User posts to /u/askreddit for reactions when they saw their SO having sex with another partner. Most top comments are from men.

fledglingpiller · 2015-06-07T19:57:12+00:00

My favorite one

Well I came home from work about 2 hours early due to finishing up my paperwork quite early. Then I entered the bedroom ready to take shower. Then it happened. And to be completely honest, I just stood there and starred at them as they starred back at me. She then said "Babe, it's not what it looks like." I then started laughing in an obnoxious way and turned around and left the room. Then when she came out of the room (I'm guessing he left the same way he came in "the window") she found me playing Battlefield 4 on my PC. "Baby...?" she said. I just replied saying "Huh?" She asked if I was okay? I just said "Yeah? I'm fine." I guess she thought everything was actually okay and started to walk back into the bedroom. As she walked away I continued to keep playing and just said "Oh, and you have 3 days to get all of your things out." She tried to get me to take it back and started to get frustrated saying I can't do that. I simply replied "I signed the lease, I personally pay all the bills and everything that is even involved between you and I has my name on it, not yours. So you need to get out. I would appreciate that greatly." She then started to cry and I just laughed. Some may call me heartless for this but if you knew the amount that I had put into the relationship and how much I sacrificed for it, you wouldn't blame me.

A Red Pill reaction if I ever saw it. Stoic and grounded. Kudos to this guy.

F_Dingo · 2015-06-07T16:27:52+00:00

Hopefully I'm not too late. This was the moment of my life. For a couple of weeks I suspected my girlfriend was cheating on me with this particular guy (we'll name him John). The relationship was going south anyways but I just wanted the pleasure to see her face when I catch her. My buddy and I devised a plan. I told my girlfriend I was going home to visit my parents (I was away in college) but in fact I was staying at my buddies place a couple of miles down. Then the stakeout started. We knew where John lived and decided to follow him throughout the day. I was obsessed. We took my buddies car 6 in the morning, parked right where he lived, and started following him everywhere.

Day 1 was a bust. John left the house only twice that day; grabbing his lunch and dinner nearby (dude never cooked). My buddy wanted to give up that day but I knew we would catch him eventually. Sure enough, the next fucking day he left his house three times. Lunch, dinner, and finally something after dinner. My heart was pounding. I can't even imagine to tell you the adrenaline I felt when I saw this guy leaving his house. Followed him for a few miles and sure enough we see him pulling over to my girlfriends apartment. Waited about half an hour and decided it was time to walk in.

This is when we come in. Walking down the lobby with tank tops, shorts, Happy New Year glasses, confetti poppers, helium balloons, party horn, and a DSLR camera all at midnight in fucking March. We slowly creeped into the room (I had the keys) and sure enough you could hear faint moaning. We busted the door open, screamed SURPRISE, confettis everywhere, and the camera started flashing. We left immediately after that.

Anyways, you ever seen a picture of a spooked cat? Floating in mid-air and his fur all fuzzy? Well the picture came out exactly like that. She was fucking him in reverse cowgirl so we got a picture of her floating above his dick in a squat formation while he laid down. Anyways, I texted her the photo the next day and said I would delete it if I got all of my stuff back. I never received my belongings in such a neatly packed box.

LOL

pahispua · 2015-06-07T14:05:52+00:00

"In college, at a party with my girlfriend and a bunch of other people. I had a bit too much to drink and was lying down on the couch when a friend came over with a really strange look on his face and told me that my girlfriend was in the upstairs bedroom and I really should check on her. A bit confused and still half wasted, I stumble upstairs and open the door to see her in bed naked with a guy I don't know on top of her. They see me come in and she starts pushing at the guy and telling him to get off her. He does his best impression of a deer in the headlights and doesn't move. In my less-than-lucid state my mind comes to the conclusion that since I loved her she would never cheat on me, and her telling the guy to get off meant he must be raping her. So I took the obvious course of action and did my best attempt at a flying drop kick right into the guy and boot him off the side of the bed. My girlfriend starts screaming at me, "What's wrong with you, why would you do that". I try to explain that I'm helping but she starts hitting me so I retreat out of the room even more confused than ever. There's a crowd outside already. Someone shouts that they're calling the police. Others start pushing me out of the house. I try to explain that I'm not the bad guy here, but no one wants to listen. I get thrown out. I walk a couple blocks to where my car was parked. It's cold as shit but my jacket was back at the house. I get in the car, but pass out before I can start it and drive anywhere (the one good thing that happened that night). I woke up the next morning with a hangover and a voicemail from my girlfriend saying that she's breaking up with me because of how much I embarrassed her at the party."

Dat hamster though

balalasaurus · 2015-06-07T15:57:24+00:00

TL;DR - It's not what you think it is.

