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[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple 215 points216 points217 points 5 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
Me: Whenever you give me the silent treatment, I feel... Him: So then don’t feel that way! Me: Oh, I see now. Problem solved!
NVMs and LVMs are brilliant when it comes to emotional intelligence. 💡
[–]volcanic_equationFDS Newbie 72 points73 points74 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Nice. What a smart boy he is.
This is exactly why I’ll never stick around for another silent treatment ever again. No trying to explain how shitty it feels. No asking what happened.
By the time they decide to reappear, I’m gone. 👻✌🏼
[–][deleted] 85 points86 points87 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is what some stupid therapist say as well. “Well maybe you can choose to feel something else! Maybe you can choose happiness! Maybe you can choose to be positive!” When the problem is clearly someone disrespecting your boundaries.
[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple 51 points52 points53 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I saw a tee shirt that said “Choose Joy!” Like people are depressed or anxious by choice? Get outta here and take your fucking tee shirt with you.
[–][deleted] 40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Literally. It’s actually triggering, for those who have trauma. Like, thanks for belittling and minimizing my suffering, and also for blaming it on the victim.
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[–][deleted] 18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Holy shit that guy was a fucking sadistic psycho!!! Are you ok? Seriously what the FUCK?
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This sounds horrific. I’m sending you a big virtual hug sis. ❤️ I hope someone bites his dick.
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Damn that’s some powerful neck muscles I guess
[–]thecrazywitch31FDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's not your fault for saying he could bite you in bed. Kink is another thing. He was probably just looking for an excuse to hurt you. And btw are you OK ? Should have reported that a-hole to police.
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Apprentice 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Me: I feel like I'm not being heard or taken seriously Him: you just feel that way. Its not what's actually happening. You're wrong.
Wow, why didn't I think of that!
[–]shaezammFDS Newbie 15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Oh yeah, problem solved right?! Mine used to scream at me and threaten me, then demand that I stop being scared! Just wow
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[–]shaezammFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, wow. That’s just so wrong, these idiots are so bloody entitled! I don’t get it it’s disturbing how oblivious they are to themselves
[–]geologykittyFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had that happen too. Hugs.
[–]volcanic_equationFDS Newbie 229 points230 points231 points 5 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link
The really slimy ones will:
Apologize (because he wants you to stop talking)
Flip the conversation into how sad he is, for disappointing you. So please, don’t bring this up anymore... His widdle heart can’t bear to upset you. 🥺
Insist that you guys “move on” from this. He can’t stand conflict and negativity. He’s a nice guy, after all.
Suggest you give him a blow job, now that your “emotional crisis” is (finally!) over.
[–]thinktwiceorelseFDS Newbie 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so accurate it's actually scary.
[–]thecrazywitch31FDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ohhh this happened to me too. Also, I didn't realize I was a pickmeisha until after. It feels horrible being the "pick me" girl. The jealousy, the pressure to please... And you end up ignoring the obvious red flags because you're so hell bent on impressing the dude.
[–]whitefox00FDS Newbie 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow, this was my ex husbands playbook.
[–]getrippeddiemirin 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You’ve perfectly summarized DARVO Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Oppressor
[–]quasarbarFDS Newbie 201 points202 points203 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
"I'm not necessarily able or willing to know what you want or need." - My ex (emphasis added)
[–]FURYOFCAPSLOCKFDS Newbie 119 points120 points121 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"I don't have time to babysit your feelings!" - My narc ex, said as he played a video game
[–]dembar126FDS Newbie 105 points106 points107 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In other words "don't have emotions, just shut up and be my fleshlight".
[–]QueenPondorkisThrowaway Account 16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Similar one from my ex- “I never want to talk to you about serious things because you just always end up crying and it makes me feel like a horrible person”. Gaslighting to the extreme
[–]justforfdsFDS Newbie 53 points54 points55 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Jfc. He asked to be your ex but was enjoying the benefits too much to end it himself.
Men don't listen to women but their lack of logic and dishonesty trips them up in disputes and they reveal themselves.
[–]miasmicivyphsycFDS Newbie 500 points501 points502 points 5 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
It’s sad because I go into sub Reddit‘s regarding relationships and every post made by a woman is so sad. It always goes “my name is XXX and I am 22 years old and my partner is 35 years old and we’ve been dating for 10 years. I have asthma but he keeps blowing cigarette smoke in my face how can I kindly tell him to stop? Edit: oh my God Guy stop saying that he’s abusive he’s great except for the fact that he killed my dog, he opened a bank account in my name and spent all our money on fortnight Vbox and never wiped his ass so I have to do skidmark laundry.”
Meanwhile everything with a guy it’s like; “my pregnant wife who has heart conditions is annoyed that I never do the laundry even though I work full-time (casually omits the part where she also works full-time) and I think I should dump her also child support is literal rape.“
[–]EarthEmpressFDS Newbie 175 points176 points177 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
One of the saddest ones I read was where a guy tore up and threw away his girlfriend’s quilts and didn’t understand why she left for her mother’s.
Or there was a woman on legal advice who’s husband just left and took all the money out of the bank accounts (she was a SAHM for years) and thought he could just get away with it and not owe alimony or child support
[–]atouchofrazzledazzleFDS Newbie 78 points79 points80 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so spot-on it's sad.
[–]RecentSprinkles5997FDS Newbie 228 points229 points230 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
The age gap in Reddit relationships is real I’m always doing math like wait WAT
[–]trumpslefttitFDS Newbie 113 points114 points115 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I cannot unsee it any more. At least a lot of people are pointing out that it’s inappropriate.
[–]sashimi_girlFDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agreed. Definitely still not a good place to be a woman (relationship sub) but I do think there’s been some improvement, I see commenters pointing out unhealthy power dynamics and age differences waaay more.
