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Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-10-11T22:10:05+00:00

Compliment their vibe, smile, or style on the apps, not their looks. You can tell them how hot they are when you're inside them.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-10-11T21:19:28+00:00

Put yourself in the woman's mind and try to understand her point of view. Compliments about her looks is bombarding her on her phone from when she wakes up till she goes to sleep, then keep coming while she's asleep. This gets very annoying to women. You can't stand above your competition by doing exactly what thousands of guys are doing, you will be just another annoying mosquito.

It's easy to think telling women they are hot will work because as men....compliments work very well on us, matter of fact we tend to go fishing for more once it starts. With women you need to give them material they ain't used to hearing all day. In 2022, despite all the negativity in the dating landscape, regular, in person conversation about anything that isn't her body is actually easier to have then ever before, because it is a breath of fresh air for her. Girls are sick of being put on the pedestal because they know sex is expected in return, women are sick of being treated like every interaction is a transaction.

slade323 · 2022-10-11T21:07:21+00:00

Don't shower then with compliments no matter what!

The key is to compliment them when YOU want to, not when she wants it or expects it. It is something you want to do, then do it. That's is it. Try not to be too predictable.

The exception is if you are going to an even where you are both dressed up. That is kind of mandatory

CautiousSea4815 · 2022-10-11T22:58:41+00:00

Hot women know they're hot. They've been hearing it all their lives. If you wanna be like the other hundred chumps she encounters throughout the day, by all means go ahead.

Just don't wonder why they don't message you back.

zapadz · 2022-10-11T21:39:00+00:00

Yes. Compliment on something they do not something they are. Like style or personality.

nanoepoch · 2022-10-11T22:22:42+00:00

Try something else. Do you know how often girls are told they're hot? Probably more than they care to hear.

fazzavich · 2022-10-12T01:21:19+00:00

NEVER EVER say these things to a woman. This is simp behaviour 101. She will lose interest. It's like saying to a tall guy, 'hey you're tall' or telling a white man, 'hey you're white' . Let me stress this to you. NEVER EVER SAY THAT TO A GIRL. EVER.

revente · 2022-10-11T22:51:26+00:00

lRL but wait until you're at your place and she starts to undress.

fman91 · 2022-10-12T00:44:21+00:00

Don’t be a simp, try to have a normal conversation. don’t have to much expectation from dating apps, there the scourge of Modern dating.

GabeDrumBeats7Seals · 2022-10-12T00:36:40+00:00

Don’t listen to anyone on here, scroll down and you’ll see everyone saying different shit.

Do whatever you want to do dude, chances are most on Reddit barely get off the internet and talk to girls themselves.

Facts.

Affectionate-Hand788 · 2022-10-12T01:20:30+00:00

The fact that you’re talking to or messaging her is implying you’re attracted to her. Say something else to her.

Gaydame · 2022-10-11T23:36:32+00:00

Stand out from the crowd. That is all.

hotrodcool · 2022-10-11T23:57:26+00:00

You can do it if you're paying them for their time-- if you catch my drift. Otherwise, probably shouldn't if you're wanting to keep their interest.

In general, girls getting attention makes them feel on cloud 9-- they get a rush. They want it, they crave it, their entire social lives and social status are based on how much they can get. When you tell them how hot/beautiful they are, you've just given them what they immediately crave. It's a gamble. If this girls mindset is at the stage where she's ready to give loyal companionship in a steady relationship, then it let's her know you like her and the ball is in her court. If she just wants to fuck around with hot guys, get free drinks/meals, and cause drama... then you've just put yourself in the "foodie & backup plan" category.

Pay attention to her tells and behavior around you. That will tell you if she's already selected you

xxchhfdd35325 · 2022-10-12T00:02:44+00:00

No save it for when you know her better and you got her bra off

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-10-12T00:09:27+00:00

Tell them they are hot af in person when first approaching. Do it with full confidence or do not say it at all 🤣

MissionAd399 · 2022-10-12T07:03:09+00:00

Even if you’re gonna give a compliment don’t say something as low effort as “you’re hot af”. Only time I would say anything like that is when we’re already in a sexual interaction, that’s when you start getting belligerent. Otherwise be discrete and indirect with compliments or dirty talk. Plus telling her what she already knows about her body will bore her fast, don’t be like every guy. Compliment what you like about her personality if you gotta give one so bad.

rachelgarner4 · 2022-10-13T08:24:47+00:00

Compliments are appreciated by women only if they come from a source they are emotionally invested in. This might be right away because of the setup or conditioning otherwise it needs to be built up to.

Compliments coming from a source she’s not invested in are perceived as not “earned” and often classified as a trap.

Don’t give out compliments unless you have strong reasons to believe she will appreciate them: like you’ve been talking to her for 10 minutes and she gives IOIs.

On dating apps it’s better to not unless you’ve exchanged 15+ messages, the convo is going great. In such scenario one single compliment is enough as a statement of intent and move on to setting up the date

Lastly, online you can’t really see her looks. What you’re seeing are photos which these days are highly manipulated with filters and photoshop so you have very little confidence the girl even looks like that in real life.

NoTime6352 · 2022-10-12T16:23:45+00:00

I would suggest to compliment a person for something they have put effort in themselves. Looks you are born with, but the way they style/present themselves, the way they carry themselves or things they are into. Most people like to be complimented on that stuff, cause its a choice they make that reflects who they are. Those compliments feel like you really care, see them and are interested in learning more.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-10-12T02:32:04+00:00

No.

