Consequences

janeaustenfan99 · 2020-01-15T13:26:20+00:00

This makes me feel better about my own experiences...

greenappletw · 2020-01-15T16:31:45+00:00

She's right.

But also I think a lot of these guys are narcissistic. Meaning their internal problem comes before their actions. They start off empty and completely insecure inside, like a vacuum. They use others as a result. And then they fall deeper into their pit of despair once the high of using others is over. They will repeat the cycle until they die, in or out of marriage.

I highly recommend that any woman dating in current times become very familiar with narcissists and their red flags. If you know enough, they will start to stand out to you like a sore thumb.

Dr. Ramani and Surviving Narcissim are two great YouTube channels that will give you the basics.

frecklesinboston · 2020-01-15T15:21:03+00:00

Wow! I think this was well put and makes total sense to me. It reminds me of an interesting read from The NY Times regarding men who never settled down “meet the New York bachelors who yearn for something more”. I haven’t reread it but basically about how they never settled down when they were young and now they’re lonely.

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-01-15T14:18:21+00:00

Damn she went for the jugular

themissdaydreamer · 2020-01-15T17:37:29+00:00

they crave the emotional connection but haven't developed the empathy and self-awareness to get it. they see other males as competition or bros', women are always 'ho*es', no real bonding. so they come to reddit to complain about having no friends and how nobody has complimented/hugged them for a year or so. I'm yet to see one of theses dudes who don't act like the world has failed them in getting success in life and love.

and I think that's why saying the 'FDS is PUA for women' is so misleading. while PUA commodifies relationships into power play, FDS advocates for building rapport and establishing healthy relationships of all kinds. we see people as multidimensional human beings instead of labeling other females as 'competition' and men as 'prey'. and even if we're out of the dating marketing, we're focusing on improving our lives and don't dwell in loneless for too long, since we have a support system of loved ones, let it be family or just friends.

basically just stop using your genitals as your moral compass and maybe you'll start geeting hugs again.

afroteacherism · 2020-01-15T14:16:11+00:00

Do they even have the self awareness get this?? I fear not.

gigababejfl · 2020-01-15T14:28:05+00:00

This is a strong af statement. Wow. Too true.

I wonder if any guy like this read this and really recieved the truth of it. At least one.

modernmedusaa · 2020-01-15T14:54:52+00:00

LVM: 'HuRrr DuRrRRr - I need to find me a down ass woman (male speak for budget mommy), not these dumb instagram WhOrEs HuRr dUrRrR ' \insert something about chad/ 80/20/ goldiggas/divorce rape**

*Meets attractive smart loyal woman who is technically too good for him anyway: treats her like a joke until she gets bored of his immaturity and ditches him because she has too many options/too much going to tolerate his clownfoolery & BLATANT cheating. He will call her 'hypergamous' & 'superficial' for not tolerating this- maybe neg her for extra esteem points. Tells the next girl she 'cheated' on him & that's why he 'struggles to be emotionally available' \sob sob*- when in fact she ditched him for being an ass. Continues to repeat this cycle treating women as commodities for his consumption and calls them 'entitled' 'demanding' 'stuckup' for expecting basic respect / consistency from him to stick around. Has silent depression breakdown & cries salty tears onto his mothers spare (now mouldy) mattress cos he feels 'alone' & mIsUndErsToOd & his life is not going the direction he wants because he's too fucking lazy/narcissistic to admit he does anything wrong. Can't talk to 'tHe BrO's' about it so hunts empathetic single women to use as a crutch again. Admires himself in the mirror like Johnny Bravo through his salty tears: 'I AM A KING!!! FUCK YEAH TRP *beats chest*. Scoffs at therapy /doing anything that requires effort to improve himself- blames feminism or the government or something. Gives some sob story about the broken home he grew up in whilst treating women like UTTER garbage. Continues destructive behaviours & trying to leech off pickmeishas emotional labour/ clown innocent higher value women for a fragile ego boost with ZILCH to offer them except humiliation, drama & lies. Laments lack of 'good women' and 'stuckup whores' not appreciating him for the KING he believes he is. Repeat x50 until he ends up with a pickmeisha baby mother he will later accuse of 'trapping' him & 'raping' him in court.*

dkarm · 2020-01-15T18:26:07+00:00

I think guys go into the whole nsa thing thinking they’re going to have lots of sex with lots of women and really party it up. I think they do meet women occasionally who go along with that and want it too. But for the most part, especially on dating sites where they’re plainly stating their intentions, they don’t get much response and find it’s not as easy as they think. I’m never matched with a guy on the sites who hit me up immediately who doesn’t sound pathetic and desperate.

