your dreams.

FI-REfox · 2022-01-15T02:51:18+00:00

I'm not into little boys with their defective, onion smelling weiners

Ahahahahhahaaahahahha... cheers to you, my fellow mature Queen. Like fine aged wines, we do NOT pair well with onions 🥂

peaches88888 · 2022-01-15T04:30:53+00:00

When I was into RPW I was terrified of being single and not having kids by a certain age. I believed the narrative that I needed to be a good woman let men be dominant...LOL. That’s not my personality at all. I’m naturally really bossy and demanding and I take charge (all 5’1 of me). Every man I come in to contact with I have them wrapped around my finger and I don’t want any of them. I’m 34 next month and I’m in the best shape of my life. I’ve got money in the bank, a balanced and healthy life, and I live in paradise. At this point there is NO WAY I would let some creep weasel their way in to my life and disrupt me. I prefer peace, harmony, my plants and cats and I won’t change to accommodate some boring ass dude.

WandernWondern · 2022-01-15T12:46:12+00:00

I’m over here snickering because I’m 38. My daughters 18. Guess who’s NOT raising a pickme??

Spread the word y’all. Lots of young mothers of daughters out there need a word. Soon their underaged supply will be looking at them exactly the way we do 😂

warinmymind94 · 2022-01-15T08:41:37+00:00

Wise words. I'm 27 and started wishing up when I hit 25 and since finding this sub and seeing posts like this - it helps me embrace getting older, wiser, more secure, have less debt and more savings, and be able to enjoy the finer things in life! I had my rebellious years and my years as a pickme, it didn't work, I didn't get "picked" because I dodged bullets. You're so right about the guys in their 20s and 30s being lv, it's a cesspool. It's already gotten so much easier to see Red flags early on. I look forward to finding HV friends, growing in my career, and seeing myself improve over time.

Davina33 · 2022-01-15T12:23:32+00:00

I'm 36 and I'm still waiting for men not to hassle me like the incel scrotes claim they will. I had a tradesman round this week doing some plumbing work and he hit on me. Apparently he is 37 but looks a good 10 years older. I live in a busy area and have men in cars and on foot hassling me when I'm outside. When I was 20 I might have found it flattering but now I just see them for the jerks they are.

I haven't worried about ageing yet. Hopefully I won't. I think at my age most women still look quite young, my cheeks are slimmer too and I look better for it. I only wish I had this knowledge in my 20s that I have now. Scrotes of any age but especially those 20+ years older won't stand a chance with me. Men can sense this as you get older and that's why they prefer to prey on young women. I was warned about this by older women when I was in my 20s and will return the favour to teenagers and women in their 20s too.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-01-15T16:08:34+00:00

First of all 👏👏👏

And any men who say women have an "expiration date" are looking at exhausted Moms who gain weight because of depression and how they don't get any help ever from their LVM man-child husbands.

Women have their value and stripes, and it's insane how time and time again women glow up simply by ditching the scrotes in their lives.

The porn and videogame addictions are why I'm scared to death to even start dating...so many men my age are looking at 30 and realizing they ain't getting any younger.

We can learn so much from our older Queens, I just love your energy and IDAF attitudes!! Yet you have everything going on and so much to gain and love your kids!

You rock!

capresesalad1985 · 2022-01-15T03:52:13+00:00

I swear when I saw the attack on the capital, I have never seen more ugly looking middle aged dudes all in one place. Like damn. So many beer bellies.

spinsterchachkies · 2022-01-15T16:45:42+00:00

Mama, they just think women are disposable. When they say we aged out of “IT”, they mean our fertility window and their preference for young girls. They don’t think men age out of “IT” because us women are willing to settle and sacrifice our sexual desires and preferences for younger fit men 🙄. We settle for money or we love them for their janky ass PeRsOnAlLiTy. But men, they are really loud and honest about how they will just keep replacing women with a newer, younger version until they die old in their bed. Personality, accomplishments, intelligence, morality, self sufficiency, they are not the strongest factors for men when choosing a mate. It’s like you’re a replaceable screw in a machine and when you wear out it’s time for a new one, that’s how it feels. Yeah fuck em

lookingforuni6789 · 2022-01-15T03:11:49+00:00

Book marking this to read later, but just wanted to say I'm 39 too!

katiekat0214 · 2022-01-15T15:10:48+00:00

I've thought about this A LOT over the past 5 years after Jack died. Do I want to date? If I do, what kind of man? What age range? I already said here that while I was still a full-time teacher in Los Angeles, with a commute, I knew I couldn't date at all, due to my schedule.