Talon1212 · 2015-06-07T19:33:49+00:00

My GF's roommate let me in, looking confused. She said, "I thought you were here already?" Then I heard sex noises coming from her room. I got really pissed off and stormed in, ready to beat the shit out of him, but when I kicked the door in, the guy jumped off of her, and I swear his fully erect cock couldn't have been bigger than a Sharpie. It stopped me dead in my tracks. So I started laughing, softly at first, then harder, until I was cackling like a damn hyena. I was doubled over, pointing at this guys cock and laughing, and yelling at her, through hysterics, "Seriously? SERIOUSLY?" I grabbed my phone charger I had come back for, took one last look at them, then started laughing again as I left. My now ex GF runs out in a towel, saying "let me explain" and all that shit. I have no idea how my brain connected this, but I look at her, continue laughing, and yell, "I've smoked cigarettes bigger than that!" And open the door and walk out.

I'm dying.

I kept looking around for her, and finally found her in one of the upstairs bedrooms, just getting dressed after banging the third guy. He was just standing there shirtless with all these piercings, with this smug-ass look on his face, and so I confronted him and he said "It's just sex, I don't even like her." I grabbed a nipple ring in each hand and ripped those fuckers right out. Walked out of there with him screaming and bleeding as a bunch of people ran in to see what the deal was. I still have them. :)

Well goddamn.

TheJessee · 2015-06-07T19:10:05+00:00

I chose to welcome the single life and to numb the pain with a large amount of booze. Time is a beautiful thing; eventually I came to my senses and stopped drinking and started to progress to a constructive life. I did the classic stuff: I hit the gym, became the strongest I have ever been in my life to coincide with the strength I wanted to develop mentally and emotionally, resumed college and got a new job. Its been a few years but I like the direction I am going. I have more self respect than I have ever had in my life. I have wonderful woman in my life whom is a great support and complements my personality.

Love this guy, he had to find out the really hard way but it seems like he came out of it very strong and with a much improved version of himself

Throway99038 · 2015-06-07T16:24:55+00:00

When I was younger I had a girlfriend , my mistake is that I thought we were close. I had a key to her place and worked part-time. My manager sent me home one weekend because we were overstaffed and there wasn't any point in me being there. I went and picked up a DvD and some ingredients to make dinner and headed to her place. I let myself in and could already hear suspicious noises. My heart was pounding and my brain was saying 'all systems go' I went upstairs and opened the door and low and behold there was some guy balls deep in my girl. There was so many emotions that all I could spurt out was 'I hope his dick tastes better than dinner' and proceeded to dump my shopping on her floor and stormed out. Cue texts calls saying how she was confused/wasn't sure if she still liked guys/ how sorry she was. Let's just say I haven't had a girlfriend since. Edit: For those confused , I am female. Michelle was my girlfriend in question and a whore. Morning after edit: To clarify. I am bisexual but I don't feel like being in a serious relationship with a woman for the foreseeable future.

This one is epic.

vengefully_yours · 2015-06-07T20:23:20+00:00

Ok guys, theres even more proof of awalt. If you doubt it, read my history and compare to all of this. It sure as fuck isn't difficult to find examples of this. The other guy doesn't have to be alpha for her to cheat, she only needs opportunity and tingles. Usually that comes with boredom.

It will happen to you if it hasn't. Expect it again and again, but wait for her to actually do it, then simply broom her and move on. Every woman with the opportunity to fuck Chad and get away with it will. Accept it and go on about your life.

She isn't the focus of your life, she is someone who briefly got to tag along in your adventure. They aren't like us, they aren't special, and they sure as fuck aren't perfect. They're human and prone to all the bad choices everyone tends to make, they seem to do it more frequently with less conquence.

Stop circle jerking it and go build your life

bakbakgoesherthroat · 2015-06-07T22:20:20+00:00

That day, she got a Facebook message from an old friend asking to hang out.

It's annoyingly frustrating to me that people think that girls can just "hang out" with other guys. In no society outside of N. America and W. Europe does a man accept his girl "hanging out" with another man.

Ulfrum · 2015-06-07T19:12:33+00:00

I thought of TRP when I saw that thread.

I'd be willing to bet a decent sum of money that most men that visit Reddit on a regular basis are overweight, sensitive, "liberal" types that still have a high school understanding of women, so it's not surprising to me at all that most of them get cheated on.

colucci · 2015-06-07T14:32:08+00:00

Come on, now.

Without reading the actual submission, I feel like your title is misleading. Obviously most answers will be male because the majority on reddit is male. Selection bias. Your sample demographic has more males than females.

If Cosmopolitan ran an article about experiences of being cheated on, there wouldn't be many males writing to Cosmo.