s_slayer · 2020-01-15T19:24:58+00:00

My ex is finally realizing this cold, hard truth. He claimed to have changed dramatically and so, after a year of ignoring his texts, I agreed to go out with him on a couple dates, then on a short trip with him to see for myself. When he went RIGHT back to his old ways and I said “no thanks” to more of that shit, he told me “you haven’t changed at all!” Lol. Buddy, the onus was never on ME to change! He actually hoped that I had changed and wouldn’t “trigger” him, because you all are right - if they haven’t changed by say age 30, it’s not going to happen. He’s 43 btw, and will never face himself and never change.

circescircus · 2020-01-15T14:38:35+00:00

I don't think most LVM have the self-awareness or intelligence to connect the dots. A lot will continue to blame women and society for everything wrong in their life, until they die.

It's a good post, but she still gives men too much credit. They don't have the self-awareness or empathy to connect the dots like this.

The only time they'll regret a missed connection or opportunity, is if they see an ex and she looks great, has a better life than him. And even then, it's a case of wanting what you don't have, it's not a moment of reflection, where you suddenly appreciate what you once had.

And in any case, porn, video games, drugs, alcohol and manosphere sites are not going anywhere-- whenever they have bad feelings (which is very often), they'll indulge in those things. As they currently do, and will probably continue to do.

The human brain doesn't finish developing until around age 25. This is the age where people start to become who they are, and they largely don't change in major ways after that. If a man can't figure this stuff out from 25-30, he likely never will.

Killer_Bhree · 2020-01-15T14:36:35+00:00

I can think of a few people who needed to hear this years ago

Akuabafefe · 2020-01-15T14:42:35+00:00

THIS!! My God THIS!!!

HoneyNJ2000 · 2020-01-15T15:53:02+00:00

Meh...only the very astute ones will figure that out. Not holding out too much hope, however.

ritablueboys1 · 2020-01-15T18:45:45+00:00

I dont feel sorry for guys who do women wrong. Theyre just suffering from karma and want us to feel bad for them LOL

Kate-DaGr8 · 2020-01-15T18:50:41+00:00

How are they so dumb that they literally let base urges ruin their lives.

galizaceive · 2020-01-15T14:04:29+00:00

This, but including the part where they have to pay for sex

Lekina55 · 2020-01-15T19:56:37+00:00

No such thing as “no strings attached”. EVER

sweatydeath · 2020-01-15T17:16:58+00:00

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agnosticaPhoenix · 2020-01-15T15:13:20+00:00

Man you have got to be really desperate to put up with that though. Fantasy is infinitely better than that nightmare. I mean you'd have to be completely down on yourself.

Liz_Lemondrop · 2020-01-15T12:24:28+00:00

Fucking yes. To all this.

2020-01-15T16:25:50+00:00

This, soooo much!!!

throwaway64857 · 2020-01-15T17:43:14+00:00

Wow this perfectly describes one of my exes. Im glad someone put it onto words so well

ItsFreezen · 2020-01-15T14:01:37+00:00

This is gold.

thegifthatkeepson · 2020-01-15T16:12:04+00:00

That gave me chills!

v0426 · 2020-01-15T12:17:20+00:00

This one hit hard

Gostofrij · 2020-01-15T20:37:38+00:00

Apparently this is EXACTLY what happened to roosh v ... he got so high and mighty that he fell so far down.

2020-01-15T22:45:34+00:00

Selfishness comes with a price. This phrase is now etched into my mind, eternally.

okayrightsickcool · 2020-01-15T18:07:05+00:00

yes!!!

greenteaapplepie69 · 2020-01-15T22:26:33+00:00

I love this post. I’ve always hated how casual LVM treat everything. Compartmentalising love, sex and whatever else.

iLikeGooodboys · 2020-01-15T22:46:05+00:00

1 day they will be old bad and creepy and lonely and wont be able to attract women and will be begging for love and for a woman to wipe there ass and take care of them for ever.

k97aw01 · 2020-01-15T13:00:04+00:00

Oh snap.

hcnnch · 2020-01-15T22:54:20+00:00

This is so true, everything I’ve ever thought about casual no strings but never knew how to word it til now

kaylafakenameduhhh · 2020-01-15T22:00:40+00:00

This is too good of a point.

creepingforresearch · 2020-01-16T00:44:08+00:00

The check always comes due

inthelapofthegods_ · 2020-01-15T19:45:50+00:00

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Title	Consequences
Author	AntiCircles
Upvotes	1789
Comments	96
Date	January 15, 2020 12:15 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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