How many of you eventually settled down and got married after being in the game?

MyUsername0_0 · 2024-03-27T15:46:41+00:00

I'm pretty sure that's the majority of men. At least for me I wanted to get better with women so I could figure out what type of women I enjoyed being with the best.

While I am still looking for the "one" that is definitely the end goal for me. Casual hookups are fun for a while but the time, effort and energy wasted can get old and its not really fulfilling.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2024-03-27T15:36:03+00:00

I’m not married yet, but I’ve been in a LTR for 3 years after dating heavily after a divorce.

I really think the more you ‘date for a relationship’ the more you shoot your self in the foot, and actually the less likely it is to happen. You have to let things develop and keep options open until you’re in an actual relationship.

However, I think it’s VERY important to have a clear idea of the type of ideal woman you want to settle down with and be very specific in your mind. Write it down even—what she looks like, her personality, traits you DON’T want her possess.

Of course, you won’t find someone exactly like that, but it’s astonishing how many characteristics that woman will have when you have a clear idea of what you want.

Hope that helps.

Phil_B16 · 2024-03-27T15:59:32+00:00

The Game never ends. Even while married you should still game your wife to keep her interested & on her toes.

It’s when you become complacent, comfortable & lazy that attraction begins to stagnate.

redbastion7272 · 2024-03-27T18:33:54+00:00

Married 10 years now, slipped out of the game when I met my wife who really was out of my league. PUA culture, and the Game in general made me a better man. I think that understanding "social dynamics", how to get laid and understanding why/how things work saved me from growing resentful towards women in my early 20s.

Refuse2Lose76 · 2024-03-27T17:54:41+00:00

My dating career started at 16 & ended at 23 when i met my wife .. settling down attracted more women so even though i stopped i realized the game didn’t ..

async2 · 2024-03-27T15:55:25+00:00

I'm not sure if you get the right answers here, as the guys who actually married might have left the sub. So don't interpret anything from the amount of answers.

AHockeyFish · 2024-03-27T18:08:04+00:00

Yep! Happily married at 28 after I was in the game steadily since 21.

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2024-03-27T20:05:43+00:00

The goal of my seduction skills was to ultimately be able to get the best girl I could. Im dating at super fine and fun girl now. Not really interested in playing the field anymore.

Competitive-Ask4393 · 2024-03-27T19:59:10+00:00

If you're player and still chasing women for short term gains after 100 - 150 bodies, it's pathetic

There's nothing more sad than being on your death bed, reflecting on the life you lived and only having experienced it from one angle. You want to live multi faceted. Have a stage of your life where it revolves around fucking multiple women, crazy degenerate sex, ONS, threesomes etc BUT also have another stage revolved around a connection to one person, deep loyalty and emotional connection.

Same goes for partying, drugs, traveling etc. You want phases and memories tied to experimenting, partying in the craziest places and living it up but also ones that revolve around quiet intimate times with people you care about and self reflection.

You don't want your 100 years on earth to be a constant loop of the same experiences.

A lot of people (especially on this sub) get caught up living the same day and being the same person for 50 years and die with less than a dozen major life events to share.

Ruin369 · 2024-03-28T02:04:24+00:00

Dating career started at 25(when I actively started dating) and met my wife at 27. Though I met her more out of sheer luck. I still took it upon myself to message her and the rest is history :)!

Though this IS a seduction sub, and seduction doesn't end when you are with someone - so take that as you will.

alone_sheep · 2024-03-27T20:10:10+00:00

Yup, "settled down" with my swinger wife. We still have lots of fun with singles and couples and my acquired skills are still useful. Though arguably a lot rustier and used less often since most of the people we interact with already know us from social and already want to fuck. 😆

SpookyKG · 2024-03-27T18:39:04+00:00

Game techniques helped with dating and introducing myself to people. It helped a lot.

It is not at all relevant in my marriage - my partner is chill, fun, independent, and we share many interests.

Game helped me make friends (and dates) and being successful in that may have helped me meet her. But it doesn't have anything to do with maintaining my relationship.

Rebel-Alliance · 2024-03-28T00:18:44+00:00

Married. Divorced. Got into game. Married. Divorced. Couldn’t hack monogamy. Once one has seen the other side, there’s no going back.

Classic_Writer8573 · 2024-03-28T02:49:16+00:00

I settled down at 38 after an amazing ride. Ultimately, I started craving stability. You don't play the game this long without getting attached to various degrees. I thought I had met my soulmate, but it didn't work out and I was crushed. I thought I'd just get over it, but it really messed me up and this lasted years. I didn't want to date anymore. I literally married the next woman I went on a date with.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2024-03-27T17:59:39+00:00

I've been gaming since I turned 21. I'm 34 now and am tired of talking to and taking home random women. It's pretty much the same process everytime give or take a couple tweaks here and there.

I wouldn't mind finding a nice high quality woman to settle down with. Aka a woman with no tattoos,has good taste in men, and is pretty attractive.

Zoroark1089 · 2024-03-28T01:44:10+00:00

People getting married at 23,wtf? Lol

DaygameCode · 2024-03-27T23:12:50+00:00

Smart men don’t get married even if you pointed a gun to their head

emeaguiar · 2024-03-27T20:37:23+00:00

That's just how it goes isn't it?

pikecat · 2024-03-28T05:24:49+00:00

I used to go out all of the time, see various girls. Then I met a hot girl at a bar, she used to go out a lot too. After a little while we became exclusive and never went out again. A few years on we got married. We have the same, non mainstream views, we do our own thing. She'd be perfectly happy in an off grid modest, self built, house growing our own food. Together, we have all the skills necessary to do so.

NoRefrigerator4969 · 2024-03-28T02:27:02+00:00

Gamed heavily from 2003-2013 until I got married. Very happy with 3 kids now. As others have mentioned, learning dating dynamics, the female psyche, and most importantly dating hundreds of girls, I got to know what I was looking for. I became the selector, had options, and knew when I had a really great gal to lock down.

I credit game for giving me options and abundance. I credit game for teaching me self respect and how to stand up for myself when I was a total supplicator as a young lad.

ChicoBrillo · 2024-03-27T16:52:48+00:00

I dated casually a lot in my twenties, good experiences, now im 33 in a committed relationship that I hope lasts a very long time (don't necessarily believe in marriage).

We're open which has been working out great, I still get to experience the fun and excitement of flings while still having the stability of a consistent partner.

Title	How many of you eventually settled down and got married after being in the game?
Author	kelement
Upvotes	84
Comments	76
Date	March 27, 2024 3:26 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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