Is this something to be concerned about? I have no idea how to repond

plutunic · 2020-03-12T11:57:31+00:00

mentioning something sexual early on in conversation

block, always

curlygirl507 · 2020-03-12T12:13:37+00:00

He's trying to set it up so you'll come to his place, he'll randomly get naked (excused with this text), and then you'll sleep with him. Block and next.

understatedalways · 2020-03-12T12:16:11+00:00

He’s being perverted in a way that has you questioning if he’s being perverted. He’s manipulative. Block him.

AlexxyaKat · 2020-03-12T11:39:58+00:00

It doesn’t sound normal to me. Who goes on to mention spmething like this if they’re not after something?

Radiant_Success · 2020-03-12T12:29:09+00:00

Girl, if he's telling you that his weird ass is odd, believe him.

Do you want to try a date with a random weirdo or not?? If yes, then continue the conversation and pray that he picks you. If not, then block and move on, no response necessary.

Edit: I mean he is literally up here telling you "I am strange as fuck" and you're wondering if you should be concerned. He's telling you that he has problematic and odd behavior, in order to "do things right" it requires venting (this is a weird ass statement if ive ever heard one...), and he's stating that he "behaves well in public" as if this is a great accomplishment! As if his weird ass is proud that he doesnt act a complete fool in public. He's letting you know up front that his weird ass feels free to be an absolute nut behind closed doors.

Is this what you are seeking?? Please wake up.

Diamondsareagirlsbff · 2020-03-12T11:48:40+00:00

I feel like he actively wants it to be a big deal or weird in some way. This leads me to think he is either terribly insecure, or, what I think is more likely, he’s cultivating his persona as ‘kooky’ which I find a turn-off.

StillAwakeofCourse · 2020-03-12T13:25:10+00:00

This conversation is being typed one handed.

MuttonDressedAsGoose · 2020-03-12T14:42:21+00:00

This is off. He's set you up to ask him to tell you what the issue is. And then it's sexual.

Plenty of people like to be naked at home. They don't generally think it's something they need to talk about.

Parking-Act · 2020-03-12T14:43:25+00:00

The fact that he says behaves well in public as if its taking everything in him not to behave well in public. This man is a future or probably current flasher, exposing himself to others in alleys and in the back of the bus or tube/train. Home nudist is his way of dipping into that territory. There's a difference between walking around your home naked because its your home and you feel comfortable that way. As opposed to walking around your house naked with hopes and goals of being "caught" naked, he's a voyeuristic perv.

hapahunnie · 2020-03-12T15:06:16+00:00

The fact that he said he has a “few odd behaviors” screams “I have horrible coping mechanisms” to me. He’s basically giving you a warning that he expects you to be his mommy, therapist, and enabler right off the bat... Big yikes territory. Also it should be expected that one behaves well in public- not something we should be rewarding men for; what are we supposed to do? Carry treats in our pockets for every time they don’t bark at someone or check another girl out? End of rant I’m making myself nauseous 🤒

sholybaby · 2020-03-12T16:07:57+00:00

He’s....Disgusting lol. I’ve talked to men like this before. The next thing you know he is going to be asking you to get naked on camera with him and trying to undress the very first chance he gets with you.

Trust your gut But if it were me, I’d be sending him to the block party 🎉

summerspring_ · 2020-03-12T12:47:16+00:00

It also sounds kinda fake. Like he is doing this for shits and giggles, with all women he matches with to see what their response is. He sounds like he has too much time on his hands.

Kekekeke7777 · 2020-03-12T12:29:07+00:00

This is like a precursor to internet flashing.

Kindly_Cupcake · 2020-03-12T13:31:06+00:00

There is nothing weird about being nude in your own home.

There IS something weird about making it some big thing. Like, this is his own little personal rebellion? Being pantsless in your own house? I guess there are worse things.

I wonder if this is some sort of trickle truth thing, like, he just happens to be nude in front of open windows for a thrill, or. I mean, I don't know, maybe he's a good enough guy that doing something perfectly normal like lounging around au naturel feels transgressive, but it feels like way too much work to try to find out. I'd take a pass.

2020-03-12T15:02:29+00:00

"Doing things right most of the time requires some form of venting" actually it doesn't if your "good person" act is genuine and not an act, but ok.

This guy is telling you the excuse he's going to use to violate you and tell you he already warned you. Listen to him.

level_up_always · 2020-03-12T15:41:51+00:00

what a fricken weirdo dude sounds like he has some bodies at home too

miz_nyc · 2020-03-12T14:04:59+00:00

OMG block his ass

Pipulka · 2020-03-12T16:40:45+00:00

Nudists make me retch. Imagine living across from one.

aclumsygirl · 2020-03-12T16:15:15+00:00

Omg. No. NO

freerollerskates · 2020-03-12T11:28:33+00:00

I mean, I know a lot of people who don't wear clothes at home. If he puts pants on if people come round what is the issue? He's not hurting anyone of he lives alone. Has he asked you to do anything that you feel uncomfortable with? It's a bit weird telling you up front, but maybe he doesn't want to waste his time with someone who would be uncomfortable with that.

ames0630 · 2020-03-12T12:50:32+00:00

Could this be his attempt at a joke? I literally laughed out loud when I read it. Plus, I value transparency so definitely dig the upfront disclosures.

That said, I'm with the consensus here. Trust your gut, OP. If he doesnt vibe right, block and move on. If his reference to nudity even hints sexual, block and move on.

Title	Is this something to be concerned about? I have no idea how to repond
Author	Practical_Appearance
Upvotes	60
Comments	43
Date	March 12, 2020 11:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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