[–]Watzoo59 points 5 years ago* [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Omg, I’m so glad it’s not just me. I seriously just huddle in FDS with PTSD from all the other subreddits, like WAT IS HAPPEN THIS CRAZY DUMP HIM GURL.
Like, doesn’t typing it all out make any woman super uncomfortable? Or is this literally what the world of men has to offer women nowadays? Seriously, I want to know - if it’s the latter, I need to talk to my niece immediately about her future prospects.
[–]Mme_MaePickmeisha™️ 52 points53 points54 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And the responses are always "well have you considered giving him a smoke room or just going into another room? It's toxic you don't accomodate for his needs."
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
YoU nEeD tO cOmMuNiCaTe.
[–]soundslikeautumnFDS Newbie 40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This really does sum up the relationship post differences on relationship subreddits.
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie 16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
>(casually omits the part where she also works full-time)
Ohhh girl, too real... Why is this every male redditor who asks for HeLp on that subreddit? I swear they all come off as satan incarnate. They can save the drama for their mama!
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
One good thing from these posts is that hopefully each one saves many overly hopeful and naive women who otherwise would ignore red flags.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel so bad cracking up at this 🤣🤣🤣
[–]ladynotmyproblem 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
my coworker who’s gf is 9 months pregnant has been complaint about how annoying her anxiety is....like dude what???
He talked for an hour saying “what does she expect me to do? I know she’s anxious but I mean relax and shut up for a bit, ya know? I’m tired after work and there’s nothing I can do about the baby and she just goes on and on”. SHE EXPECTS YOU TO LISTEN LOSER.
I called him out and said that he knows she has anxiety, she’s freaked out about having to push a human life out and he said I’m taking it out of context and he needs to vent to....vent about his heavily pregnant gf...okay...
[–]vita_miaFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes! All of this.
Also SO tired of the CONSTANT misinformed comments that suggest women are favored in court systems when it comes to custody. MEn sTand nO ChaNcE in COuRt.
THIS IS NOT F*CKING TRUE. Women lose custody ALL the time to pricks. My mom worked as a PO in the court systems for years and specifically worked with custody cases — the myth that women have an advantage in court is perpetuated by men who lie like losers on the Internet.
[–]BezzazzFDS Newbie 56 points57 points58 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not sure what's worse. Telling them your needs and they outright berate you for them, or telling them your needs and having them pretend to listen, but never actually make any effort to meet them.
[–]volcanic_equationFDS Newbie 30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Both are awful and destructive.
The former might be better detected as a red flag, for someone who hasn’t already been completely drained of their self-esteem.
Unfortunately, most abusive partners employ both tactics to maximize results.
[–]americansunflowerFDS Newbie 56 points57 points58 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My dad would tell me almost this exact same thing. I once said ‘I need to be able to tell you how I’m feeling’ he replied ‘oh for god sake not that again’ ...
[–]Whateverbabe2FDS Apprentice 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You had a shit dad, omg
[–]americansunflowerFDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s sad cause I love him a lot but he never took it upon himself to do the work even though I suggested loads of books to him. They just sit unread on his nightstand :( x
[–]randomdazeeFDS Apprentice[S] 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hope it’s okay that I left the artist’s Instagram in the photo, she is hilarious and very FDS minded! Definitely follow her!
[–]thegenuinedarkflyFDS Newbie 42 points43 points44 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Artists like credit for their work. You did the right thing.
[–][deleted] 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would find this funny if it wasn't so relatable 😐 I honestly cry for my younger self when I think of how I allowed myself to be treated.
The drawing of the guy even looks like the NVM who abused me, beanie and all 🤢
[–]IDontAgreeSorryFDS Newbie 40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
This made me think about the woman with the poop flakes husband lmao.
[–]CynicalSucculentFDS Newbie 55 points56 points57 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
the woman with the what
[–]IDontAgreeSorryFDS Newbie 31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
About 1 week ago on r slash something something a woman was asking for advice on what to do about her husband not wiping his ass and picking the dried poop crumbs/flakes between his ass hairs and throwing it everywhere (like on the bed under the blankets), she’d find poop flakes all around the house
[–]Sakurablossom90FDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
🤢🤮
[–]CynicalSucculentFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nooooooo why are men like this
[–][deleted] 23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bet you regret asking now 😩
[–]Catharticoverdrive 73 points74 points75 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly I dont think I even need FDS (but the commentary here is perfect.)
Like my social anxiety is enough to keep me away from them. If a person shows the slightest irritation and said this to me id freak out, cry, and then ghost.
[–][deleted] 44 points45 points46 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am like you but I have assumed my needs are unreasonable and I am an entitled baby for not wanting to be with men who insult me to my face. 🤡don't be like me.
[–]maznykFDS Newbie 29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Homeboy is already walking ahead of her, leaving her behind. His phone’s in his hand, he was just giving his attention to his online relationships when she had the gall to speak to him while they were spending time together in the physical world. It makes me really really sad how familiar the situation pictured is.
[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple 21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s so fitting that Rachel is wearing a cute dress and accessories and has done her hair and make-up whereas Brody hasn’t brushed his hair in ages and his sweater looks dirty and just sort of hangs on his potato-shaped bod.
Run, Rachel, run!
[–]VelvettcumFDS Newbie 20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No surprise that most LVM look like that.
[–]thedutchqueenFDS Newbie 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
omfg rachel you’re so needy i don’t have time for this
This is so true.
[–]snakelegs23FDS Newbie 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Looks and sounds like my ex! Good riddance!
[–]daisy_0720FDS STRATEGY COACH 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And naturally, he's walking three feet in front of her. Fucker.
[–]warinmymind94FDS Disciple 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can HEAR this drawing in my head - I literally can imagine some scrote scoffing with that disgusted pretentious tone!
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