Woman’s NVM husband constantly bends over backwards to ogle at other women and underage girls in public, right in front of her. A shitload of pickmes in the comments are coping with their husbands who do the same.

Platipus6 · 2021-07-18T12:30:27+00:00

That's pornsick behaviour. He's brain damaged.

farevvell · 2021-07-18T12:26:02+00:00

Just because it's "normal" or "usual" doesn't mean it isn't totally messed up. Look how normalised porn is.

LateDiagnosedAutie · 2021-07-18T14:14:44+00:00

Does she 'look 17 or 18 tops', OR does she look like 'a fully grown woman'. IT CAN'T BE BOTH!!!!! If you can see that she's a child accompanied by her freaking parents, then you should know that he can freaking see it too!!

Silver-Camera-9645 · 2021-07-18T14:09:14+00:00

Her being afraid to go out to eat in case the waitress is attractive is exactly what he wants. He wants her to be insecure and compare herself to other women. She needs to either leave him or emotionally distance herself from him enough that she doesn't give a shit who or what he finds attractive. Otherwise she is going to be miserable.

sadgirlji · 2021-07-18T12:34:01+00:00

I hate her use of “fully developed” it seems like she’s using it to distance the behaviors from pedophillia.

ENFP_Canadian · 2021-07-18T14:22:11+00:00

My ex was like this and all my pickmeisha friends told me it was normal because we've been brainwashed to believe it is, that we are the problem, and that "men will be men".

Then when you mention that it makes you uncomfortable, scrotes gaslight with "its not like you don't think other men are attractive" or "you notice other men" even though you're not disrespectful about it. I don't gawk, stare, etc.

It's just bullshit we are told to cope with because men can't be bothered to be respectful, they're porn sick, and they refuse to change their shit behaviours.

I'd rather adjust to a man's absence than adjust my boundaries to his disrespect.

hopeful_flounder93 · 2021-07-18T14:19:22+00:00

Aw look, another pedo.

modernmedusaa · 2021-07-18T15:01:30+00:00

Oh he’s doing it deliberately. I’m sorry but as a woman I’m able to glance at an attractive guy in discreet, men make it painfully obvious, like they want you to see.

He’ll be triangulating on purpose to get back at her for some argument 6 years ago lol.

Just had this on the train.

Scrote ogling me in front of his wife and every other woman that walked past. Every single one.

Seemed bummed out I was just sat with a scowl lol.

That was a nice awkward 2 hr journey, not.

I just shot him a look like ‘scum with mid life Crisis be gone’. Young daughter was sat next to him as well.

All I could think was ‘thank god I got rid of my ex boyfriend or that would be me’. Really made me glad to be single again & not dealing with that bullshit lol

Stop playing into their games & just drop them for a better option.

Men fucking hate women who turn competition anxiety right back on them.

midwesternwinds · 2021-07-18T14:15:49+00:00

All the men all but admitting they're disloyal ingrates... yikes

The one guy whose wife is 13 years younger and tries to pretend him checking her out when she was only 20 was harmless... yikes

And the old geezer who clearly hates his wife and has an incest fetish... Y I K E S

Protoetype · 2021-07-18T15:17:03+00:00

Men who ogle women are repulsive. You are an embarrassment to your wife and yourself.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2021-07-18T14:50:49+00:00

Nah this shit ain't normal. It's normal to recognize other people's beauty when you are in a relationship, but that's all - you shouldn't ogle/stare at the person or make comments on how hot you find them. Ogling is incredibly inappropriate, weird, and disrespectful (even moreso when it's literally in front of your own wife!) and the fact he does it to every attractive woman (or girl, because it's super creepy that he's staring at underage girls) that passes by is super weird. He is not a teenage boy, he is a grown man. Not that being a teen boy would excuse this behavior.

devoushka · 2021-07-18T14:26:05+00:00

If anything, married men stare even more than single men. They're desperate to bang anyone other than their wife.

TigreImpossibile · 2021-07-18T16:08:29+00:00

Ugh... NEVER put up with a man ogling other women and GIRLS in front of you. Teenage girls?!! Absolutely repulsive, creepy. What a creep.

This is just an absolute dealbreaker. I wouldn't keep a man around who disrespected me like this. Do you see something you like? Because you can go with her. Bye. Get gone.

CrazyPaine · 2021-07-18T13:40:29+00:00

If he is doing this now, I can just image when it comes to his own daughter. I'm scared for the child.

pikachu4me · 2021-07-18T16:25:11+00:00

No grown man should be looking at a child like that regardless of she is "fully developed" wtf does that even mean?

arnezuara · 2021-07-18T16:27:08+00:00

I mean, clearly he’s a pornsick, abusive, manipulative pedophile. This delusional woman needs to drop him ASAP.

When I was in a relationship, I could only be attracted to/desire my partner, even though I found other people objectively good-looking. Any man who spits out some “it’s in my pp’s nature to [insert some gaslighting bullshit about desiring other women]” should automatically be of no value to you.

Forget he exists. Poof. He’s gone. Out of sight, out of mind. Pretend you forgot something in your car, leave, and never look back.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-07-18T16:39:04+00:00

This goes back to the 'why would you want to put up with this behaviour' question.

Ignoring all the reddit morons screaming about how it's 'natural' for men to ogle teenagers, why the FUCK would you put up with that behaviour from the man you're married to? Worrying about the waitress in the restaurant, the teens at the beach etc etc. GET RID OF HIM

msinclaire · 2021-07-18T17:02:00+00:00

Why do these guys get to be the only ones uncomfortable in this situation?? The wife is uncomfortable watching his head on a swivel, the girl(s) being ogled are uncomfortable, the daughter watching her dad ogle girls is uncomfortable.

I remember when my NVX was doing this constantly and it became so egregious that I had to say something. I told him it was disrespectful to me to do this in front of my face. He exploded with all the angry, bullshit excuses, i’M mARriEd NoT deAd, YOu dOn’T oWN Me, yOUre NoT My mOtHeR, yOUre sO fuckInG iNseCuRE, etc.

Karma, however, bit his ass the next time we were in a restaurant and he was doing this to a pretty young woman a couple of tables away. She came over and said (I’m paraphrasing), “ The whole restaurant is watching you stare at me and it is embarrassing and disgusting. I was considering getting management involved, but will not if you stop it right now. Your wife here is a beautiful woman; how about you stare at her before another man steals her away?”

She was a fucking queen, y’all!! My husband was mortified. He turned sheet white with embarrassment. He got up as if to leave motioning me to get my coat, but the food had just come and I was going to have my dinner. I told him I wasn’t going anywhere and he could sit back down or go outside and wait for me. He just wanted to get away from the embarrassment so went outside and I happily ate my food, exchanging smiles and thumbs up with my new friend two tables down.

IndigoTR · 2021-07-18T16:35:23+00:00

Gross. He sounds like a porn addict and I’m wondering if she knows that, but conveniently left that out. She needs to say something. And if he has a problem with it, he isn’t the one. If this continues on, he’ll be cheating on her, physically/emotionally or both, soon enough.

I used to think this behavior was normal too and I was “insecure” for being uncomfortable about men I was seeing going on and on about how hot and attractive they found other women (I never dealt with a starer, thank god). But as I got older and better at picking I realized men are fully capable of keeping their thoughts on other women to themselves and their bros. They’re fully capable of keeping their eyes off of other women as well. This is now on my requirements list and the minute a guy starts showing that behavior I cut him off. It only ever gets worse from there, not better.

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