Listen up Buttercup

nruthh · 2020-01-11T03:20:15+00:00

They act like it’s so damn hard. It really is this easy.

zuzumotai · 2020-01-11T06:25:58+00:00

My first boyfriend won me over with small, thoughtful gestures in high school. I said I was really craving some hot chocolate, while we were all playing an online game together. He lived down the street from me. Ten minutes later, he shows up at my door with hot chocolate and three girl scout cookies arranged on a cute tray. It didn't cost him anything, but the thoughtfulness made my heart leap. If he won candy at an event and didn't want it, he'd leave it taped to my door with a note. He'd come over just to accompany me while I walked the dog. Just showing care and thoughtfulness is so important. It doesn't have to be grand, expensive gestures. You just have to show that you're thinking. That you care. That you listen. It's really that simple.

redbirdflies · 2020-01-11T03:40:01+00:00

And they whine about us being gold diggers. That’s a fallacy This is all we want. Someone who has good intentions and pays enough attention to us to make us feel special. It’s not too much to ask.

CloacaDiddler · 2020-01-11T05:21:08+00:00

I was blown away just reading this, why isn’t stuff like this more common? We act like men are sent from god for managing basic human achievements, and run the risk of being forever alone if we raise our standards to where they should be

LurkForYourLives · 2020-01-11T06:10:12+00:00

I used to have a pretty great man but he died.

Once I was driving to see him and I saw a beautiful bank of thistles flowering by the side of the road. I stopped, took a picture to share with him, and brought him one I’d picked.

He cried.

That’s how simple it is to be kind and show your love.

starsheepie · 2020-01-11T12:26:48+00:00

I did this for an ex-BF LVM who didn't deserve or appreciate it much, but with his favorite thing: bananas. Got him all types of banana flavored treats, accessories, toys, a book about the fruit, etc.

The lesson I learned from that relationship was to only expend that type of generosity & thoughtfulness on a HVM who's worth it & will reciprocate.

Jay-quellen · 2020-01-11T15:18:02+00:00

The real gift here is feeling heard, respected, and loved by your partner - in the end, that’s what matters most.

noduckshere94 · 2020-01-11T08:44:40+00:00

For Christmas one of my exes got me a non-wrapped, cracked case , J. Cole album ( He liked J. Cole, I hadn't even known him) that he had picked up from his job at Best Buy. Later on that night he asked me to download the songs to my computer so I could send them to him digitally... I said nothing.

cachecowgirl · 2020-01-11T03:25:28+00:00

That is really, really cute! Good job!

HesterLePrynne · 2020-01-11T03:08:17+00:00

What a fine young man!

2020-01-11T05:08:46+00:00

awww love this :)

w0manifest · 2020-01-11T12:32:15+00:00

My husband and I met last semester of college where we were assigned seats next to each other. He would regularly wake up at 4AM to bake fresh bread and pies to give me during our 8AM class. We weren't even dating yet. Yeah it doesn't take a lot of money to show a woman you care about her???

OsamaBenLadle · 2020-01-11T06:27:25+00:00

What do you think he’d put in the bag when I tell him my favorite color is green 👀

2020-01-11T08:16:17+00:00

The bar is set so, so low.

Cachecash · 2020-01-11T06:43:20+00:00

I dated a cop once and he asked me what my favorite color was, I told him green. The next day he comes over with the ugliest, I mean fucking hideous, lumpy forest green comforter for my bed. I had mentioned I needed a new comforter but that was something I wanted to pick out and just because green is my favorite color doesn’t mean I want my bed covered in it!

That relationship didn’t last long. He meant well and was super sweet but also scary stalky. He routinely showed up to my apartment unannounced and once after I told him I was sick and couldn’t go out (I was attempting to cut ties at that point). So yeah, be careful dating cops.

capresesalad1985 · 2020-01-11T03:51:33+00:00

God damn it now I want Reese’s....

yeontanw · 2020-01-11T16:06:56+00:00

Reminds me of how this one guy really seemed to have caught up on me liking pink a lot. Never did anything about it.

Rattleshakes1 · 2020-01-11T20:05:05+00:00

What the fuck is a ‘male lurker’?

Kwint86 · 2020-01-12T08:15:53+00:00

Wait, dudes don't do this kinda thing?

pussygamestrong · 2020-01-11T08:12:12+00:00

100% this

TERFcraft · 2020-01-17T13:43:34+00:00

The bar is so low. A man doesn't rape a woman at a party and he's praised, they need to step up.

essentialcitrus · 2020-01-11T06:00:00+00:00

No one else finds this creepy and over the top?

fckingmiracles · 2020-01-11T10:58:49+00:00

Sounds like the beginning of a stalker to me.

hichewz · 2020-01-11T05:26:54+00:00

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Title	Listen up Buttercup
Author	pokersnob
Upvotes	1878
Comments	58
Date	January 11, 2020 2:59 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/en1s7e/listen_up_buttercup/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/listen-up-buttercup.685076 https://theredarchive.com/post/685076

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