Just take your fine ass and walk away. Let the entire man go. We always see couples who "take breaks" every so often, and then end up breaking up for good. "Space" is the cowards way out of things, here's why.
Giving a man space gives him the ability to see how far he can push your boundaries.
Men and women operate in substantially different ways when it comes to dating. For many men, pulling away is a manipulation tactic employed by them to see how far they can test your boundaries. If the communication was great at the beginning of the relationship, and suddenly it drops off, of course there's red flags that are raised. When you aptly call him out on this behaviour, he states, "he needs space" and doesn't really have a valid reason for it. This "space" that you're giving him means most likely, he's exploring his other options and wanting your blessing nefariously under the guise of "space". Don't fall for it. Most men won't pull away from a woman they're interested in unless there's someone else lined up to take her place. During his time of "space" and "finding himself", he'll find himself in the beds of many other women.
Giving a man space gives him the ability to mask his trials and tribulations and hinders him from expressing his true, authentic self.
We all go through hard times in life, we're human after all. Yes, in some situations, men pull away because they're under stress whether it's work or family related. When you're in a relationship with someone, your natural inclination is to help them overcome struggles emotionally. Since women are naturally more empathetic, we have a penchant for being a great listening ear when it comes to situations like this. If a man pulls away and uses these scenarios as an excuse, it shows he's not willing to open up to you and be completely emotionally vulnerable.
Giving a man space and taking him back means you've accepted this behaviour and he's going to keep doing it, over and over again.
When you go to an antique store full of valuable items, time is of the essence. If you walk by an item you've fallen in love with, stare at it for a few minutes, and decide to come back the next day to purchase it the likelihood of the item still being there is slim to none. Being willing and available to take a man back every time he comes back from taking his "space" means you've accepted that this behaviour is OK and lessens your value. A man will never respect you if you keep taking him back after his periods of taking space. For example, if a man takes days to respond to your message (and you've been dating), match his energy by blocking and deleting him. Clearly, he doesn't value you or your time, and responding to him after it takes days for him to responds shows him you're ok with this treatment. If you respond angrily, that's exactly what he wants. Just. Block. And. Delete.
Since you're a HVW, you need to show him that he can have all the space he wants, and he can't come back because someone else will appreciate your energy and cherish you.
If a man proclaims he needs space, let him go. Nothing good comes out of taking a man back who pulls away.
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What if he’s asking for space during something serious like family issues? Him and I got in an argument during a time when his estranged family members were arguing about who to invite to a wedding. My boyfriend told me he needed space because he’s very overwhelmed & that I wasn’t being supportive during these times “You know I’m not a very emotional person & always try to stay positive but I’m having a really hard time right now.” Is what he told me.
The family drama has gotten so intense that his immediate family has been uninvited to the wedding…
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Yes…I overreacted when he showed up to my house later than we planned. I yelled at him for a good minute. Poor guy was running late because his stomach was ill. He had never been late before so I accused him of not caring that he was late to our only day together that week.
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