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sarah420sativa · 2022-06-18T01:27:32+00:00

Personally, I would like that

focus_flow69 · 2022-06-18T02:35:35+00:00

Here's the quick answer, it doesn't matter.

Some women are gonna like it and some aren't. It was always going to be like this. You have to just do what YOU want and decide on the type of girl you want to attract. And the only way to do that is to talk to more girls. And to talk to more girls, you have to approach. 🤔🤔🤔

itizwhatitizlmao · 2022-06-18T02:00:39+00:00

I do like it. It happens often.

I want you to be quick, direct and to the point. Just ask. Because I don’t know you so I’m going off purely physical attraction just like you are.

It’s when the man takes forever with the small talk that I get annoyed. Don’t try to talk to me for a very long time when we are both outside obviously busy. There’s no need. I already made a decision the second I saw you walking up to me.

Also men who make it awkward, or ask me why not. Or try to keep pushing.

It’s so simple. And it’s ok to be rejected, don’t take it personal.

basedbhau · 2022-06-18T05:02:17+00:00

I think the key is distinguishing between "hitting on" and "approaching".

Also, I am the 69th comment lol.

carlos1973633826 · 2022-06-18T01:55:36+00:00

Here is the truth if they are attracted to you Yes. If not No. I was flirting with a girl from my home country in the Caribbean and she was super into me. Another who did not have same cultural background try flirting with her and she became very uncomfortable. I’ll break this to you right now. Most women are going to be annoyed by you. They will say who is this weirdo talking to me. But there will be women who are super happy and into. Now you make the choice, not approach and don’t bother any women. Or approach and give women who are into you a chance. Which woman’s happiness matters to you the most? The ones that like you or the ones that don’t?

2022-06-18T01:53:48+00:00

Aslong as u dont approach at night or somewhere dodgy and take rejection like a champ youre good

rovestbaci · 2022-06-18T05:00:43+00:00

I was actually talking about this earlier with someone! Our idea was that if someone looks focused, moving in a bee-line, clearly busy with something - it would be best to not approach. But if someone is taking their time, smelling the roses, then that might have a better outcome. Depending on the surroundings too though - make intentions clear up front and don't corner her or approach her somewhere she can't leave right away (like an elevator).

Essentially - gauge the surroundings and make a best judgement on it from her perspective.

Only_Commercial_774 · 2022-06-18T03:08:50+00:00

Just approach there’s no reason on missing out on getting a girl

Rusalka96 · 2022-06-18T05:20:32+00:00

I’ve had good and bad experiences. It’s nice to be told I’m attractive and I feel flattered if someone asks for my number even though I’m happily married and will decline. Most of the times the person asking will just say “okay, thanks anyways” and leave. But I’ve also been called a cunt, stupid bitch, fat bitch, and ugly piece of shit for declining to give out my number. You just never know how someone will react. I don’t get hit on as much now that I’m older, and if I do it’s usually men in my age group or older and they tend to take the “rejection” with class

quadfintryfin · 2022-06-18T05:39:38+00:00

If she finds you attractive and is interested then she will like it. If she’s not into you/in the mood/ whatever then she’s not gonna be into it.

butterfliesinthejar · 2022-06-18T03:34:32+00:00

If the guy is nice and respectful, I don't have a problem with it.

luhvxr · 2022-06-18T03:30:54+00:00

i do like it it can be flattering. however don’t be too persistent if the girl says no she’s not interested then leave her alone. those r my only reservations but as long as ur respectful there’s nothing wrong w approaching a pretty girl and being like hey i think ur really cute can i get ur number

TuckerTheCuckFucker · 2022-06-18T03:36:44+00:00

Women like it even if they’re not attracted.. they love the validation.

When a woman says they don’t like it… what they’re saying is that they don’t like men who are creepy or won’t leave them alone after a rejection

kumori_77 · 2022-06-18T05:07:32+00:00

No. It freaks me out because Idk if the person will accept a no without flipping out on me

Expert-Lemmon · 2022-06-18T03:39:23+00:00

This is why its referred as a game. It all depends on the moment and your move. If shes in the middle of a conversation she might get a bit annoyed but if you approach a lonely girl at the bar with confidence you might get your chance. It takes a women (in my experience) all of 7 seconds to form a first impression.

