i could throw up. they really don’t care about us.

RhiannonEmilia · 2020-12-13T15:31:13+00:00

Why is the worst offense all of a sudden kink shaming (SUCH a stupid ass term)?? Wtf!? Not rape, child abuse, trafficking... nope... just telling a dude he shouldn’t be watching porn. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤢

lilneccowafer · 2020-12-13T15:38:50+00:00

You suggested that people who like violent porn are likely to accept violence against women, which is horseshit

Do they hear themselves?? Watching that porn IS accepting violence against women

Diamond_fairy · 2020-12-13T15:37:42+00:00

The only positive thing about porn being so blatantly normalized is that it gives us the possibility to immediately cut out porn-sick people from our life, as they're not even trying to conceal it and some are even proud of their addiction.

Disgusting, even more when I see pickmes going in defense mode to be the doormat of the situation.

__kamikaze__ · 2020-12-13T15:21:19+00:00

Pickmes like her are the worst. They always become excessively passive aggressive and use profanities while you calmly try to explain things.

Hardwatergal · 2020-12-13T15:01:53+00:00

The normalisation of porn is truly sickening. I will never ever date a man who uses porn ever again. NEVER.

redwineandsolitude · 2020-12-13T16:23:12+00:00

“Stop trying to get stuff banned just cause you don’t like it!!!” I wonder if that guy has the same argument for banning meth, slavery, child workers, child porn, cigarettes, assault rifles, the list goes on.

Princess_kitty14 · 2020-12-13T14:39:08+00:00

good, because i don't care about them either

HexyHag · 2020-12-13T15:30:19+00:00

"Tf am I supposed to jack off to?" It's amazing how many of these oh-so-smart and logical men lack the ability for creative abstract thinking. Must take a truly dull mind.

ima35yearoldwhiteman · 2020-12-13T14:58:52+00:00

“I like violent pornography and I’m a woman” - lmao wait until she finds out the vast majority of men who are into that would have genuine gratification in harming women like us and her in real life.

getbentgent · 2020-12-13T14:59:04+00:00

It's always been that way, they are just being more blatant with it now that their precious pornhub is under fire

TheSuspiciousChard · 2020-12-13T16:04:08+00:00

Pretty sure that sub is filled with pedophiles and rapists.

AyemHerself · 2020-12-13T16:01:43+00:00

"I'm a woman and those stats are wrong. You know this because I said so."

Kimpractical · 2020-12-13T15:21:08+00:00

She keeps saying you don’t understand it but what is there to understand? Yes, people can watch violent things and not be violent themselves... it’s ‘just a fantasy’, right? But why is that your fantasy? Why do you think that’s a healthy fantasy to have? I’m an ex-porn watcher and it really does mess with your brain. I have anxiety and depression and all it did was make my symptoms worst... it was the only way I could orgasm though, but I never felt good after watching it. I only felt more disgusted with myself. I know everyone feels that why after watching it but they brush those feelings off because it’s so normalized and accepted now. We have to make them realize that those feelings are not normal and healthy... I’m pessimistic about it though because we can’t even get people to understand the importance of wearing a mask during a pandemic... forget about trying to tell them what to do with their penises 🙄

lellanc · 2020-12-13T15:27:27+00:00

God I wish these people were as much “oppressed” as they claim to be

FrequentPoetry · 2020-12-13T16:48:53+00:00

lol i honestly dont have patience to deal with women like that. this sounds bad but let their stupid pickme attitudes get them fucked up so they can learn their lesson. in my heart im always like "women are raised in a society with misogyny at its core and will obviously internalize - its not their fault" but when you deal with SO MANY dumb women like that who have no problem throwing others under the bus just so they can look cOoL to men, you realize that life will teach them what they shut their eyes to through critical thinking, empathy and self respect.

cool girl charade wont get you far, bb. enjoy the violent pornography! also enjoy getting cheated on, disrespected, perhaps sexually assaulted and manipulated and thrown in the garbage for a 20 year old once you're older. bet you'll come to reddit to make excuses for your pornsick forever BF once that happens ❤

BasieSkanks · 2020-12-13T17:23:29+00:00

When even pornstars don't like porn, that's when you know it's really bad. There's not a single ex-pornstar (because the current ones can't speak out if they want work) have anything good to say about the industry. Not one.

asteria2002 · 2020-12-13T15:09:58+00:00

Well what did you expect from men. Porn is made for them, they love the trafficked women and rape it turns them on more to know they are watching real rape.

Tartsandlemons · 2020-12-13T15:37:05+00:00

Unfortunately I was on the side of “porn isn’t that bad” for a long time, it was not until I read some things in this sub and talked with some excellent female friends that I started putting 2 and 2 together. In my personal life I definitely had bad sexual/emotional experiences with men that admitted to watching porn regularly. Obviously I cannot conclude that that’s a rule for every man, but if I was actively dating today I wouldn’t give a chance to guys that openly admit to watching woman being exploited for their own pleasure.

LadyGrimes · 2020-12-13T15:56:51+00:00

HURR DURR DON'T KINK SHAME MEH!/s

RamenUndergraduate · 2020-12-13T17:25:03+00:00

Imagine defending porn. Couldn't be me.

Hennyyenni · 2020-12-13T17:30:33+00:00

I’m currently arguing in a thread where the OP Said “just because I watch porn doesn’t mean I’m okay with my daughter making porn”. Like that makes you a hypocrite. If you acknowledge that the porn industry is undesirable why the fuck do you support it? And also you don’t have to be okay with anything, if your daughter is an adult she doesn’t need your ok. (Even though porn is horrible)

yesmme · 2020-12-13T17:47:23+00:00

PickMes are so dangerous. I can smell a rape apologist just from reading that horse shit she wrote. She would be like Ghislaine Maxwell

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2020-12-13T21:42:03+00:00

The only argument she's presenting is a word salad of clichés:

"you can't tar everyone with the same brush"
"fits your narrative"
"you don't understand"

This lady is poster child for PickMe culture, "your brain on porn" and the abysmal state of education in the USA (and probably elsewhere in the world).

gregorygregg_greg · 2020-12-13T18:50:31+00:00

I'm so tired of people acting like there's just two possible explanations for why some people (mostly men) like violent porn --- a) they're all rapists and terrible human beings, or b) violent porn is perfectly okay and should be celebrated.

I'm a woman. I liked violent porn because it was closer to my sexual experiences (that's fucked up, right?). It didn't make me a rapist, but it didn't make my behavior perfectly healthy either. I was in a deeply unhealthy place and I needed professional help. Porn made my healing process significantly more difficult than it would have been otherwise.

With therapy, my fantasies over time got less and less violent. But when I'd log on to pornhub I'd start off with non-violent videos, but gradually would have more and more violent stuff recommended to me. It was only when I got strong enough to completely give up on porn that I finally got my shit figured out.

2020-12-13T21:06:41+00:00

I hate when pickmes say "well I'm a woman and I like it so it's fine". That doesn't make it ok! Women can participate in the abuse and degradation of other women too.

youdipthong · 2020-12-13T20:20:56+00:00

I like violent pornography and I am a woman

So pick me... Choose me... Love me...

PasDeTout · 2020-12-13T23:43:20+00:00

Oh noes! Not kinkshaming! So much worse than rape and exploitation.

Title	i could throw up. they really don’t care about us.
Author	fdsaltt
Upvotes	370
Comments	59
Date	December 13, 2020 2:30 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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