Having dysfunctional parents growing up, might’ve affected your future dating prospects.

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This is proposed only to people who had dysfunctional parents growing up.

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Not every person who had dysfunctional parents had trouble dating into adulthood.

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This is mostly directed at men, because let’s be real women suffer sure but c’mon… c’mon.

I had dysfunctional parents growing up, and as you know it was tough the only good thing out of it was using their constant bickering as an alarm clock to wake me up for school (that’s a bit of dark humour thrown in there), when I was a young wee lad I thought getting married and settling down would just be nothing but bickering and manipulation tactics considering that’s all my parents ever did.

When witnessing your parents constantly fighting, not getting along your father not even trying to give up on his alcohol addiction, gambling addiction and his preferences to choose drinking with his buddies over his own family, my mother constantly finding different ways to manipulate and pick a fight or argument any chance she got, this back and forth happened almost every single day of my entire childhood and into my teenage years.

This coupled with my older sister going through different boys like a lawnmower through grass, you can see how this might’ve affected my dating prospects later in life, this is completely antidotal but witnessing unhealthy relationships from your own blood relatives, might affect how people perceive certain emotional attachments, like struggling to truly connect with someone in a deep way or even seeing someone as being willing to have affection at all.

A lot of the black pill/looksmaxxer types either come from single parent households or are around dysfunctional environments (this is based on interviews I’ve seen about them), this aspect of growing up can really affect your view of not only relationships but women in general, thinking that if my parents weren’t able to work it out then the concept of love doesn’t seem all that real and it reinforces this notion in your brain time and time again. Your parents had something once and just simply grew apart at that point a marriage can feel like you’re pressured to just keep it going even when you yourself know it’s going bad.

Back to what I was saying about looksmaxxers/BP etc. the thing about these groups is that it doesn’t allow you to look inwards in a real way it’s more got to do with blaming yourself instead of the environment you were surrounded by, because your environment can play a vital role in how you’re perceived, your life begins at the home where you are raised by your parents and surrounded by mostly family, if improper this can damage your sense of self worth or how you view things, if you no longer get along with your father and you lost touch with him why bring that baggage on to a relationship, if you’re an excessive smoker, drinker, 🌽 addict, excessive gamer, a shut out etc why would you want to join the dating scene it’ll only cause issues later on down the road for you and these aspects of your life started when you were under your parents thumb.

It’s okay to blame your upbringing for aspects of your life not going well, because it’s most likely true sometimes parents are just not meant to be parents.