Am I bad if I just want sex? [recovered]

KingScottKing1985 · 2022-01-19T20:59:02+00:00

Be upfront about that.

If you deceive a woman into sex by lying about your intentions, you're a bad person.

If you are upfront about it and everyone knows what this is, no issues.

No_Magazine_8671 · 2022-01-19T22:02:55+00:00

How I wish we could meet. All I go on DAs is to find a guy to have causal sex with. I don’t want a relationship I just want sex. Regular sexual encounters with the same guy. It’s annoying because all I end up having is one night stands and they try to hang out 🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s like no I just want sex, I don’t want to go out to dinner and go on dates just come over and fuck me good

cbh28 · 2022-01-19T21:12:16+00:00

Not bad at all. Plenty of women just want sex, so look for those.

Allaiyah · 2022-01-19T21:20:12+00:00

I've never had a problem with this. Just be honest and own what you want.

Say: "I'm not looking for a monogamous relationship." or "I'm looking for a friend with benefits or polyamory." I've also found it helpful to say something like "Most of my relationships in these past years have been open/ friends with benefits." It sets up a no big deal attitude around it and normalizes it showing: this is something that has worked for me and others.

They'll then describe what they want. Maybe they'll be like, yea that's not for me. And you can say oh yea no problem, I'm also looking for friendship and you're very cool.

TBH tho I can't tell you how many women will tell me they want a serious partner and then proceed to accept my advances anyway. It's honestly way better this way. They know where you stand, you've been clear and honest. And if the sexual relationship gets tense or you become kind of distant at some point, you don't have to explain yourself retroactively, and they don't blame you for being an asshole. Because you were acting completely congruently with your words.

Not only do I have way better success by just being clear about what I'm looking for, but I have way more respect after the fact. I haven't had a bad break in years and I'm still friendly with most girls I hook up with.

PuroPincheGains · 2022-01-19T21:27:41+00:00

Nope, just don't lie to anyone. There's plenty of women who want something very casual.

BlankImagination · 2022-01-19T22:48:15+00:00

To be frank- guys like you are a dime a dozen. Of course there are women who also simply want sex, but you never hear guys complaining about them. I say that to say this- you probably arent gonna be the first guy from a dating site to tell a woman you only want sex. Just be respectful, straightforward, and honest. If you feel someone is getting the wrong idea or might be subconciously growing romantic feelings talk to them about it, see if you can set the record straight and keep the ball rolling. If you can't then just let them go and move on.

Woujo · 2022-01-19T23:26:40+00:00

No as long as you are honest about it.

But just wanting sex is lame. You dont need to want a relationship but you can at least want to have a fun time with her too.

PuzzleheadedNote3 · 2022-01-19T22:23:23+00:00

No matter what you want just be confident in it. Dont feel guilty for wanting what you want. By the same token you cant get upset either if you dont have any success

kingofmylunchtime · 2022-01-19T21:53:52+00:00

No you’re not, providing they know that to.

It’s harsh if you lead them on when they want something more, if you’re straight with them from the off then you have nothing to be sorry for.

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-01-19T22:11:25+00:00

In order to command this keep in mind that many girls wanting a relationship will not want to date you, so you will be eliminating many options by having this only want. You will come off as a waste of time by saying this and only if you are wealthy or extremely good looking will be able to pull this off. Dating sites are a screening process so be prepared to be screened out if this is all you want.

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2022-01-19T22:27:45+00:00

No, just don't manipulate people to do that. You can definitely have sex-only and be upfront about it. You're bad if you lie or manipulate someone about *anything* - not just sex.

B3asy · 2022-01-19T23:29:16+00:00

Nah, it's all good. Just be honest about it with whoever you're with

ado011235 · 2022-01-19T23:51:50+00:00

Yes you're a very bad boy

Depressed--Unicorn · 2022-01-19T21:04:32+00:00

Just be up front and honest about it. It is my opinion that a key component to all interpersonal relationships, sexual, emotional, or otherwise, is honesty. If you let your intentions be known and are willing to be honest about them, it won't get you much more if any more action at all but it will help break the tension and goes a long way towards preventing miscommunications

EnvironmentalRule525 · 2022-01-19T22:05:25+00:00

Nope you’re like 90% of guys lol.

