Just got absolutely rejected

revente · 2022-07-02T09:50:57+00:00

Maybe you looked different from your photos?

Anyway, don't overthink this. She sounds like a weirdo.

BingQiiLing · 2022-07-02T11:05:32+00:00

Take it as a blessing and a sign brother.

You don’t need to impress someone who clearly doesn’t deserve your respect. She’s an asshole.

Kennymacdougall · 2022-07-02T09:32:09+00:00

She was just playing games. Don't let it get to you.

Innokin_Paul · 2022-07-02T13:07:37+00:00

Why are valuing yourself based on the reaction of someone you don't know? It happens. Shake it off and hit the gym.

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2022-07-02T11:36:45+00:00

First, you did AWESOME! You got a match & set up a meet & showed up. That's some MAN SHIT, right there! Second, she didn't know anything about you and walked away. That right there is her loss! She missed out on the opportunity to date a great man. You should pity her and feel elated that you not only dodged a bullet, but you also got one poser out of the way onto your true path to happiness. Yes, we all have an idea of how we want someone to look before we date them, but we almost always leave personality to the back burner. This woman had no integrity and piss-poor upbringing. You wouldn't want to date her anyways so it makes ZERO sense to lament over her. Don't let it phase you; it wasn't personal! (She never knew anything about you so it never was personal).

Keep doing what you're doing because there will be a woman who turns around, sees you and will beam a great big smile and be overjoyed to see you walking up! That is what you deserve. Always remember that. Anything less is a waste of your time. You are unphased on your quest to meet a wonderful woman that deserves your time.

DeliberatelyInsane · 2022-07-02T13:04:47+00:00

Plot twist, the three dudes were also the guys she met on bumble and decided to have an audition. Sorry mate, you don’t get the part.

MillennialWBrain94 · 2022-07-02T10:04:51+00:00

Straighten out your posture walk w/slightly slower than usual pace, chin up and avoid looking around don’t be afraid to take up space Small changes I made in my every day life that boosted my confidence over time

sidbunch6 · 2022-07-02T11:09:17+00:00

Probably didn't look enough like your photo? I'M guessing that's the case.

I tend to use photos that don't 'do me any favours' if that makes sense lol. There's just no point in trying to catfish with photos where you look way better than you do in real life. If you then meet her and she's not attracted to how you look (like how she was in your profile pic) it's just gonna be a waste of time

Not saying that that's what you done or that that was necessarily the reason for her weird reaction, but just putting it out there

She sounds like a weirdo anyway, so don't worry about it.

WeirdLaw · 2022-07-02T11:06:53+00:00

There are many possibilities, don't overthink it.

A tip to increase self confidence: tell yourself no matter what happens you are going to be okay.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-07-02T14:08:25+00:00

If you talk with women waiting for their approval then you will always be insecure.

Confidence comes when you realise that their approval means nothing, and that you should not try to seek it.

The only approval that matters is the one you give yourself for doing what you want and congratulating yourself for trying.

piliponful · 2022-07-02T12:10:55+00:00

Ahahahahhaha, braaaaffff, that's cruel, ahah. But don't let it bother you. I think it's just a funny story for beers with friends

depth_charge_ · 2022-07-02T12:48:45+00:00

Take it as a lesson - do not meet up at a club with some random online chick. They have too much power there

floppyjabjab · 2022-07-02T13:40:29+00:00

did you akwardly walked to say hi or you just straight up walked up and be like "Chloe right?"
cause IN a bar those 2 comes off bery differently when someone you never met is waiting for you.
If she recognised you, she's a fucking weirdo for sure but man o man I'm bad with faces so I never recognize anyone, I usually don't mean anything by it when I don't

MattyIce1220 · 2022-07-02T15:00:23+00:00

A club seems like an awful place to first meet someone. Better off going to coffee or something like that. If there is a connection and you guys still are dead set on going to a club at least you’d be walking in together.

InfiniteShadows · 2022-07-02T11:44:02+00:00

Don’t sweat it homes, you don’t need that shit in your life

lelouch_2002 · 2022-07-02T12:57:30+00:00

I just got horribly rejected 15 min ago she told me " i want give my number to someone like you " but guess what it s a game and i m in the losing side she can do whatever she want Once i become on the winning side i m gonna behave like her and do what ever i want to

Axelyager · 2022-07-02T13:04:23+00:00

Yeaaaa probably could have picked a better hang than the club for a bumble date

purrpect · 2022-07-02T13:36:53+00:00

You said your problem out loud already. Zero confidence. Fix that first.

Lit-Up · 2022-07-02T13:37:03+00:00

She's a bitch and you dodged a bullet! You won!

BluffingAlgorithm · 2022-07-02T13:57:08+00:00

Sounds like you dodged a bullet to me, someone even half-decent wouldn't do that and would at the very least give you the courtesy of a chat.

fangclan · 2022-07-02T14:06:23+00:00

I'm sorry man, women like that are terrible

JanetInSC1234 · 2022-07-02T14:12:14+00:00

The fact that she was dancing with three guys shows that she was not serious about any kind of meet-up. Bullet dodged....she's a party girl and you really don't need that.

Tharrios1 · 2022-07-02T14:53:06+00:00

See you in the gym bro, we will lift our problems away together.

mookyvon · 2022-07-02T14:55:35+00:00

Why are you letting the woman lead? Why meet at a fucking club of all places?