These days, retired (although want to work again, just waiting on more info on covid and for numbers to start going down), I wouldn't mind dating, but how to meet people? I'm an introvert, and I've said here before, it's a lifelong habit to keep my eyes and energy to myself. It's introversion (not shyness, way different) plus 25 years married. I'm not smiley out in public or to strangers. Where I live now, I haven't joined any clubs because there don't seem that many to join at all (Eastern Star, maybe? I just don't know any others.)

I'm also in the best shape of my life, back to college-age weight and proportions, working on leveling myself up so I can go walk the Camino again. I just figure some man is going to have to jump out in front of me to catch my attention since I'm busy living my life. If it's meant to be, it'll be, and if I'm meant to be single the rest of my life, that's fine. It is absolute strength and power to be able to say that. I for one don't at all fear dying alone, since guess what? we all do die alone.

InspectorGadget07 · 2022-01-15T13:29:28+00:00

Having to affirm youre attractive at 39 still isn’t it. It’s like you’re still coming from a standpoint where age is still a focus. Even making a point of showing you consciously reject the idea that women expire, unfortunately means some of the conditioning got through.

Because if it didn’t you wouldn’t even be thinking about it. Low key I had to think about how old I am when I read that- I think 36. Could be a year older or younger, I’d have to do the math to remember honestly. It’s that irrelevant in my life and I think it’s a place most women should aspire to get.

I don’t think in terms of women 35+ or like I’m aged or past the wall or having to prove anything age wise. In fact age barely even exists to me. It’s just a complete shrug. I live my live completely divorced from and irrelevant of that- not even keeping track.

I think a lot of these posts trying to affirm youre still valuable 35+ sadden me because it’s best not to even consider the possibility you may not be. It’s still very much mediated through the male gaze in that it’s trying so hard to counter it, that it still unconsciously centered it

Free my peeps (all women) from this mental slavery

I don’t want to shame anyone about it, as it’s all a journey and never a destination. But I’ve been blessed so far to have very few hang ups- no age or body hang ups and sometimes honestly try to avoid even reading posts like this so I don’t pick up new neuroses I hadnt even thought of.

Someone once did a post here worry about how their private parts look and considering surgery for it. I said damn. Let me get out of here before I start considering that too hard myself, because I’d never once thought of it in my entire life up to that point

As a minority these types of posts remind me of people of color who think they have to prove themselves equal to whites, show whites they’re as good. To think you have to prove you still look as good as ever or are as desirable as ever at a certain age- is still kinda sad and comes from a position that is still centering patriarchal thinking in how hard it tries to reject it, rather than actually transcending such thinking all together

The highest mental state is not to reject it, but to rise above it entirely, be so unaffected by it that you don’t even consider it

Think of Wonder Woman and her Amazonian sisters or any truly powerful woman IRL, do you think they’re running around proclaiming or proving they’re “better than ever” at 45, or are they simply just being. So involved in their life and goddess power that it doesn’t even figure.

What’s best to look/ be “better than ever” at x age or to be utterly ageless, ✨Timeless✨ altogether?

Edit: To be clear I’m not talking about forgetting your age altogether, I said I can’t remember if i’m 36 or maybe 37 or 35. 1 yr+ or minus makes no difference health wise. I obviously know I’m not 25. Tbh, most places and forms don’t ask your age, they ask your birthdate. So it is possible to know and give that and still be kinda fuzzy on how old you are precisely

oscine23 · 2022-01-15T19:37:42+00:00

40 here. I don’t think I’ve ever strived you be attractive for men, only for myself. I’m divorced with two children and I’ve also never had the mindset that no man would want me because I’m older and have children either. Like you, I feel I’m in my prime. I look better than I ever did, my body is in fantastic shape, I run my own business, and I’ve got my coins.

I have ZERO qualms about being single, although I’ve been with a HVM for over a year now. One of the reasons he loves me, he says, is bc of my idgaf attitude. I love him, but he knows I’ll walk away in two seconds if he doesn’t treat me in the way I deserve at all times.

I don’t get this attitude from men that we’re washed up at 35 and dying to be married. Although parenting with my ex can be stressful at times, I love the freedom of living alone with no one to answer to or pick up after.

fuckbeingautobanned · 2022-01-15T13:05:38+00:00

Only an idiot can believe aging ISN'T something to be praised, aside from your health becoming more fragile. They're blind regardless of how much they can see.

lilarose8 · 2022-01-16T00:50:08+00:00

Early 40s here, divorced and thriving. I’m reminded of a song I recently discovered that I absolutely love by Ashley Monroe called Onto Something Good:

Days are gonna fly

and draw lines around your eyes

It can make you bitter or it can make you wise

It’s coming either way

Title	35+ Queens - He Still Ain't S**T
Author	12thwizard
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Date	January 15, 2022 1:55 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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