You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for that

focus_flow69 · 2022-06-03T04:23:15+00:00

Just do it

George97o · 2022-06-03T10:16:43+00:00

Guys I got approached by a hot girl today in the bus and I'm chubby, yet she enjoyed talking to me. You don't need a 6 pack abs or the best game to get girls into you

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-03T11:19:16+00:00

If you need more, you are playing by society's rules and there is no way you can win. Society wants to keep you feeling not enough so it can sell you stuff or motivate you to work harder and spend more. It values certain men, like athletes, rock stars, billionaires, jocks. But only you have the power to value you. You can choose what to value and if you give yourself value today, you can fly above the race.

cobraCL · 2022-06-03T13:29:01+00:00

Yes! This is an amazing philosophy. Never delay taking risks, meeting people, talking to girls, or anything in life until you are "[x] in life".

You will never be at the point you wanna be, because your real issue is your confidence - not your lack of game, how much money you make, or your muscle definition.

The bravery and self-assuredness to take risks is something that is ironically very attractive to women - believe that you, even as a work in progress, still deserve happiness and success in life and love.

Self esteem!

ojredT · 2022-06-03T06:10:51+00:00

Thanks a lot! I really needed to hear this.

leafhog · 2022-06-03T14:19:48+00:00

And if she is into you it can actually be difficult to mess it up.

ozzzy83 · 2022-06-03T11:14:09+00:00

Exactly. This man knows what he talks about. No excuses. Don't be like - I need more money, I need more muscles, this or that, stop excuses, take more action, and just make it happen!

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-06-03T17:01:57+00:00

I would agree with all this.

Learning game theory can help and its worth it if you are learning the right things. Improvising conversation, free association, challenging girls, self amusement, etc... But, truth is, you can learn this in a weekend, and internalize it over a few weeks. You don't need to over analyze it. Trouble is, most of us will do just that. We will procrastinate, we will make excuses why we're not ready, etc...

I think everyone will be on their own timeline. But the main point is you are good enough to approach and you will learn the most by approaching.

I'd just add, learning inner game and a few game related ideas can also help. Getting fit helps too. But, the problem is many guys spend months and years getting ready. It should be listed as the #1 sticking point almost every new guy will have. Leave the house, get started, and don't get stuck watching videos for the next 18 months.

Visualize_ · 2022-06-03T18:11:49+00:00

This is key advice in pretty much any area of life. We love to reject ourselves, mostly stemming from our ego trying to make us stay in our comfort zone. But inaction is probably the biggest cause of not achieving what you want because you don't get the valuable experience of working towards your goals which includes both successes and failures.

nickmenage · 2022-06-03T18:38:02+00:00

I think you need to at least go for the quick improvements. Dressing better and grooming better if you have the money and someone to guide you it’s literally night and day difference . Brought a chubby friend to shopping mall . I picked up for him like 5 outfits and then we got his haircut . I had a party in my house and he end up talking to a girl who didn’t even realize he existed before . They just went on a date yesterday .

One can go from invisible to have a presence just by having better style .

KinxTheTimeStripper · 2022-06-03T19:08:15+00:00

Talk to girls enough times + learn from trial and error + look decent =/= results in my experience.

Epmt · 2022-06-03T12:52:43+00:00

0x100 girls is still 0, no point trying to get denied when you look shit

ResponsibilityOk5490 · 2022-06-03T17:14:04+00:00

I disagree. If you waste time chasing a bunch of girls like it’s a number’s game, you won’t have time to improve yourself. On the other hand, if you actually improve yourself, you might not get as many girls in the short run, but after couple years, girls will come to you.

So by improving yourself and becoming more attractive you get more girls (in the long run) than by being an average joe that asks out a hundred girls a day.

Also even if you manage to land a girl as an average joe, the moment she leaves you, you’re gonna be absolutely devastated because you had to ask out so many girls just to get that one girl.

By being a ripped stud on the other hand, many girls will be attracted to you and if one leaves you, you won’t be as devastated because you can easily attract a new person.

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2022-06-03T15:15:50+00:00

You’re telling gamers they don’t meet to have max stats before starting the main quest line? Yeah good luck with that…

WanyCaleb · 2022-06-03T18:13:30+00:00

talk to girls enough times + learn from trial and error + look somewhat decent = results

Where dem galz tho'? I feel like that needs to be in the equation at least.

epimpstyle · 2022-06-03T19:19:45+00:00

Yes, you must not way until you are perfect but it depends upon the type of girls you are trying to approach.

Telling a girl that you found her cute and expect that she will exchange her phone numbers with you, looks like a science-fiction video unless you are attractive but even in this case they can suspect that you are doing the same all the time, you are not trustworthy.

incognito3107 · 2022-06-03T08:34:00+00:00

Yeah, practice and opportunities are usually a lot more important than excessive improvement.

SocialReject101 · 2022-06-03T14:21:34+00:00

Finally some breath of fresh air

OmegaClifton · 2022-06-03T14:35:04+00:00

Thanks man, I really needed this

AppropriateAd2410 · 2022-06-04T00:40:39+00:00

What if i am ugly ?

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2022-06-04T02:09:55+00:00

Exactly. You could die tomorrow. You should live everyday like it’s your last. Stop waiting until “tomorrow”.

DortyNiqga · 2022-06-03T09:21:02+00:00

Lol not gonna validate any girl from the get go💀

uwuburn · 2022-06-03T09:58:12+00:00

That's cool and all, but how do I meet new people?I had a couple girls tell me they liked me but i didn't feel the same way and almost all the guys in my friend group are more or less dating, and yes I've checked their friends out but didn't find anyone attractive. Also I've never initiated any sort of conversation with girls because I get super nervous, the only time i talk to them is when they approach me.

haku_whatever · 2022-06-03T12:40:38+00:00

I’m still so fat, I haven’t read anything, I wouldn’t know literally what words to even begin an interaction. It’s hard to look in the mirror. Not enough yet😔 But I’ll keep losing weight, I’ll read. I don’t want to feel so humiliated by getting rejected

EnvironmentalRule525 · 2022-06-03T13:18:22+00:00

100% agree. If you start when you’re still working on your looks it’s going to be hard but once you get into better shape/get better fashion etc etc you start playing the game on easy mode.

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2022-06-03T17:42:23+00:00

I’d like to think improvement involves more than just working out and grooming but yes otherwise you’re right

claritynow66 · 2022-06-19T04:27:47+00:00

🤣

nobodyloser18 · 2022-06-20T13:25:48+00:00

Hot-Claim635 · 2022-06-21T03:34:45+00:00

The book the confidence gap says it best. You don’t need to have confidence to do the thing you want to do. Confidence isn’t being cool and unervous. Confidence is taking action in those moments where you feel the most nervous or doubtful of yourself.

Equivalent_Bus2582 · 2022-06-22T03:51:43+00:00

Yaaaassssssss

Title	You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for that
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Date	June 3, 2022 3:12 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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