LVM/NVM thinks gift cards are an acceptable gift for GF. Thread is full of neckbeards defending him/telling her to cOmMunIcAte her needs to him.

ASeaOfQuotes · 2020-12-04T23:44:59+00:00

I would take bets on him being the one who broke that necklace, probably in a fit of rage during a break up. Also bets on him holding onto bitter feelings about “ungrateful” women, hence not bothering to gift his actual girlfriend anything of significance. He is the one comparing, not her. He wouldn’t have held onto a broken piece of jewelry unless he was equally holding onto bitterness and regret.

2020-12-05T02:51:29+00:00

In my opinion he doesn’t like the new gf nearly as much as his ex. He is still holding onto the necklace like he’s hoping she will come back or as a sentimental thing. But he won’t buy the new gf jewelry. Neck beards always stick together never believe lies.

enoughalready4me · 2020-12-04T23:49:29+00:00

My last mother's day with my ex, he ran up to Walmart day-of and got me some bags of gummy bears and handed them to me. Was confused when I was displeased. I bore you 2 children & this is the best you can do? Don't miss him. Today, picked my kids up at school & one asked "why are there flowers in the car?"

"Because I buy them for myself now."

"That's awesome, mom!"

dreaminabottle · 2020-12-05T02:57:37+00:00

Unrelated, but reminded me of my ex-husband who gave me a gold necklace at the start of our 6 year relationship. At the end of our marriage (mind you, I wore this necklace to our WEDDING) unbeknownst to me, he took it and gifted it to the girl he was cheating on me with. It wasn’t until I looked her up on FB months later that I confirmed where my missing necklace went. Made me laugh to think he couldn’t even buy her her own jewelry.

Sometimes these “men” really ain’t shit! This girl knows it but doesn’t want to accept it.

heroic_nincompoop · 2020-12-05T06:23:16+00:00

I can’t believe that last person: “I think it’s unfair to compare what he did in his previous relationship so what he’s doing now.”

Meanwhile, men do this ALL THE TIME. Oh, your ex pressured you into anal and you hated it? Well if HE got to do it then I should do it too! Oh, you slept with your ex after two dates but I have to wait?! Just this week there was a post on here about a guy whose girlfriend was sexually abused. Did he care? NOPE.

He fixated on the sexual acts she was made to participate in and made her abuse about HIM. “She did this with them, why won’t she do it with me??”

Of course, all the comments sided with him. So it’s perfectly, 100% acceptable for a man to obsess over his girlfriend’s exes and demand she perform the same painful acts she disliked for him, because mUh EqUaLiTy. But God forbid a woman notice a single inequality between the way a man treats her vs. how he treats his ex. I fucking hate this hell site sometimes 🤪

2020-12-04T23:46:58+00:00

Another instance of “HVM isn’t about money. It’s about thoughtfulness and being present in the relationship.” Gift cards are lazy and thoughtless. Gift cards are what I give a coworker that I’ve had maybe one conversation with. If you’re in a relationship or a friendship, they should know you well enough to get you a more personalized gift

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-05T02:33:25+00:00

"why would he do this?"

You know or you wouldn't be so upset. You know.

Also the comments "YoU'rE jUsT JeAlOuS"

ea7097 · 2020-12-05T03:54:21+00:00

My ex once got me 25$ Victoria's Secret gift card for Christmas. I was like wow... I'm out here spending a hundred bucks on amazing assorted gifts related to your interests and hobbies, and you get me a GIFT CARD.

romantickitty · 2020-12-05T04:41:43+00:00

'lol, maybe THE EX bought the necklace with a gift card. Did you think of that? Did you?'

I can't with some of these commenters. People twisting themselves into knots to reason themselves into shaming women.

purasangria · 2020-12-05T05:07:19+00:00

I don’t know if this is right or not, but whenever I find out that a man is giving me less than he gave his ex, I dump him.

I’m not second rate, and won’t tolerate being treated as such.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-05T02:30:42+00:00

Don’t worry about a stupid gift, he just doesn’t want you. Shut up and stop overreacting about not being wanted!

We’re seriously supposed to be cool with this kind of crap? Seriously?

randomgirlimok · 2020-12-05T00:35:50+00:00

He was going to repair the necklace and then give it to his new GF

poody456 · 2020-12-05T03:10:09+00:00

Those comments are atrocious. I fell for that way of thinking for SO many years. I thought that men’s behaviour should be excused always, and women should take the blame for them. It’s so so harmful.

laughingatsalad · 2020-12-05T04:59:49+00:00

Men be like: Its the thought that counts you golddigger😡!! And then give you a generic ass gift card

2020-12-05T00:57:31+00:00

JFC with the fucking "cOmMuniCaTe". It's clear as DAY -- he's decided to make less of an investment with you. Move on, sis.

RegularStatus5 · 2020-12-05T11:08:23+00:00

Aren't these the same losers who told a guy to dump his fiance because she wouldn't do anal with him as she had with a previous boyfriend? Funny how women are automatically expected to engage with their current partner in every degrading painful sexual activity they have tried in the past but a woman can't expect her partner to give her a proper gift as he had done with his ex

PossibleCook · 2020-12-05T00:53:57+00:00

On top of all this can we also talk about the fact that he apparently took the necklace back after his break up with his ex. That’s so tacky to me. I recognize she may have given it back but with his attitude towards gift giving I doubt it, and even if she did there’s no reason he should still have it. So gross, I also doubt he’d be laughing if the OP only gave him gift cards from now on

AimiHanibal · 2020-12-05T04:12:21+00:00

Speaking of gifts, I have a question for you ladies. My ex gave me an expensive Swarowski bracelet, but now IDK what to do with it. I don’t want to pawn it bcs it would decrease its value (plus I live in a foreign country and don’t know how exactly to do that nor do I speak the language well enough to pull it off) and I don’t want to wear it either for obvious reasons. Thoughts?

Proud-Purpose · 2020-12-05T06:05:43+00:00

Well, that's how you know she's the one who got away.

AyemHerself · 2020-12-05T01:18:08+00:00

Gift cards are what you give someone when you don't know what they like. He never bothered to find out after 8 months of dating?

yesmme · 2020-12-04T23:51:27+00:00

Gift cards are what I won from work for entering contests.

He shouldn’t have mementos from his exes and he is a cheap ass for giving you gift cards. There is no pRopEr rEaSoN why he gave her a necklace and you a gift card nor should you have to coMmUniCatE that. No grown ass man should be educated on why gift cards are fucking cheap unless you specified very explicitly that you wanted a gift card and nothing else (which you haven’t and the average woman is not going to choose that over an actual gift that she had been wanting for awhile)

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-12-05T07:08:59+00:00

The ex gf probably dumped his lame ass and in an ego-damaged fit (are there any other kind for LVMs) he demanded she give back the necklace he paid for. She sent it back to him busted. Lol!

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-12-05T13:03:39+00:00

This is so hypocritical, if it was a man posting who found out his gf did anal once they’d be singing a different tune

saggy_lemons1 · 2020-12-05T05:34:56+00:00

He's also too old for her...

eobardsthong · 2020-12-05T15:33:07+00:00

BeCaUsE iM a GiRl AnD dO cRaZy ThInGs SoMeTiMeS

Absolutely no sympathy for her

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