NADER_THE_GATOR · 2015-06-07T22:25:49+00:00

Whenever I see a post of the guy "working on it" and taking her back

plentyoffishes · 2015-06-07T22:52:57+00:00

Uh, not trying to say women are innocent snowflakes, but reddit IS male-dominated, so yes there are going to be mostly stories from men. Cheating happens all the time on both sides because "together forever" is a fantasy, whether it's marriage or GF/BF.

Tainted_OneX · 2015-06-07T18:51:32+00:00

Most top comments are from men

Uhh seen as most of reddit consists of guys, it makes sense it would be like that. There's no need to find red pill examples in places there aren't.

Quintus_Pillus · 2015-06-07T19:19:15+00:00

About the fat Italian dude story :

"My lucky day! They're probably drunk, being goofy and might not have noticed my call," I thought to myself.

Maybe I'm from a different world, but I just can't see how it's reasonable to have your girlfriend spend one on one time alone with a different dude, especially with alcohol involved. I just read too often, in certain subs, how this is "normal", but I just can't see it.

Glenbert · 2015-06-07T19:35:52+00:00

Fucking Christ. Why do I read shit like this?

Leaving for business next week and it's got me thinking the worst. My wife has given me zero reason to worry about this, but I will anyway.

Fuck, I have some inner game to work on.

spicedncoke · 2015-06-07T20:18:09+00:00

Lol, right before I left my now ex-gf, her brother's gf was up to some pretty shady shit while he was working across the country. She had a dude over and they were hanging out in their room all of the time. I didn't say anything because it wasn't my place but I knew something was up and so did my gf. Anyway, he came back from away early and walked in and found them in the room together. Brother flipped his shit, the guy just walked out, and of course she denied denied and gave the "It's not what you think it is!" line. Sadly for him, they stayed together...probably because he's too lazy to find someone else after being with her for 6 years

This is where things get interesting. They move back to their hometown because of $$ issues. Suddenly, she's pregnant. With twins. Here's the problem, the brother only has one testicle and he was told it would be almost impossible to get someone pregnant...let alone with twins. I wouldn't hesitate to wager my next paycheque that those kids aren't his, because in the 2 years I lived with the dude, him and his gf may have had sex 3 times (unless she fucks like a ninja). You just don't start fucking like rabbits all of a sudden and get pregnant with twins when it's basically impossible. Sadly for him, some family members mused about her cheating, but nothing has been done.

What a shame.

[deleted] · 2015-06-07T20:21:57+00:00

One day something just didn't feel right, so I drove to my friends house, and sure enough her car was in the driveway. I stormed up to his door on anger and adrenaline. His door was open, and I furiously walked in ready to freak out when I discovered them fucking. I walked into his bedroom and discovered them naked in bed, cuddling, and watching a movie. The anger disappeared and was instantly filled with heartbreak and disappointment. I would've rather seen them fucking.

No surprise here. They have been taught that "love" is all that matters. It's frightening to see that for this guy, this conditioning is so strong it even replaces her natural instincts.

monzzter221 · 2015-06-07T22:26:48+00:00

I know a guy, lived with his girl and a room mate.

Came home one day to find them sleeping naked in bed. He punched the dude in the eye, walked out. Moved out a week later.

The room mate and the girl are married now. He let's her swing and she hooks him up with friends every now and then.

Vigilo_Infinite · 2015-06-07T16:07:15+00:00

Jesus Christ all these responses make me feel ill.

I think of it this way - no woman just cheats out of no-where. There are tell-tell signs being thrown up all over the place but the guys are far too needy and absorbed in their own little worlds to realise it.

My point is that there are warning signs before this shit happens. Most of those bullets can be dodged by having self respect and not letting people be rude to you.

SwissPablo · 2015-06-07T21:58:50+00:00

"This isn't what it looks like" and "let me explain" - I'd love to hear how being caught getting it from some other guy was't exactly what it looked like.

sergiothebeast · 2015-06-07T21:40:49+00:00

To be fair, the first citation seems to be a woman catching her man cheating. Indicated by: HER car in the driveway ( would be normal if it was ' his gf), his room, his door, and women in my country refer to their boyfriend as ' my friend ' with the male word for friend ( Vriend)

This is relevant, because firstly I doubt if women are considered blue pill here. Secondly and more importantly, Psychology indicates that men are the ones finding fucking the worst. Women, by contrast, are less bothered by pure adultery ( sex ) but more by her SO being in love, very close and other forms of 'emotional adultry'.

