let's be real, 90% of the time it's about looks.

hniles910 · 2022-02-27T16:56:46+00:00

somebody once said the outer beauty can get the conversation started but it's the inner beauty which will keep the conversation going.

DoctorForesight · 2022-02-27T17:37:40+00:00

I'm good looking and I struggle. I'm still building my social skills and confidence.

WanyCaleb · 2022-02-27T17:05:43+00:00

It's moreso how you present yourself than anything, lookswise. But yeah, looks make it so much easier

ebmnm · 2022-02-27T15:36:13+00:00

Nah more like 60%

Liberaler · 2022-02-27T16:56:08+00:00

It does not matter if it's 10 or 98% - a social theory on the importance of looks has no impact on your individual case. You just use it as an excuse to stay inactive. Focus on the following formula/aspect instead:

action leads to results!

Andress1 · 2022-02-27T16:31:58+00:00

I was thinking like this for 95% of my life and in the last 2 years i improved my looks a ton,and let me tell you, looks are not everything. Personality and attitude are as important or more.

2022-02-27T15:44:42+00:00

I’d say 70% looks 30% confidence. Maybe even 80/20.

vorter · 2022-02-27T16:15:27+00:00

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3dots_sama · 2022-02-27T16:19:28+00:00

I'm average tho,pulled a fine girl thats taller than me by being funny and confident and ignoring my imperfections

Impressive_Sport_713 · 2022-02-27T15:33:27+00:00

No. Its confidence. Thats not to misunderstand that its okay to not fix yourself up and look like a slob. But there are many guys who are below average with very attractive fit girls. Go out in the world and see those couples for yourself. The proof is everywhere

WalidfromMorocco · 2022-02-27T17:00:14+00:00

Ugly people don't date, apparently.

noxiouskinks · 2022-02-28T00:51:54+00:00

why you all so mad? lmao

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-02-27T16:37:55+00:00

As someone with looks. No it isn't. Looks mean nothing without game to compliment them.

2022-02-27T22:05:51+00:00

For men yeah, for women not so much

recyclablebanthas · 2022-02-28T02:16:34+00:00

Let's be real here, you didn't read the rules before posting.

Kindly read the pinned post about the updated rules and the rules themselves next time because they address this very issue.

Powdered_Toast_Man3 · 2022-02-27T19:18:32+00:00

You're making the mistake many guys make - that women have the same principles of attraction that men do. For men, 90% of what attracts them to a woman is a woman's looks. But for women, A man's looks may get their attention initially but it definitely will not hold it. A man's looks is merely a foot in the door and nothing else. Unless you are absolutely an absolute supermodel or something.

I mean, how many times have you seen ugly dudes with gorgeous women? Women care about how you make them feel more than anything else.

great_account · 2022-02-27T19:22:54+00:00

How can you say that when you've seen average looking guys with hot ass women and vice versa?

SocialKing_ · 2022-02-27T22:01:41+00:00

I do wonder where OP has gotten this hypothesis from.

If you take a scientific approach, what tests have you done that gave evidence to your hypothesis of "90% of the time it's about looks".

I'm not being pedantic or anything but if you think about your statement, it doesn't even make sense.

There is literally so much data that shows this hypothesis is false that it's absurd.

Whoever thinks that this is true either have not gone and done the research and studied Game and pickup or is just here trolling.

The only other option is that the OP is like 14 years old.

Even if you just walk around a shopping mall and look at the dude's walking around with their wife (and possibly kids), you'll realise that at least 50% of them are ugly as fuck. The other 40% is probably average looking with about 10% being Bradley Cooper and Chris Hemsworth.

Edit: Oh and don't even use money or status as an excuse either. That probably contributes less to attraction than looks.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-02-27T19:14:17+00:00

There are people who will never get over the looks thing and that is why they will always be losers. Sorry, but if you're going to use something false like looks as an excuse, you have little chance of winning and getting the girl. Less competition for the rest of us I guess.

No guy with good game will blame his lack of success on looks. Attraction is 90% behavior related. Cave women weren't looking across the cave and saying, wow that guy is really good looking, that has high value for me and my future kids in this dangerous world, I better hook up with him.

