Cognitive dissonance on /r/AmITheAsshole when OP criticizes his woke 'Feminist' friend for sleeping with misogynistic guy. Comments call OP asshole.

FlavFal · 2019-07-13T14:44:38+00:00

This happens because people love moralizing sexual attraction, especially female sexual attraction.

The truth is that you don't need a "good man" certificate to be attractive to a great number of women, but many feminists push the narrative that if you're an asshole you won't get a date. If you're the right type of asshole (physically attractive, masculine, low inhibition) you'll get plenty of dates, if you're the wrong type of asshole (incel types), I'm sorry for you. The men who buy this feminist narrative end up like the OP of that thread.

[deleted] · 2019-07-13T21:57:25+00:00

Feminism!

Until:

something unpleasant, dangerous or expensive needs to be done
life gets a little bit hard and “I don’ wanna!”
Chad Thundercock says “hey there sweet cheeks”

shonenhikada · 2019-07-13T15:48:14+00:00

Women only value 3 things in men:

Looks (Height and/or face)
Money
Social Status

wtknight · 2019-07-13T17:13:54+00:00

You're basically treating the other person like a human sex toy if you don't care about their personality and what they believe. If this is what society and most of Reddit apparently wants, though, then more power to them. I'll still reject this paradigm and only want to be intimate with other people who also reject it.

LeadInfusedRedPill · 2019-07-13T17:54:05+00:00

Watch what they do, not what they say.

Again.

87AudreyHorne · 2019-07-13T16:28:07+00:00

See thats my main issue with feminism. Not that its "too radical" but that its week and spineless nowadays. Im with OP

theambivalentrooster · 2019-07-14T12:39:01+00:00

Over at askfeminists they seem to be of the mind that it's okay to fuck them but being in a relationship with them would be a bridge too far.

By having sex with them you're only rewarding them for being hot. Being in a relationship with them is rewarding them for other things, supposedly.

sparksjoy · 2019-07-13T17:22:25+00:00

You're asking women to think like men.

We don't see sex as brownie points that we give to guys whose political opinions align with ours. Guys do. Asking the opposite sex to abstain from fucking person X for your personal benefit is always always always a lost cause, for men and women. I have yet to see a guy turn down sex with a girl because "she's a bitch" or "she's toxic." They'll whine and complain about her behind her back but then still go right back to fucking her if they feel like it. Do you think they give two shits about what "nice girls" have to say on the matter? Lol nope. That's just the way it works. To them "it's just sex", in the same way the feminist fucking the misogynist thinks "it's just sex."

Sir_Koopaman · 2019-07-14T02:20:34+00:00

Sounds like OP should stop being a feminist. Watch what they say, not what they do.

nemma88 · 2019-07-13T17:33:24+00:00

Its 2019, feminism doesn't believe a woman 'gives' sex, nor that its a 'reward' for guys. There is no conflict from the POV of a feminist.

kandyapplez · 2019-07-13T19:39:49+00:00

Lol these fake posts get dumber with every reposting.

"as a FEMINIST i think its wrong of her to reward this misogynist with SEX"

like which strain of feminism sees sex as a reward women give to men, jw

DareyFathom · 2019-07-13T14:57:20+00:00

Modern feminism is hypocritical in nature. It's not about equality. It's about divorcing female decision making from consequences.

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BrocopalypseNow · 2019-07-13T19:41:29+00:00

A 20 year old girl had sex with a guy who has different values than she does?

clutches pearls

Tons of college-aged women are more open to short-term relationships because that’s the time in their life to do it. Chances are the misogynist is far more charming when with the women he wants to fuck and is much more of a douche in front of his guy friends.

webernicke · 2019-07-13T19:14:21+00:00

OP is an asshole for trying to moralize who she sleeps with. He's not wrong about it reinforcing the sexist dude's behavior, but he's still an asshole for judging her for something that really is none of his business. ~~Women~~ People are what they are.

If anything, he should maybe be reconsidering his view of feminists if this is something he's seeing often.

ScootsScoots · 2019-07-13T15:10:55+00:00

Reddit is a hypocritical leftist clown show. Are you really surprised by this shit?

Electra_Cute · 2019-07-13T14:58:32+00:00

How is this at all contradictory.

fevertree · 2019-07-13T21:48:24+00:00

It's not cognitive dissonance unless she defends her decision. It sounds more like she admits that she had a moment of weakness.

[deleted] · 2019-07-14T02:00:53+00:00

God reddit is such a depressing and beta community. Calling him the asshole and it’s none of his business. What? As a friend yes you can and should provide advice on sexual partners and relationships. But this guy posts questions on reddit so likely has no backbone

But the broader question in general is great fodder. Feminists want to control who they are attracted to, but can’t beat evolution. You might think a feminist wants a guy who cares about equality, who supports her, etc. they don’t

They want what every woman wants. And yes feminists love sexist assholes. I’m one of them

Triadfamilyties · 2019-07-14T02:41:06+00:00

I'm gonna go ahead and say that "Am I The Asshole" on reddit is not the most balanced of audiences and even that reddit feminism is often full of it's own issues as any group of people who share some beliefs tend to be.

I tend to draw the line on, are you shaming someone for something they cannot help, or shaming someone for a choice. In this case, yeah, if you are a feminist who fucks an unrepentant and open misogynist it's not even about "rewarding his behavior" it's you just are a person with no taste or standards and I would totally judge that the same way I'd judge a black person for fucking an open white supremacist.

Fuck the "no kink shaming" shit raceplay and misogyny play and such are creepy even if you are the race or gender being fetishized and the 20 year old in the linked thread is a dumbass with no standards who shouldn't be the hill feminism dies on.

Notice though that the black community isn't out there arguing for the right to fuck Trump voters unjudged it's only fucking white people who get this bent out of shape over "Her body her choice"

It totally is but that dumb shit deserves to be judged for the choice she has every right to make. Objectively speaking. Just because you are entitled to your opinion and on acting on it (or against it) doesn't mean we aren't allowed to look at it from a distance and be like "Yeah that's fucked up she should probably seek therapy rather than repeating that life choice"

kanarisblog · 2019-07-15T00:45:11+00:00

A feminist cam sleep with whomever she likes, even an anti-feminist/misogynist. But at the same token men should not be hung up and take super seriously the feminist rules of engagement.

NewVerses · 2019-07-13T22:43:53+00:00

Dude. OP is clearly TA and needs to get out of her friend's case. They just fucked. Friend used dick for a ride. Sex doesn't need to be a statement on social justice.

Title	Cognitive dissonance on /r/AmITheAsshole when OP criticizes his woke 'Feminist' friend for sleeping with misogynistic guy. Comments call OP asshole.
Author	Askerman97_returns
Upvotes	18
Comments	103
Date	July 13, 2019 10:38 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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