Failure in real life approaches but master at online dating

Imissmiura · 2024-05-02T17:07:26+00:00

For the record I'm 6'2, 200lbs muscular, mixed race and handsome and don't get these results. I must be one of those people with no personality you talk about 💀

stockmaniac · 2024-05-02T18:38:32+00:00

The new generation of girls don't know how to communicate in person anymore.

This one time I actually approached a girl at the gym and got her number and she said I was lucky since she dosnt give her number out in person. That's the mindset they have. Old or even hitting them up through IG is safer for them

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-05-02T17:45:19+00:00

I do better online than real life, too.

If it works, it works.

aiwendil_brown · 2024-05-02T17:06:25+00:00

(triple digits no brag)

Thank goodness you clarified it’s not a brag mate. Really would’ve seemed that way otherwise.

Smart_Mammoth_7791 · 2024-05-02T18:56:29+00:00

Very similar situation to you OP. OLD game is quite successful both in matches and closings. Real life approach is lacking.

What I have found works best for me is. When I’m doing cold approach I do it at a bar or a similar venue where I can dedicate time to talking, flirting and building up attraction and rapport. This leads to getting numbers or IGs and in some cases to second dates.

Key is to take it as far as possible in the first interaction. Ideally kiss close. That way the date is very close in dynamic to an OLD date.

It feels sometimes like a waste of time to do IRL when OLD is so much more efficient. But I think that developing cold approach and IRL seduction skills is a must and OLD is a crutch that actually holds me back.

HSTmjr · 2024-05-02T22:56:35+00:00

Try more pre-selection irl.

If your able to have so many girls go out with you; try to turn the interesting ones into "wingwomen."

Go to events with women and be cheerful/flirty with them. Other girls will notice it and make your approaches more smooth.

In terms of co workers rejecting you that maybe a red flag that you have been gossiped about your player ways

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-05-02T17:14:27+00:00

Because the only thing women really have to judge people and make first impressions on with online dating are your photos, a couple of dumb prompts and whatever other “stats” you choose to show (height, job, political preference, college etc). When you approach women in real life there are a million other things they can judge you on (confidence, body language, vocal tonality, perceived social value, sense of style, your scent, how nervous you are, sense of humor, etc, etc etc.)

Also dating apps are basically just huge dopamine boosts. They are designed to only show you women that have already liked you and matched with you. When in reality, every single day there are hundreds of women swiping left on you and saying “I don’t like this guy.” Like 90% of women are swiping left on most guys.

It’s all mostly just a numbers game and the vast majority of women aren’t going to be that interested. But that’s the benefit of dating apps. You can swipe on 100 girls in like 10 minutes and maybe 5-10 will like you back. But approaching 100 girls takes a long ass time and you’re going to get denied a lot just like in online dating but you have to feel it in person to your face. So it feels way worse than online where you don’t see the women denying you.

Also every single person on apps is single and looking to date. But when you approach random women like 50% or more will have boyfriends already or not looking for anything. And that adds another element of difficulty

ShortStuffV2 · 2024-05-02T16:54:51+00:00

Looking at this I want to say you go for IG and then treat it like it's OLD if they follow back.

What/how are you opening/conversing irl? We need to trade on this shit, I am 100% hopeless at OLD

phr234 · 2024-05-02T21:35:26+00:00

Share some rizz

c_setup_exe · 2024-05-03T01:13:29+00:00

We need tips from U bro lmao

Drop some game

JLifts780 · 2024-05-03T03:20:40+00:00

Same man, I’m awful at the actual date but getting a match and setting up a first date is pretty easy now.

CarabaoBAC · 2024-05-03T05:28:25+00:00

Imo irl success always comes from being in the right place and the right time. You're going to fail more than in OLD and you hear that rejection more. As long as you don't let it get you down, you can also just have a fun night.

burncushlikewood · 2024-05-03T08:17:25+00:00

5'8 235 ish here, bro if it's ain't broke....but yea I have no idea about this Im the exact opposite, much better in person than online, I find online game to be unfamiliar territory, I don't like the concept of not being able to control more things when you approach in person, body language, speech, tone, I find I can get to know her better that way

ChipsAhLoy · 2024-05-03T11:29:10+00:00

Sounds like you’re forgetting that online dating is easy, shallow, and most of the hard work is done for you. There’s way less obstacles to overcome… obviously anyone on a dating app is actively looking to socialize, and when you match with someone, you know you already meet their preferences on looks. Plus, most people lay out all their interests and backgrounds right on their profiles, so you already have plenty to work with to start and steer conversations in the right direction. Doing all this through messaging also allows both parties time to formulate the perfect response to peak each other’s interests.