Uttzpretzels · 2022-06-18T02:46:46+00:00

As long as it’s tasteful and not a desperate plea then yeah I do like being approached

2022-06-18T02:48:50+00:00

Yes 100%

Derpakiinlol · 2022-06-18T03:26:04+00:00

Make it quick and to the point and I'm sure they wouldn't mind

It's when they get lost puppy vibes that it doesn't turn out good

cangero0 · 2022-06-18T03:15:16+00:00

Don't ask it on here, ask it on r/dating or r/askwomen

pythonbow · 2022-06-18T05:43:50+00:00

Fuck no.

daddysgotanew · 2022-06-18T02:18:15+00:00

Here’s a secret, but it’s not really a secret. If you’re a desirable man, women do the approaching

WhitePantherXP · 2022-06-18T02:56:41+00:00

Question: do you like when a guy approaches with a happy demeanor or a mysterious serious demeanor

ZoeticLark · 2022-06-18T03:10:08+00:00

There's a huge difference between cat calling a woman and actually walking up to her and talking to her about something that's relevant or somehow related To either what you're doing or the environment/place, hell even the weather if you have nothing else- anything but her physical appearance. We're all still animals and pacing is a delicate dance. I think more people ought to try it using their gut instinct instead of heady pua crap that is all about numbers. If you want to connect you have to build the path to connection one step at a time! If you do it right she will open up.. If she closes up.. think about pacing. Women generally have very valid reasons for being hyper vigilant, dont make threatening gestures, corner them, or zoom in too much and she might find herself weirdly curious. Dont force anything, and if you do get a chance to chat, trying to be positioned side by side.. if its a first chat. its less confrontational than face to face interactions can be and doesnt put pressure for constant eye contact.. This is one way of pacing...you are near her, but by her side, viewing the world together... hope that can start to unravel some other ideas about being physically non confrontational while also making your presence felt. Sometimes a thoughtful gesture like holding the door for someone (even if its not her) can establish you as a person to trust who is aware of others and their surroundings. I guaruntee, most women are hyper aware of whats happening in the room and the temperature, even if they dont act on the knowing or respond. Non response is another protection mechanism so if you ever get that, dont take it personal, its a survival instinct and hard wired. If you use your gut instincts and your heart, i think you will find ways to make many new friends!

MuntjackDrowning · 2022-06-18T03:39:28+00:00

I like it when its done in a playful non sleazy manner.

siamachine · 2022-06-18T08:36:44+00:00

The issue isn’t being approached, it’s being treated like prey.

A lot of men “test” women to see how willing she is to indulge their interest in sleeping with them, before they decide how much they will respect her. It’s predatory.

Being approached by someone who is respectful, whether the woman is interested or not, isn’t the issue. The issue is being approached by someone who wants to see how quickly they can get your pants off, before they’ll consider treating you like a person.

surfershane25 · 2022-06-18T02:25:33+00:00

Well we live in a digital age, so approaching random women during your/her day-to-day activities happens far less. It's almost socially unacceptable, compared to say the 60's or 70's.

If the guy is physically attractive (8 and up), I don't think the women will mind. Anything less than this and you're going into the sex offender registry. Whether they reject the hot guy or not, it's nonetheless an ego boost for the day that such a hot guy approached her.

DarkSun18 · 2022-06-18T05:54:16+00:00

Usually no. But now I’m so lonely I’d like a little bit of attention and if a guy actually liked me at first glance, I’d love to know it.

Prestigious-Sense942 · 2022-06-18T08:34:44+00:00

Yeah. Like it. If it’s respectful.

CenturionLegio · 2022-06-18T10:28:49+00:00

approach over 200 girls only if she finds you attractive :) otherwise she will find it insulting or meh with a bit of flattering feelings

illraceyou96 · 2022-06-18T21:42:26+00:00

No. For me it never ends well. It goes from ‘friendly’ to weird and creepy so quickly and I have never felt safe.

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