Normalize narcing. Women deserve to know who they’re married to.

stronger_smarter_ · 2021-08-28T01:34:29+00:00

We need to make this an expectation. If you know someone's cheating, share it -- look out for each other.

p0ludnitsa · 2021-08-27T23:15:27+00:00

This is upholding "girl code". More women like this, please.

Feministtiktok · 2021-08-27T23:40:24+00:00

What did it say? I’m guessing it was a video about someone’s husband cheating on a wife?

Painfulmenstruation · 2021-08-28T01:02:25+00:00

I need to tell on a man. I’m afraid.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-08-28T09:08:08+00:00

In a conversation I had recently with a LVM "friend" (not anymore obvs) he said you should never interfere and tell a girl she's being cheated on. Firstly it's none of your business. Secondly she won't believe you and she'll cut you off, so you'll lose a friend. Thirdly even if she does believe you and dumps him she'll always resent you a little bit for destroying her happiness and will eventually cut you off. In short, you should just leave it alone and let her find out by herself.

This "It's none of your business" rule is a bullshit means of keeping spectators quiet and inactive so scrotes can keep on scroting on. You see it in bars too - a really drunk girl gets hit on by a creep and other women rush to her aid whilst the men stand aside and refuse to get involved. Such cowards.

I know some pickme types will lash out upon bad news, but I'd rather say something than not.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-08-28T15:56:28+00:00

Yes yes yes.

I reached out to a woman to inquire more about a guy I was seeing at the time. She talked on the phone with me for an hour, answered all my questions and gave me tons of information. I'm incredibly grateful for her. All the confusion and gaslighting was gone. I could see a much fuller, clearer picture. This 100% needs to be normalized.

ciaramcw · 2021-08-28T11:00:30+00:00

I told on a dude that was sending me dick pics on Snapchat and I knew he was engaged so she didn't believe me 🤷‍♀️ I mean he ain't hot and he lived on the other side of the world like what would I get out of lying. Unfortunately this dude sent a pic so fast I couldn't screenshot it but I bet she is still with him lol

TheNightWitch · 2021-08-28T16:10:34+00:00

There’s also a great one on TikTok where she met a guy in a hotel pool in Vegas and came on TikTok to find his girl, and you think, oh no. Then she says he just talked about how much he loved his fiancée and how lucky he was and fantastic a person she is, and he got weepy about it. Twice. And that he was a great person.

You can’t narc on a HVM. They aren’t doing anything wrong.

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-08-28T00:36:00+00:00

Couldn't agree more.

Especially in work places where the office ( in his mind) Chad starts hitting on the office Pick Me when BOTH ARE MARRIED. It is so obvious when two people are fucking in the work place. The little looks they don't think other people notice... how she starts wearing more fitted skirts and higher heels...

Anon email to both spouses does the trick

What is the upside? Well - it can destabilise office power structures which gives you an opportunity to take advantage of this situation. Upward mobility ladies.

catsuramen · 2021-08-28T18:06:38+00:00

I once overheard this blue collar man talking with his colleague about bringing his girlfriend to a vacation. The colleague was surprised, asking if he already got a wife and 2 kids. He nonchalantly answered, almost gloating, said "yeah, my wife will be at home working over the weekend (during his vacation with his gf). She will watch the kids though so no worries".

lalacestmoi · 2021-08-28T17:15:59+00:00

These types of men are always the same. Just liars and cheats.

djfrankenjuice · 2021-08-27T23:15:14+00:00

Deleting the flight information out of it kinda makes it hard to ensure the woman will ever learn about it 😂

Edit: typo

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-08-28T23:32:52+00:00

Good for this person! I read about another one where somebody posted about standing on line at the drug store, and the guy in front of him/her on his phone, telling his wife “karen” that he was still at work. This person (prolly a guy, a woman would be too afraid) yelled “No he’s not, Karen—he’s at the drug store!” He then followed it up with “nobody lies to Karen on my watch.”

Weekly-Choice8407 · 2021-08-27T22:57:34+00:00

This is one of the best uses of that app!

GCFDSthrowaway · 2021-08-27T23:46:35+00:00

I'm a fan of this 100% and will continue to do it if the opportunity presents. However, in my experience (two times), the women stayed with their bescrothed. One, I was trying to get out of an overseas assignment (that I ended up taking and loving)... my best friend's husband showed up at my house one evening while she was at work... clearly drinking... said he'd heard I was leaving and he'd thought of a way I could stay... HE COULD GET ME PREGNANT. I told him to leave, and when I told her the next day she didn't believe me... he'd gotten to her first and told her that I invited him over and suggested the 'plan'. As if. That was the end of that.

2 was someone I dated for about a month. He'd started getting weird with his contact over the weekends, always wanted to meet up 🚩 during the week, and a couple times he mentioned a roommate, very intentionally leaving out pronouns. I'm not into men with roommates, but he'd said a friend had fallen on hard times and he was letting them stay for a few weeks to get their feet on the ground. Yeah, it was a woman. A woman he was sleeping with. A woman he was ENGAGED to. I found their registry, her name and workplace, then I called her at work and left a long, calm voice message telling her everything I could about him... where we met, how often I saw him, how he described their relationship, even a couple specific intimate things so she'd know I was telling the truth. They got married six weeks later.

Sometimes they just don't want to know.

bougiegoomba · 2021-08-27T23:49:31+00:00

“ I saw him kiss his girlfriend goodbye at drop off”

misandryisnotreal · 2021-08-28T00:22:54+00:00

This is one of my absolute favorite trends on the internet.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2021-09-20T14:27:26+00:00

I once told one of my ex boyfriends sister that her boyfriend was hitting on me. This was when I was in the process of leaving my ex (he was violent and psychologically abusive). Still surprised to this day that she agreed her brother was out of line with abusing me and she actually believed me about her boyfriend and left him. I was 18 at the time and she was 23. So sometimes it can go the right way!

Title	Normalize narcing. Women deserve to know who they’re married to.
Author	randomdazee
Upvotes	807
Comments	58
Date	August 27, 2021 10:21 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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