I don't have any ill will towards any of them, I wish them all nothing but health and happiness. Yet one of my new Years resolutions is to drop my pickmeisha friends and acquaintances. This includes 2 cousins.

I already have to censor myself in society and on the internet (excluding the rare places like FDS), and I don't want to have to censor myself with my girlfriends.

The thought of having to censor myself, so I don't offend my pickmeisha friend, is a waste of a friendship. With that time/energy, I could cultivate a strong friendship with a queen, where we can speak openly, help each other, lift each other up.

I have tried to talk to pickmeisha friends. They ask me for advice but never follow my advice. I've spent many many hours of my life, giving unreciprocated support and free therapy to pickmeishas. They expect so little from men, but have very high expectations for female friends. They expect their strong female friend to be their free therapist, their shoulder to cry on, and so on. Friends of pickmeishas are basically doing the boyfriend/husband emotional support duties that pickmeisha's partners don't do.

I'll still be here if my pickmeisha friends ever change, but I've learned to not expect people to change.