Looks has almost no survival or replication value which is where attraction comes from. Men can father children at an old age, its not an issue to be young like it is for women. Looks represents youth and health, but not safety which is where most female attraction comes from. It was social behavior they were attracted to. Who has the best potential alliances to keep me and the kids safe? That's what they cared about. It's in the DNA. Looks play a role. But, a fairly small one.

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-02-27T17:52:25+00:00

BB 80 %

Noobticula · 2022-02-27T17:57:08+00:00

90% confidence.

BuyerOfCoins · 2022-02-27T18:05:53+00:00

Ok so let’s say it is, then 75 of that 90% are things you can work on! Work out, hair, your overall look etc. Then the 15 would be genetics, sure. I’d agree with that somewhat.
I don’t agree with it being 90% at all though, but yeah.

Puzzleheaded-Fox-420 · 2022-02-27T18:41:39+00:00

bro i promise this is 100% not true, i’ve got a few friends i always go out with and one of my friends is very good looking and always gets looks from girls but can never get with any, my other friend is decent looking but not as good as my other friend and he always bags bc how good his game is, id honestly say if u can be seen as initially decent looking buy a girl, as long as your not weird and have confidence your in with a good shot

Imreallytired2301 · 2022-02-27T18:52:38+00:00

I say 70 percent of the time it's looks otherwise how are these ugly dudes getting laid

2022-02-27T19:08:20+00:00

bro just appear confident in the beginning then just really try to connect with her emotional.

MentalCelOmega · 2022-02-27T19:10:21+00:00

In other news, water is wet.

BostonConnor11 · 2022-02-27T19:10:27+00:00

You’ll just have to work harder. The number 1 thing is not being awkward

jjboy91 · 2022-02-27T19:14:28+00:00

Nope physically it's more like Race > Height > Face > Style

NattyGains4Life · 2022-02-27T19:24:49+00:00

And when it comes to looks, A LOT of it is controlable

What your body composition is, bodyfat percentage, muscle mass, chiseled or fat face, how stylish is your hair, how clean, your beard, clean shaven, fully grown, specific style, posture, how tight, moden, sleek, and on point your clothes are

That plus the added social abilities can inflate your looks A LOT

TheLegendofMikeHawk · 2022-02-27T19:39:47+00:00

Incorrect. 90% of the time, it's about VALUE. Looks are a factor in this equation, and some woman are going to place a higher value on it. It's inescapable, but there are ways to subvert this. Looks aren't as important as looking good. There's an art to it.

Jhaatu_420 · 2022-02-27T19:46:14+00:00

If you can improve your looks why complain but if it's something out of your control concentrate on the other aspects of yourself and most importantly get a life beyond all of this, don't put all your attention on women it won't take you anywhere

superneedy21 · 2022-02-27T19:52:28+00:00

Y'all don't understand. It's all about LOGISTICS and INNATE COMPATIBILITY. If you mesh well with the group of people you're trying to hit up, you will have an infinitely easier time. It's just like sales: you don't try to sell the pen to people who don't want it. You sell the pen to people who already have a demand for it.

And no, you won't be able to know who wants it until you ask a bunch of people INDIVIDUALLY if they want it (instead of relying on hearsay and size queens).

So the first goal we should have is getting your situation together enough to be able to move around. The second goal is the same as any freshman: MEET NEW PEOPLE. Yes, the people more interested in instant sex will be at the bars and nightclubs. But don't let your dick do the talking and establish decent relationships with people. The sex then will be more intimate and enjoyable anyway.

dobbs1997 · 2022-02-27T20:13:36+00:00

more like the other way around.

TryingToForgetPi · 2022-02-27T20:16:11+00:00

I think it's half looks and half game. But that still means success is 75 percent in your hands because game is all up to you and looks are half up to you.

