Most men have to have some deep innate drive to have a family, kids, and continue their genetic line. Men that say they don't, I think are lying or maybe psychopaths. But in this world it seems almost impossible, especially with a wife in the picture. I do believe there are some really great women still out there and have been able to LTR a few. But hypergamy still applies. Even if you vet them perfectly and she seems like a unicorn. No woman can fight hypergamy forever and no man can be her ultimate alpha male forever. But before no fault divorce people were forced to stay together so even 10, 20, 30 years after the spark faded they had to figure it out until both were old and SMV was so low for both it didn't matter anymore. Even if she's a sweet, respectable, submissive girl in this western world she know she has options and alot of them, but since you're her best option right now she "loves" you. But what if the economy tanks? What if you get sick? What if you just get boring? She'll lose attraction, hypergamy will take hold, you'll end up divorced paying child support and alimony or she'll stick around and be an intolerable bitch. So i've heard "enjoy the decline" "spin plates forever." Seems kind of empty.

High SMV men should wait until they are well off financially, own their own home, and are in a stable position in life. But don't risk it all just to live out an outdated patriarch fantasy. My idea is the man should then hire a surrogate for two kids, no mother in the picture. Then hire a permanent live in nanny, preferably from a foreign country who is now very fluent in english. She'll cook, clean, be respectful to you, help you raise your kids (probably better than any modern western woman), and she'll appreciate it all because you are providing room and board, a salary, and a nice life. And if she changes and doesn't appreciate it, just fire her. Now you have a traditionally patriarchal set up. You continued your genetic line and have the ultimate end goal. No divorce rape risk, no risk of never seeing your kids, no potential for an ungrateful post wall wife 10 years down the road, no broken home. And most live in nanny salaries are around 30k per year, much cheaper than a wife in the long run. You can still spin plates and have women in your life but she'll always know she's way down on your list of priorities, you don't need her for anything, and if she steps out of line she''ll be gone with no repercussions for you. With modern western society, women needing a provider, husband, and father has become obsolete. Well, we have technology and the means. Why not just make getting to be a wife and mother completely obsolete until things change?