Telling them they are hot can be creepy to many, and for others it’s just an instant red flag because it shows that you will value nothing but their looks, so it’s an instant no.

yoyoyo5k · 2022-10-11T20:54:14+00:00

It doesn't matter.

However you shouldn't shower them in compliments. One is enough, and more when she deserves it - like "i like you're altruistic" when I've seen her helping an old fellow.

neversleeps212 · 2022-10-11T22:55:02+00:00

I mean on a dating app it’s kinda already implied that you find them attractive or you wouldn’t have swiped. You’re also not gonna be the only one doing that by any means so it’ll be harder to stand out. Compliments are more effective in IRL neutral contexts. Like say there’s a girl you like and have mutual friends with and you run into her at a party. Complimenting her appearance can be a way to hint that your interested in more than just friends with her and transition the conversation from friendly to more flirtatious.

HeMan17 · 2022-10-11T23:16:08+00:00

No point in telling her that at all tbh. Save the compliments for when she becomes your girlfriend. If you’re just trying to smash compliments serve no purpose and can even be a negative.

gandalfdoughnut · 2022-10-12T02:20:53+00:00

after you smash

Distinct_Face_5796 · 2022-10-12T03:01:33+00:00

Not good with women but I told this woman I liked her curves. Got her number. Turns out she is running for miss America. Lol and is the beauty queen of my state. Unfortunately she works two jobs so not sure how to pursue this after her miss America pageant.

DonaldyPutin · 2022-10-12T03:01:52+00:00

🤡

DonaldyPutin · 2022-10-12T03:02:53+00:00

Never compliment a girl youre attempting to seduce.

OkNefariousness9758 · 2022-10-12T03:14:58+00:00

If you're going to compliment her, compliment her on something she does for you. That's it

Workamaholic · 2022-10-12T06:08:11+00:00

The best thing you can do is start to understand what it’s like for them. If you have a friend whose. A girl ask to look at her tinder. It immediately will change your perspective about online dating.

When someone compliments you especially in a way that is generic (and seemingly expectational and insincere) it is kind of like you’re putting pressure on them to respond.

The best advice will always be cold approach. It strengthens your nerves. It’s crazy sexy if you’re a woman and it’s a valuable skill in life. Not just dating. But, if you want to online date still and hell you should. Know a few things:

Your pictures are everything. You want your pictures to be selling your lifestyle and vibe not just how you look. I know I know. This is hard but it will make more difference than any other advice. Think about your dating profile as a brochure for being with you. What do you want to present?
You have to be better at communicating. It’s everything in online dating. If you don’t understand how to generate feeling with what you say and to leave them interested or curious as to what you’ll say next. You’re going to have a harder time.

All the best.

Senior-Dot387 · 2022-10-12T06:11:39+00:00

It’s a bad idea. They get showered with compliments daily from guys they won’t think twice about. Complimenting a girl as soon as you meet automatically puts you into their ‘simp’ category and then you’ve lost all hope.

classics109 · 2022-10-12T07:39:38+00:00

Nah. How many guys do you think she has in her dms saying that? Stop giving free validation to women. That's not how you get her to chase you.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-10-12T08:50:47+00:00

Compliments need to be genuine. People can tell when you’re just being polite or needy.

Endlessly_ · 2022-10-12T09:24:39+00:00

Be specific when complimenting people. Don’t just throw out a generic “oh, you’re hot”. Also, if we’re talking about OLD specifically, physical compliments are usually going to get a pretty meh response from women tbh. Be more interesting. If she’s attractive she probably has plenty of DMs telling her as such. Stand out somehow.

the_golden_b · 2022-10-12T10:02:44+00:00

Funny enough, even if I’ve slept with them and we’re not official, I usually don’t compliment them.

MysticYounger · 2022-10-12T10:33:40+00:00

Telling women they're hot on dating apps or irl?

Never

Competitive-Bill-612 · 2022-10-12T10:39:42+00:00

Looks are cliche and the pretty ones get that from just about any guy. Complimenting them on their passions, quirks, personality is the way to go. But that being said u can compliment them on a unique feature: smile, eyes, etc. just saying ur hot aint gona cut it

Professional_Ad_78 · 2022-10-12T13:37:45+00:00

When a guy tells a woman that she’s hot, she unconsciously assumes more value than him, which decreases her attraction. He also puts himself in a category of a lot of other men, rather than stands out.

Don’t immediately compliment a girl that you’ve just met. Especially not on an app. And if you do compliment, make it about something not physical - her achievement, or behavior.

With that said, you might play around with a backhanded compliment - “that jacket looks like it smells bad, but nice smile…”

tonyrelic · 2022-10-12T13:39:28+00:00

Treat her like you would your sister

Redwolfdc · 2022-10-12T13:39:44+00:00

Hot women know they are hot and don’t need to be told. I wouldn’t start off with this because they get it all the time.

NYyoungbull69 · 2022-10-12T16:19:01+00:00

Don’t do it

mgarro385 · 2022-10-12T17:36:57+00:00

Don't do it

Imshortandspicy · 2022-10-12T19:32:09+00:00

Why would you inflate their ego even more? It's already high enough as it is on dating apps.

grindforthegold · 2022-10-13T15:37:13+00:00

yeah they’re already insanely stuck up

Reasonable-Pea-2772 · 2022-10-13T17:23:34+00:00

Emotional intelligence dude. Don't tell them they're hot. Show them they're hot by striping them off and giving them the white juice they so badly want. Afterwards if you GENUINELY mean it say something like I've never seen a body like that before.

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