When "doing the dishes, talking a walk, trimming his beard" are considered romantic 🤢

Sage_Planter · 2020-06-03T08:39:59+00:00

I hate this woman's advice. This is what I tried to do in my last relationship, and it does not work. I would explain my expectations to him and lead by example. All it created was more resentment when I felt like I was once again doing the lion's share of the work in the relationship and he couldn't be bothered to reciprocate.

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-06-03T13:59:28+00:00

“I get up at 5 to put on my excessive makeup and costumes and make him a huge breakfast with special latte. He reciprocates by brushing his teeth sometimes.” Pickmes gotta pickme

Galathillion · 2020-06-03T08:15:21+00:00

The bar is underground

PinkberryCupcake · 2020-06-03T12:21:49+00:00

Is her husband an unemployed bum? If he needs to be "inspired" to groom himself, he's probably an unemployed bum who never leaves the house and doesn't interact with other people.

Imagine thinking that doing the dishes is romantic. The sad, mediocre life of a pick-me.

BasieSkanks · 2020-06-03T09:26:21+00:00

“it helps that he’s REALLY easy to please”.

And so is she.

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-06-03T10:38:52+00:00

“Omg I love it when my DH husband remembers to trim his toenails and sometimes brushes his teeth, such a romantic and affectionate gesture” 😍😍😍😍😍

nosynobody · 2020-06-03T10:06:01+00:00

I dunno where these women find these bridge dwelling trolls who refuse to bathe or groom themselves. All my male friends like grooming for themselves.

Lavender_flow · 2020-06-03T15:06:24+00:00

What the actual fuck is this? DO THE DISHES? TRIM HIS BEARD? for her cooking, drawing him a picture or making him a special latte? IN WHAT WORLD are those things the same. Holy freaking moley. Imagine being such a freaking pickme.

Hey sis, my man trims his beard all the time, he does the dishes, he cleans, he shops for groceries- all without me doing anything, why? Because that is what freaking adults do.

Going for walks / work out, is something we do all the time.

Things my boyfriend do to be nice & "spontaneous": buys me little presents, buys me my favorite take out, buys me flowers, takes me out for dinner, going to the movies, goes to the liqour store and buys me my favorite wine, the other day he even looked at a new wine that had the same sweetness and other qualities the wine I already like does, because he wanted to surprise me with something new. He takes me some place for site seeing, going swimming together. That is just off the top of my head. I dont have to do anything special for him to do those things, he does it on his freaking own. I do many nice things for him as well. This is a partnership, not a "I do something for my boyfriend, so he will do something for me"- like what is that.

I cant deal with how red pilled this woman is.

kittypoison · 2020-06-03T13:48:56+00:00

I know I never do the dishes unless I'm inspired by love /s

seraphinelysion · 2020-06-03T15:45:30+00:00

Notice how she has to put in the effort first in order for him to reciprocate? Why isn't it ok for her man to do something romantic first to inspire love within her so she can reciprocate? Why does this all sound so one sided? The way she is phrasing it, he would just be a do-nothing husband if it weren't for her trying. Relationships take the work of two people. And sure, this shit might look cute now (only 2 months in). Give it 5 years and get back to me sis. Let's see if the resentment has sunken in deep enough and your tune has changed then.

plutunic · 2020-06-03T10:23:35+00:00

anyone wanna tell her she was already doing more than him to begin with?

redpeithos · 2020-06-03T13:53:37+00:00

Gosh, stop doing mental gymnastics to try and evade the problem, and start facing it head-on! It's like she's brainwashing herself to become an obedient little slave.

masterofthebarkarts · 2020-06-03T15:55:50+00:00

Not gonna lie, my husband cleaned the kitchen while I was napping yesterday and it was nice - but not, like, impressive? And he didn't need me to draw him a picture or make him a special meal to feel "inspired" to do it; he saw that the kitchen was messy and thought "she'll probably enjoy waking up to a clean kitchen".

greatcathy · 2020-06-03T15:06:26+00:00

"Draw him a picture"?? 🙄

SayNad · 2020-06-03T18:35:13+00:00

Let's see... from her part:

- Dressing cute

- makeup

- cooking a delicious dinner (with probably a lot of stuff too)

- a special latte

- DRAW him a darn picture

From his part:

- Do the dishes

- suggest they take a walk

- trim his beard

- put on cologne

This is not even 50/50. This is like 90/10 at best. She did truly special things. He reciprocate with basic grooming and a freakin walk.

TWO MONTHS of marriage.

Damn.

msromperstomper · 2020-06-03T15:46:33+00:00

Maybe I'm in a somber mood because of the current state of the world, but this really makes me depressed that women have been conditioned to expect so little. How did we get here?

luciesssss · 2020-06-03T15:26:00+00:00

“When he feels really in love with me he wipes his own arse and doesn’t smear shit on the wall”

ScarletFate779 · 2020-06-03T15:56:36+00:00

So he does the most basic things for what exactly...he should be holding himself to that sort of standard anyway.

pissed_af · 2020-06-03T12:44:00+00:00

So she herself said that she goes out of her way and he does tiny things and she's happy about it? Can't help this one

YarikEnterprise · 2020-06-03T18:07:26+00:00

My husband spent four hours bent over the kitchen table with a tool kit taking apart my Switch controllers to make them pale pink with powder blue buttons because there was a chip on the back of the original and I didn't like the way it felt against my finger. He does all our shopping and has made it clear to his company he's working from home until we're in phase 2 since I'm high-risk for covid. That's romantic.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2020-06-03T17:52:20+00:00

Put on cologne? What the hell is this

Lady__stoneheart · 2020-06-03T19:33:36+00:00

Ew ew ew ew ewwwww

Novemberinthechair · 2020-06-03T23:03:48+00:00

Jumping through hoops.

quirkypinkllama · 2020-06-03T15:25:25+00:00

Haha, omggg

informallory · 2020-06-03T17:53:57+00:00

Oop then the second you stop doing that shit it’s “you’ve really let yourself go”

Title	When "doing the dishes, talking a walk, trimming his beard" are considered romantic 🤢
Author	Galathillion
Upvotes	252
Comments	45
Date	June 3, 2020 8:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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