Just have fun dates with girls and ask them if they want to come over to your place at the end of the date. If all goes smoothly and you hook up, then hang out with them at a cadence of no more than once per week, and when/if they bring up the exclusivity talk, just say something like “I really like spending time with you, you’re gorgeous, I’m just at a point in my life where I’m not ready for a relationship. If you don’t want to keep hanging out, I totally understand, but I’d love to keep hanging out with you”

unfinity2 · 2022-01-19T21:13:40+00:00

I mean…most do really at least at times.

LJM__187 · 2022-01-19T22:05:31+00:00

Honestly the best way to find these girls is at work or through friends. You need to get to know them a little bit, play it cool and not show you are desperate or anything. Many girls wanna have fwb, but most don’t want everyone knowing, so let her know she can trust you first. After that it’s simply becoming friends until she either makes a decision she wants to friendzone or fuck you. There’s always one of these girls at a workplace considering there are a few roughly you age

Fr4nko_ · 2022-01-19T22:20:17+00:00

Sometimes you have to manipulate women into that. feels bad but thats the way sometiems with some women. It doesnt mean its a bad move

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-01-19T22:15:17+00:00

I dunno I've banged out 50+ girls and it gets very old.

T-Nem · 2022-01-19T22:28:19+00:00

No just make sure you communicate that clearly at the opening stages. People don't hate it when people just want sex, people hate it when they feel their trust is broken and lied to

GlitterSnatchCyTex · 2022-01-19T22:47:57+00:00

It’s what Tinder is for.

skinticket02 · 2022-01-19T21:07:02+00:00

That title gives me heavy Mormon energy . No you're not bad if you just sex.

With every women you meet , you're basically going to have to communicate that you're looking for sex openly and honestly. This doesn't mean that you say this explicitly though , just make sure your intentions are known without describing the act of sex itself through the use of innuendo.

gregsapopin · 2022-01-19T22:53:11+00:00

do people just like talking to girls?

SilkTouchm · 2022-01-19T22:19:45+00:00

You don't need to do anything. Don't verbalize you're only after sex, that's only going to close you doors. After a few months of seeing a woman she will bring the topic of monogamy and that's the point where you need to verbalize your actual intentions.

HistorianOk9981 · 2022-01-19T23:46:42+00:00

I'm in the same mindset U are. When I go on personal dates (a co-worker asked me if I was single on monday and we fked yesterday and today) I just slip in the middle in the conversation I got out off a long relationship recently and not looking for anything serious. Sometimes they will ask you what Ur looking for, sometimes U ask them and they ask you back. U just have to feel the mood.

Side note: pls don't tell them U just want to have sex/fk/etc... That doesn't work

Proof_Influence_4583 · 2022-01-19T23:53:25+00:00

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krispykreme01 · 2022-01-20T00:08:39+00:00

No don’t be upfront about just wanting sex or fwb she can get that from any other guy so why you.

just get into situationships and slowly drop hints Tell them you want to take things slow, you’re not sure if you want to settle down yet etc etc…

megamindfan1 · 2022-01-20T00:19:40+00:00

It’s honestly just about if you’re lying or not. If you’re looking for hookups/fwb I suggest you go to dating apps and make it clear in your profile, it’ll be a lot easier

VicenteVazquez117 · 2022-01-20T00:24:42+00:00

Tinder

2022-01-20T00:27:24+00:00

Be upfront. Maybe just pay for it

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-01-20T00:40:10+00:00

You go out have sex. If she asks what you are looking for you tell her I am meeting people and seeing where it goes from there. It shows you are not needy or have expectations. It also shows you might be ready as well when she comes along. I have never had to tell a woman im just looking for sex thats cuck

bestbudintown · 2022-01-20T00:54:06+00:00

If I wasn't sexually attracted to women I would hate all of them. There is a whole stereotype about "men being dogs" that only want sex because most dudes on the planet have asked the same question you did.

Please understand that sex is dangerous for everyone but more importantly sex is most dangerous for your wallet.

Title	Am I bad if I just want sex? [recovered]
Author	Proof_Influence_4583 [recovered]
Upvotes	87
Comments	136
Date	January 19, 2022 8:57 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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