Dazzling_Scientist56 · 2022-07-02T15:23:39+00:00

I wouldn’t even have accepted meeting at a club. You were in her frame before meeting.

khan114936 · 2022-07-02T15:48:27+00:00

Heres a pro tip

Once you get her phone number, give them a 5 or 10min, introduce yourself.

You'll be surprised how some women can turn out differently to what you expected just by hearing their voice.

Hope that helps, as this is what I usually do.

cobraCL · 2022-07-02T16:12:31+00:00

That's just downright cruel. Zero integrity - be glad you missed that bullet.

OP, understand that what happened was more a reflection of that Bumble shithead than it was of you. Keep your head held high, and remember: A lion doesn't care about the opinions of cowardly hyenas.

Extra-Boysenberry · 2022-07-02T17:17:59+00:00

Don’t feel bad. I’ve been stood up and flaked twice off dating apps in the last week.

Complex-Peak · 2022-07-02T12:51:17+00:00

First you expected to find a good girl from a dating app, first mistake, and then said girl told you to meet for the first time at a club, where sheb will approached by lots of guys, that have an equal chance with you, because you have never even met her. Holy shit. You realise you were just an option for the night.

dark_helmt8 · 2022-07-02T11:36:07+00:00

Can take the hoe out dat club, but dat club tryina ease up in dat hoe, playa hahaha. Dodged a bullet homie, don't meet girls in clubs bro, those type bitches brains need further development.

Competitor6098 · 2022-07-02T13:03:40+00:00

There has been so many moments in my life where I, metaphorically, mine through rocks for months and months, hoping I reach the diamonds. Only to give up when all I had to do is mine for a couple more minutes to finally get to the diamonds. When everything seems like it is going against you and you’re about to tap out, that is the moment when you push the hardest. Don’t give up; you will get to your reward!!!

The_Crude · 2022-07-02T10:12:16+00:00

Did she even know that it was you? Maybe she thought you were just someone randomly approaching her while she waited for her bumble date.

Rymasq · 2022-07-02T12:36:30+00:00

This kind of behavior is unacceptable and immature. Don’t take it personally, it’s not you, it’s them. At the very least in a situation like this the right thing from her end is to maybe spend time for 1 drink with convo, then say “hey sorry this has been great but my friend needs my help”. Then you ask about her friend as a follow up text the next day and she lies and says “oh they are fine, btw, I’m sorry I didn’t feel a connection”

Once again, don’t take this personally. It’s not you, it’s them.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-07-02T14:27:33+00:00

Don’t even let it bother you.

TechnoGeek423 · 2022-07-02T11:12:24+00:00

I wonder if she didn’t know who you were. In any case, she sounds antisocial. None of this bodes wel for a relationship. Also, a club for a first date? So she can get hit on my other guys and feel even more self important?

Bforbrilliantt · 2022-07-02T16:07:02+00:00

You know that slightly nervous feeling about meeting someone new for the first time? Sometimes that's enough to make people cower out.... It's sad when you read all this stuff on confidence and approaching and then the other party is the chicken shit! Although bumble, isn't that where women do the first message anyway? So it's not like she's just begrudgingly accepting someone she's semi attracted to. It is easy to start analysing all the body language and say "I should have been leaning my head at a 3.7 degree angle to the left to produce a calm comfortable vibe but I overcooked it by a couple of arc minutes and now she thinks I'm creepy. Also my moving Adam's apple rate was once every 7 seconds instead of every 8 seconds which portrayed discomfort" But sometimes it's just the woman chickening out at meeting a stranger or having a crap memory or day or she spilled beer down herself and didn't want this to be the first meet. As they say keep swiping.

ltpeaches · 2022-07-02T16:38:25+00:00

WAIT. You said she dances at multiple clubs? Is she an exotic dancer that gets tips? If thats the case, then she uses Bumble for further marketing. If not, then I'm sorry. She's a bitch either way.

opex100 · 2022-07-02T16:38:31+00:00

Some people suck. If she couldn’t even say something and had to run away from honesty. Low quality person.

BangaiiWatchman · 2022-07-02T16:39:18+00:00

Lol that’s hilarious. Laugh it off and keep pressing on dude!

waresmarufy · 2022-07-02T16:48:05+00:00

Nothing makes sense anymore when it comes to dating.

Focus on yourself, hit the gym and keep it moving.

Indian_Cap · 2022-07-02T16:50:41+00:00

One girl met me irl, she was pretty of course and we smoked and then she invited me to the bar. I went and she absolutely ignored me. Nothing except hi hello. Needless to say confidence was shattered and depression took over. So it’s definitely not because u look different in pics. Some girls are just assholes.

eablokker · 2022-07-02T16:58:02+00:00

Maybe she is just a club promoter and you got scammed

pretty_dead_grrl · 2022-07-02T17:11:03+00:00

Do you look like your profile photos? I cannot even tell you how often I’d meet up with a guy for a date and he looked nothing like his profile photo. Like at all. Nothing. One used his high school prom photo, one was at least a foot shorter than he told me was. And look, I’m fine with short or ugly dudes, but just don’t lie to me. Lie little, lie big.

Previous_Shake_9484 · 2022-07-02T17:47:03+00:00

Don't be disturbed. The problem is not with you, but with this arrogant person. Life goes on.

Title	Just got absolutely rejected
Author	diamxnds
Upvotes	131
Comments	95
Date	July 2, 2022 9:29 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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