Mir_man · 2022-02-27T20:37:15+00:00

Used to think this way, but nowadays I think for men personality plays a much bigger role. That is of course if you are decent looking enough in the first place. A dude with 6 looks but high charisma can score a 9 girl imo, and I ve seen it first hand.

moderndayfez · 2022-02-27T21:01:09+00:00

Yes and no. Looks get the door open more easily but if you have a shitty out look or personality it will get you no where.

ikeepon · 2022-02-27T21:16:04+00:00

It’s not. Looks peak the interest. The rest is about connecting.

tristian_lay · 2022-02-27T21:30:29+00:00

My teacher told me real beauty comes from the inside

Practising_Stoic · 2022-02-27T21:43:34+00:00

Clearly a glass half empty kind of guy, I'll take those 1 in 10 odds.

Also, women don't think this logically, your image in her eyes is much more based on how you make her feel.

PondScum420 · 2022-02-27T21:59:48+00:00

I swear to god I always end up having more success with women when I say fuck it and let my body go a bit. When I’m actually on my shit and working out everyday, I swear I have less success.

RoseTinted64 · 2022-02-27T22:08:03+00:00

Looks get your foot in the door…thats it though

TheNoobtologist · 2022-02-27T22:09:12+00:00

Why are you on this sub if you honestly believe this. We should be banning these sorts of posts. Does nothing for the discussion.

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-02-27T22:09:39+00:00

Aaaaand what do you do about looks? All you can do is stack yourself to the highest limit of what you’re given.

This is why looks aren’t important. If you look YOUR best 100% of the time, there’s nothing else to change but the way you work your game.

Self-Love is the key, love yourself first in all aspects so you can become a healthy functional person in entirety, then you can go pick girls up.

If you don’t have your life together, where it feels like you’re running on rails - you can’t divert off the track to go find a caboose to hookup to. You’re dislodged from the track, what caboose wants to hookup to that? Now it’s equally stuck

Get your life in a locomotive state, give it a good paintjob - always look like you’re in your sunday best, run it on rails, set your rails where you want to go.

Idealbug67 · 2022-02-27T22:34:36+00:00

ehh charisma is atleast 20%

pmtrix86 · 2022-02-27T22:34:38+00:00

Looks will generate attraction more easily, and when a girl is already attracted to you, this will helps a ton, even if you miss out a bit on your conversation or other social skills, she will tolerate it easily since the attraction its already there.

If you don't have the looks, you need to generate attraction through other ways, like good conversation, showing that you are an interesting person, etc (you all know the points I'm talking about). The problem here, is if you are not good looking, she won't give you much of a chance in case you mess up something while "presenting" yourself to her, even if it's something small, she may turn you down. That's the reality.

livehardSP1969 · 2022-02-27T22:57:07+00:00

I know it seems that way but it's worse than that! 50/40 between money and looks 10% Game!

wayoflifeforme · 2022-02-27T23:41:03+00:00

Let’s be real: you pulled that stat out of your ass.

most of the time it’s not even about you mate. That’s the real truth.

Woujo · 2022-02-27T23:51:36+00:00

No. Wrong. Looks are like 20% of the equation. Looks get your foot in the door, but you need gamr after that.

Also, you can improve your looks!!! If you go to the gym, eat right, and wear good clothes you will not be "ugly" anymore.

rudebwoy100 · 2022-02-28T00:19:12+00:00

Yea because social status and income has nothing to do with it...

boerumhill · 2022-02-28T00:21:03+00:00

Which is subjective 100% of the time but OK.

Groundbreaking_Cup95 · 2022-02-28T00:30:12+00:00

Let’s be real. It’s actually not. I’m quite an attractive guy and I get 0 pussy because my mind is fucked up. Stop making stupid assumptions. Make yourself happy and an actually attractive person and girls will follow. Happiness is the result of doing things right in life = other people will similarly believe that “you are successful”. Happiness and a positive mentality will turn a 6 out of 10 girl into an 8 so the same works for guys.

Macarius13 · 2022-02-28T01:52:29+00:00

Not, it is about Power(internal).

AlbertoPer11 · 2022-02-28T02:14:48+00:00

If u are good looking u don't need game but If u are ugly u need game

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