I think the reason men move on so quickly as if they never cared is because they never actually invested themselves into the relationship or their partner

CatsOnTheLaptopAgain · 2020-04-19T18:50:59+00:00

As far as certain men are concerned, women fulfill a certain role in their life. That's why you have older men remarrying within weeks of a long-term wife dying, especially in non-Western societies. Similarly, for a lot of younger men, the women they're seeing are little more than eye candy or warm holes, to use the crassest possible term. But that's the role they serve, and are replaced easily enough because there's no dearth of pick-mes out there. The LVMs who don't move on are more dangerous though, imo. They will actively cripple a woman psychologically and even physically, to make sure she never leaves.

throwaway23004345 · 2020-04-19T19:18:38+00:00

That’s because men always put themselves first, even in relationships

Logical-Influence · 2020-04-19T17:43:39+00:00

I think they start to “care” that they are alone about two weeks into the breakup. That’s when the regret sets in. The fake suicide texts etc.

ErikaNaumann · 2020-04-19T19:06:53+00:00

They move on quickly because a) they were never in love and b) they want sex with whomever, so they will trick another "feeeeeemale" into a false relationship

brainsandb00bs · 2020-04-19T18:15:49+00:00

Yup it’s because they were not as invested and do not care.

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-04-19T17:46:34+00:00

Yes. Males are the more dramatic and sensitive sex. The women in my life are all very independent and levelheaded, while the men are weak and emotional. It’s true they don’t always speak their feelings, but they tend to show their feelings by drinking, smoking, and being overall fucked up. There’s no way they are capable of “hiding” their feelings. Unless they never cared in the first place.

even_thriller · 2020-04-19T22:36:08+00:00

I also think men emotionally distance themselves right before they're about to break up with someone, sometimes even months before. They "check out" mentally and eventually just pull the plug. Sometimes they never really even check in to the relationship at all like you said.

__kamikaze__ · 2020-04-19T20:50:19+00:00

They only care about what they get from you. LVM mostly want sex and a mommy figure, unfortunately in today’s society Pickmeishas readily supply this to them.

girludontbringhome · 2020-04-19T20:55:34+00:00

Women can also move on quickly (and should tbh). I had a break-up 2 months ago from a guy I was in a relationship with for 4 months (so yeah I know not that long but I have not had any relationships lasting longer that), who ghosted me right after breaking up with me over the phone, but I honestly could have jumped to a new relationship the next day. It was a huge struggle during the last half of the relationship. I kept trying to make it work, but he was constantly making me upset by his inconsistency, sometimes being super invested and other times ignoring me for days. I actually tried to end it earlier but he kept insisting he would be better. I thought when things finally ended I would be a mess (because I have been after a past relationship that lasted a similar length of time) and I think that is why I was so scared to be firm with him and cut things off myself. That, and he was actually a really sweet guy when we had first started dating (as they all are). As soon as he dumped me (over the phone) and promptly ghosted me I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders, and actually have been so much happier since. I would have felt no reservations going into a relationship right after, but I had just not met any guy I like since the break-up so I have not. Yes, I could have sulked because I was broken up over the phone and ghosted right before Valentine's, but I did not because he is really not worth it. Every woman should have that mindset. And of course, moving on does not necessarily mean you have to start dating someone else, it means not using up any headspace on men that are low value and not worth any of your time.

2020-04-19T18:04:32+00:00

Agree 100%

saint-jezebel · 2020-04-19T22:23:48+00:00

I think some are missing the point (those who are following the narrative that men hide their feelings). Men are action oriented. Even if they are "hiding their emotions" if they are acting in a way to express that, and really express they want you back and not the typical "I miss you" nonsense, what hes hiding is moot; he does not care to come back and shows that whether he did or didnt invest, his actions, even lackof, only show he didnt or doesnt want to any further.

college3709 · 2020-04-19T19:00:46+00:00

I never thought of it this way and it makes so much f*in sense !!! Wow!! 🤯

BubblyKraken · 2020-04-20T08:39:28+00:00

While this is true for many cases, i think it may have more to do with emotional immaturity and their pride. As they usually want to be the first one to move to someone else. Also they do not process their feelings the same way we do. So they are not "hiding away" feelings becase they are not aware of them in the first place or are in deep denial. But if there really was something, it will have an echo through his behaviour & it will affect the next person who will probably be Bob the Builder.

redhairedasian · 2020-04-19T18:43:06+00:00

I think it depends. Women can move on quickly too. What’s over is already over. Moving on doesn’t mean that things you’ve had with each other meant nothing. I know there are some guys who are the type of people you mention here, but I just wanna say I think moving on quickly doesn’t show anything. A lot of people can fall in love so passionately but also move on so quickly. Everyone has their own timeline and we shouldn’t apply it to them. In my opinion, those posts like this just make more women feel insecure or afraid to move on quickly (which might be good because it means that you’re able to find peace again) because they worry about people’s judgments.

darling89 · 2020-04-19T21:09:41+00:00

It's possible but men are prone to pushing down their feelings n then it festers.

2020-04-20T00:37:49+00:00

amen!

Title	I think the reason men move on so quickly as if they never cared is because they never actually invested themselves into the relationship or their partner
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Date	April 19, 2020 5:36 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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