In-person game requires you to make an immediate impression on someone who may not be feeling social (even in social settings), may not like anything about you physically, and will need you to notice the right things and ask the right questions for them to reveal their interests and background. And, all of this needs to be navigated on the spot… no time to think and edit the perfect response like through messaging (until you pull the number). All this comes with practice.

Long story short, online dating works well when you just know how to present yourself, which it sounds like you do. But when it comes to in-person, presenting yourself well goes nowhere unless you also know how to make people comfortable enough to socialize… then you steer in the direction you’re hoping from there.

TurbulentAardvark345 · 2024-05-03T13:59:20+00:00

You have no charisma. It’s okay. Most people can’t approach a complete stranger and find common ground.

Only way to improve is to keep trying and maybe the pain of failure will teach you something

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-05-02T18:57:17+00:00

Different skillsets bro. Like you said, you can use the same lines and routines to get girls on dates. Then confidently seduce them in person to bring them back to yours for the lay since you know they are already into you. In person, you don't really know that so it affects your behaviour.

But it's also statistics. The women you match with on the apps are majority single and have some interest in you just from seeing your profile.

In person, the amount of women who are both single and somewhat interested in you without you having talked to them yet is a much smaller percentage so by definition, you will have a lot less success with them.

easy-money-sniperr · 2024-05-02T23:43:48+00:00

Be genuine. Pickup doesn’t work in real life and even if it does why bother? Try to actually connect with the person and if they reject you try again.

ClitPlayaBootySlappa · 2024-05-03T01:00:31+00:00

watch this, brother, its less than 5 mins but he shows exactly how to seduce a woman (first thing out of his mouth when he approaches),

I co-sign this approach because it fucking works for me, the women that bite, get really turned on.

its scary at first, but you have a 100+ bodycount, you already know women love fucking

https://youtu.be/L-CZYxUGBko

Badguy60 · 2024-05-03T04:26:21+00:00

What do you normally open up with in person?

Myagooshki2 · 2024-05-03T18:49:15+00:00

Welp, you have a good strategy. So you might as well leverage it. Don't worry about approaching IRL. Why bother? Online is working for you.

80880085 · 2024-05-03T22:05:49+00:00

If you can’t pull interest in person, then you have no game, period. Doesn’t matter if you pull a million girls online, any chump with decent pictures and a witty profile description will have success.

You clearly need to start with the basics and learn how to just present yourself well in person. Work on your active conversational skills in all social situations (not just with hitting on girls), and always seem approachable even if you’re the one doing the approaching. The key is making people feel comfortable around you, unlimited doors open after that.

Chouihai · 2024-05-05T05:14:57+00:00

Any chance we can see the profile?

Pretend-Sale8985 · 2024-05-05T20:50:42+00:00

Height has a bigger impact in real life, while on dating apps, it's all about the face, and looking like a cool bad boy/player who has lots of sex. In real life, most women want a relationship, while on Tinder, a lot just want a fun hookup with a dominant guy who knows what he's doing who is cool.

The gangster style helps you because on dating apps, to have success you want to look more interesting and cooler than the average man, it's not enough to be good looking, you have to seem like the coolest guy, while in real life, nobody really cares about that, unless you come across those same women you meet online. The type of women who would reject you in real life are exactly the kind of women you would never meet on dating apps because they are not impressed by guys who look like they are gangsters, and your height is used against you also.

People assume that dating apps are all about looks but in reality, it's all about style, not the clothes themselves, but how you appear and how you talk, the more abnormal you are, the more interesting you are.

I'm a 6'4" good looking guy and I have always had way more success in real life than on dating apps because women see my height and looks and they can't help but stare, it does not matter to them that I have no tattoos and don't look like a bad boy, because they just imagine me as their boyfriend, not as the guy who would use them for sex and never call them back. In PUA circles, this phenomenon has been described as boyfriend material vs boyfriend potential in a pejorative manner but in reality, it is just a matter of what you desire. I don't like casual sex so I'm not going to portray myself as someone who has casual sex, I'm going to portray myself as a good looking but successful guy who is going to be highly desired for a serious relationship.

VisibleSock3001 · 2024-05-03T21:55:02+00:00

I've struggled with this myself before.

It's most likely that your "vibe" was offputting.

I read from an ebook that vibe is the most important skill to get women to be attracted to you IRL.

Doesn't really matter how you look (as long as you're not plain ugly). You can say all the right things and look a certain way but if your vibe is off, you won't get the most positive responses.

I learned how to build this attractive vibe and started pulling women easily whenever I went out (most of them approached me).

I can send you the ebook if you want, it also teaches about how to notice signs that she likes you.

Title	Failure in real life approaches but master at online dating
Author	theironboyz
Upvotes	44
Comments	70
Date	May 2, 2024 4:36 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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