This is why we block.

WonkySwampMonk · 2020-11-18T12:43:11+00:00

I’m dead I thought I blocked my ex on everything and he reached out to me like this on LinkedIn 💀💀💀😂

ChonkyCatzPlz · 2020-11-18T12:39:26+00:00

Where did you get a picture of my ex? 😬

plsdontkickthecat · 2020-11-18T12:22:45+00:00

Last year I got the nastiest message I've EVER received from an ex of mine it outlined all my flaws and everything I hate about myself (a year after we broke up) it really affected me for a few months after, after he had sent it he blocked me. At the start of the lockdown (almost 6 months to the day) he unblocked me and messaged me again, wishing me the best and telling me that he 'misses me' I was shook. I told him to get lost and never message me again.

I'll never understand the thought process and I really don't want to. Dodged a bullet

DaisyHope13 · 2020-11-18T13:22:24+00:00

This looks so much like my ex it’s eerie - my friend even sent me this image months ago because she thought the same and the circumstances were spot on. I broke up with him in 2017 because he was abusive (found out later he cheated on me), I moved overseas for a year and had absolutely zero contact with him. I blocked him on everything. Except for email, which he used to impersonate a lawyer threatening to sue me for ‘defamation’. Fair to say, as a legal graduate, I contacted the actual law firm and they were pissed. He had his ass handed to him in court. Post returning to my home country, I unblocked him as it had been 2 years passed and I genuinely did not care. I wanted to show that he didn’t even warrant my block. I had moved on, and I expected the same. Big mistake 🤦🏼‍♀️. Earlier this year, he messaged me and ‘apologised’, which quickly turned into him trying to gaslight me into taking the blame for the destruction of our relationship. He would also get shitty with me if I took ‘too long’ to respond, as apparently I was ‘always on my phone’ - a fact he couldn’t know because my settings were set so he couldn’t see when I was active. I very swiftly and decisively blocked him again. This image hits me right in the feels x

I_chose_myself · 2020-11-18T11:43:01+00:00

Omg I’m dying! This is so true. They just don’t want you to move on from them when they sense you are still better off without their presence

hestolemymoney · 2020-11-18T12:59:12+00:00

My first ex contacted me a few months ago. We broke up 5 years ago and it was a long distance relationship. He messaged me to apologise for cheating on me and that I was his "The One that Got Away". Note: he's still with the girl he cheated with. Clearly, he is veeeery guilty. But I have already moved on.

i_said_what_i_said_ · 2020-11-18T12:39:18+00:00

A few weeks ago I had a message from a guy I broke things off with about a year ago. I ended things with him because after a small disagreement he gave me the silent treatment for 2 days. He was MAD when I told him why I wouldn’t continue to see him.

(Side note - an ex of mine years ago admitted to using the silent treatment as a form of punishment. This behaviour is extremely deliberate)

Anyway, he messages me a wall of text asking for closure (?), some flimsy excuse about work issues, some poor-me waffle, some I’ve-been-thinking-of-you waffle, then asked if he could take me out to a fancy restaurant for a “special date”.

No. You’re clearly on the prowl for some sex. Do you think I’m stupid?!

No reply. Blocked.

SignoraArrabiata · 2020-11-18T13:07:04+00:00

I would add " I message you at 4 am so you can think about this all day"

atuan · 2020-11-18T11:54:18+00:00

It’s all “now that I want something from you, I know I have to half assedly take responsibility in order to manipulate you”

FabledAngryVillager · 2020-11-18T10:11:51+00:00

Lol I love this

east_end · 2020-11-18T12:36:15+00:00

Oh dear oh dear. This series of bullshit events has 0 to do with any apology - it is always to do with some scrote combing his mind for someone who might possibly potentially have sex with him again after he fucked up the first time. Gross.

FodderFigureIllushun · 2020-11-18T20:15:12+00:00

I had a low value friend who did this to me years ago. I think she forgot that she told me about this tactic when we were "friends". She said when she's feeling low, she likes to transfer that energy to other people by calling them up and telling them she had a "dream" about them. It was just a way to make sure the people she fell out with think there's still hope for friendship and she ghosts them shortly after.

gutsandgorey · 2020-11-18T14:23:46+00:00

The self control I need to have to not send this to my ex who pops up twice a year lmao.

AmazonArtemis · 2020-11-18T18:47:50+00:00

Yeah they forgot to add the “Haha, now that that’s over with, wanna come over for Netflix and chill?”

2020-11-18T11:50:25+00:00

This triggers my fight or flight response

hongkonghenry · 2020-11-18T11:34:12+00:00

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rivermeander · 2020-11-18T11:06:45+00:00

Omg hate when they do that

saraperche · 2020-11-18T18:00:28+00:00

Really, the Block and Delete options are your best friend, ladies! It's like a safe wall behind which you are protected from an unwanted attention, stalking, anxiety, emotional manipulation, guilt tripping, verbal abuse and the temptation to text someone you shouldn't be texting.

Reborn-Mood · 2020-11-18T17:08:04+00:00

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jo_ferreira · 2020-11-18T18:53:20+00:00

where would I be without this sub's support. This was exactly what a guy that sexually assaulted me last year did and my dumbass was almost grateful lmao

lessadessa · 2020-11-19T01:41:02+00:00

I honestly think my ex smokes too much weed to even formulate any kind of thought like this. I imagine he forgot about he three days after the last time I saw him, because he literally smokes weed and watches porn 90% of his waking hours. Which is fine. I hate that I think about him every day and I hope I can forget him and move on from the trauma he left me with soon.

saltedpretzel2 · 2020-11-19T10:48:46+00:00

Usually I block all of my exs, so I've never really had any of them come back and message me. But there was a guy I was seeing casually, he was rude in the way he told me he wasn't available one time when I tried to arrange us to hang out once, so I replied and said "okay then.... maybe we should go back to being friends, and can you please give my things I left at your place to our mutual friend, I will collect them off him" . He never replied and I just left it and I never spoke to him again lmao

I didnt feel the need to block him cause it was nothing serious, and then 8 months later, when I was in another relationship, I got a message from him saying "sorry I didnt reply"

Hahaha. Wtf. I left him on read lol

cicerii · 2020-11-19T19:23:29+00:00

Girls spend all this time coming up with a good comeback and thinking he regrets it when it just shows him he still has a hold over you. Even after all the shit he put us through we still feel bad blocking or ignoring. It’s hard to admit but chances are he is just bored or needs some supply until he finds his next victim.

Title	This is why we block.
Author	hongkonghenry
Upvotes	647
Comments	45
Date	November 18, 2020 8:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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