This is also coherent with the Red pill theory and it's foundations of the female nature in terms of evolutionairy concepts. For a man, if his women fucks other men, he cannot know if he is the father AKA genetically very disadvantaged. For a woman, if her man seems to be more emotionally connected to other women, she cannot know if he will take care of her and her kids as good, maybe he prioritize the other women when choices have to be made. ( also evolution, scarcity, usually counts on the fact that decisions have to be made and small differences have a big output over many individuals, generations, thousands of years )

The evidence for this theory is confirmed in many respects. For me personally it fits also because I've had women not giving a fuck that I'd cheat but being very straightforward about the fact if I love the hoe things change. ( From theoretical/scientific perspective this sentence is useless, but my life is mine and not just theory)

In short, your first example completely misses everything it indicates, you are to eager to make the actual data ( reports) fit with the Red pill theory, but not justified. As indicated by my logical and scientific argument. I would be inclined to assume that the reply is also not bluepill, but a woman, for her intimacy with another person is more deadly than sex.

Conclusion: even a good theory like TRP requires you to be critical and sceptical, or it will make you biased, give us a bad name, give instantiations of TRP a much bigger weigh in your mind( because you see even things that are clearly not a part of it as an argument for it ) and so forth. Even if this TRP theory is wrong ( I am pretty sure it is not) this uncritical way of thinking would make it a self fulfilling prophecy anyway, rendering us as retarded as we were when plugged in.

I write this not for you OP, but also for everyone here that read the post and didn't see anything wrong with this first example. We are consuming pro-redpill information to eagerly, I know scepticism is generally outlawed and looked upon as useless in this sub, but on the other hand we must be firm with our examples, critical in thinking, instantiations and deductions from this theory. If we do not do this, we will not become real men, but gullible men and even worse our beloved theory will become weaker and weaker in it's validity. In a food metaphor: if we eat everything as TRP theory, our heads will become fat and swollen: everybody will see this, we ourselves will see this, some of us will stop unplugging because they see bad effects, others will never join, we ourselves will doubt our consumerism but if we are not careful about what we digest now our heads will already be fat, and sliming it down is too late/a bitch to realise.

Before we know it, there will be more and more guys having learned from bad examples making more bad examples. this could greatly reduce the percentage of true TRP posts over time, me personally, I think that it is already happening.

Not only are some of us gullible, no. Posts like this one of OP go intentionally to places where there are 3412352134 posts about adultry and pick out some of the women. I could do the same for robbing and asians, if i would give you guys the data long enough, you would believe that asians steal alot. Psycological theory proves this. This is not a good case of the theory, it is using psychological mechanisms to root it in our minds. Do you know who also does this? Feminism.

Some of us will actually become mysogenist because of these bias-creating posts.

EnzoBlankz · 2015-06-07T14:32:40+00:00

crazy how one sided it was, so much women cheating.

BlaiseDB · 2015-06-08T03:18:38+00:00

From the studies I have seen, men get more angst from their woman having sex with another man while women get more angst from the idea of their man being emotionally attached to another woman.

Luckyluke23 · 2015-06-08T03:56:03+00:00

LOL the italian dude story got me when he's like " sorry dude"

if i got caught up like this... you KNOW i'm breaking out like kevin spacey in american beauty.

smokin weed, listen to bob dylan and working out all the time.. hahah...

DaphneDK · 2015-06-08T07:19:32+00:00

I remember reading somewhere about crazy laws around the world, that in Texas it was legal to shoot your wife and her lover if you caught them in the act. Probably untrue, but sounds fair to me.

nemaxofredpill · 2015-06-08T19:28:03+00:00

I found out that my live in GF cheated on me. Our stair led right to the front door so I put all her crap in a box and mad a sled out of other boxes. When she came home, she say the sled box at the top of the stair and asked me what I was doing. I told her to hold the door open without her knowing what I was doing. She did and I let the sled go which made all her stuff slide out by the street. It told her that it was all her stuff and she ran out to grab it and then I went down and yelled "By Cheater" and shut the door and locked it. Eventually the knocking yelling stopped. She still tries to hit me up every once in a while.

JackRayner_ · 2015-06-07T19:30:35+00:00

Reading shit likes this makes my stomach turn to the point that I'll never consider something as delusional as an "exclusive relationship".

I'll let Thomas Hobbes describe my ideal relationship with women: "—nasty, brutish, and short."

✌

666Evo · 2015-06-09T23:21:43+00:00

The sheer number of posts with "my (ex) wife" or "(ex) fiance" is staggering...
AWALT indeed!

GV19 · 2015-06-07T19:31:34+00:00

Most reddit users are men too

Pharmakoza · 2015-06-07T19:39:38+00:00

So you need to get out. I would appreciate that greatly." She then started to cry and I just laughed. Some may call me heartless for this but if you knew the amount that I had put into the relationship and how much I sacrificed for it, you wouldn't blame me.

I wonder if these men didn't see the warning signs because they are easily manipulated by women.

[deleted] · 2015-06-07T15:34:44+00:00

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Title	User posts to /u/askreddit for reactions when they saw their SO having sex with another partner. Most top comments are from men.
Author	ashrobb
Upvotes	297
Comments	172
Date	June 7, 2015 1:36 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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