Heading towards 2022, what are your most memorable ‘if I could do it all over again’ experiences from dating?

firewithin89 · 2021-12-08T22:51:55+00:00

If I could have done it over, I would have never given my ex more than one chance, I would have never fallin for his empty promises and mind games, would have left at the first sign of disrespect… never again will I question my intuition.. my intuition has never failed me and has always proved true in the end.

prestigeworldwideee · 2021-12-08T23:25:10+00:00

This was eons ago but #1 "do over" is - I would have never given my ex of six years a second date. He was and still is below me. Dating me made him better and he almost sucked my soul out of me. A true male succubus. He is now someones husband and someones dad, ew, I should never have invested a second of my time into him.

Platipus6 · 2021-12-08T21:50:18+00:00

Haven't dated for 2 years and I'd do it all over again 😂

Decluttered my apartment and sold most of my nice office shirts

Doubled the amount of houseplants with successful propagation with no-one touching them or overwatering

Diet, sleep and exercise are on point with no-one 'encouraging' me to lay around watching tv all day, or getting take-out when it's his turn to cook

Found the perfect skincare and gave away incorrect products. Skin is glowing and I look a decade younger

Pandemic hair, yeah yeah. It's never been this long and luscious.

There were 2 men at the mall who were actually handsome and we did the eyebrow wiggle at each other. I've probably got my ovulation goggles on tho

Fat savings in my bank and I can comfortably move house at any time.

Time for the eastern third of Australia to get washed away in a biblical flood I guess 👍

her-vagesty · 2021-12-08T23:42:55+00:00

I spotted red flags very quickly and broke things off after date 2. I would have given chance after chance to them in the days before I found fds. I'm learning to trust my gut instinct too, if it feels off then it is off.

I'm going to stay away from dating for a while, focusing on healing myself, overcoming my eating disorder, and levelling up in other ways. I won't be able to find a good partner if I'm so unhappy with my self and my life.

furrtheladies · 2021-12-08T21:14:48+00:00

I wouldn’t have fallen into my old ways of using sex as a coping mechanism during stressful times. It led me to engage with the lowest of lows when it comes to the male species. I repeatedly accepted so much mistreatment in various forms all in the name of brief periods of company that I did not even enjoy.

I’m back in therapy and have since moved on (physically, at least) but I hurt for the little girl that resurfaced simply because she hadn’t truly built up mature coping mechanisms. It’s frustrating to be at this so-called adult age and still fall into unhealthy patterns but I recognize that I’m a work in progress that still needs to heal.

Turns out self work is an arduous marathon and it takes time to “reverse” neural networks that were established in childhood. I have a lot of hope, though! With each negative experience, I’ve learned more about myself and come to appreciate the progress I’ve made, despite sometimes relapsing.

rainbowshummingbird · 2021-12-09T01:02:31+00:00

I’ve learned some not no pleasant lessons. Like several other posters mentioned, no more second chances. One red flag, one niggling sense of discomfort and I’m done. No more of this girl who gives the benefit of the doubt type of nonsense to men who don’t deserve it. The next guy I meet who is still friends with his ex girlfriends, ex wife, ex fiancée, ex f buddy, etc; I’ll know better. Block, delete, move on.

RhiannonEmilia · 2021-12-09T00:16:52+00:00

I would have left at every first red flag. I say every because I was a mess this year and kept repeating the cycle with a new guy. No more of that BS in 2022 plz 🙃

Itsknowntohappen · 2021-12-08T22:27:58+00:00

Lots of offers in 2021, but none worth my time to date. I’m protective with my heart and who gets romantic access to my body.

There’s someone I’ve cared about for a couple years but that’s more like a dream I’ll keep to myself. Just focused on my career, friends, my art and taking care of myself.

Guyincognito9876 · 2021-12-09T04:56:05+00:00

I haven’t dated at all this year, and I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve been in years!

xfelugirlx · 2021-12-09T06:54:09+00:00

I got back at my normal weight and keep working out, skin glowing, stress free, biking like a pro, made some new girlfriends that are like a little family . Just so blessed to be out of that lvm relationship that i had, it feels so fucking great.

drslvtr · 2021-12-09T10:52:06+00:00

I'm learning not to say "if I could do it all over again".

Whatever I did in the past taught me so many valuable lessons. I'm trying to be okay with my younger self and show her compassion and understanding. Distancing and disassociating from those experiences hasn't been sitting right with me. Hence, the therapy. Of course I would do some things differently. But there's nothing I can do about any of that now. So I'm choosing to be grateful for my past and hopeful for my future.

MissouriBlue · 2021-12-09T09:11:51+00:00

I want to rewind to 13… I’m 55. 😢

GlitteryMoss · 2021-12-09T13:01:53+00:00

Taking time to not date at all and spend it all on me!

Determinedblonde · 2021-12-09T00:29:44+00:00

This year? Dating wise, I’ve only been with my bf all this time. (Thank F for that.)

If I could redo the year or change anything? I certainly wouldn’t have tried certain antidepressants, and I definitely would’ve moved out of my parents’ place much sooner.

I wouldn’t have tried to be nice to a couple of LVM incels that my friends insisting on including in on everything. One desperately chased all the women and the other insulted me. They’re long gone as we wanted 🙏🏻

Title	Heading towards 2022, what are your most memorable ‘if I could do it all over again’ experiences from dating?
Author	Bonds_Girl
Upvotes	152
Comments	34
Date	December 8, 2021 9:02 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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