About me. I’m in an ENM marriage and have 3-4 plates spinning at once. I cycle through many lovely women until their life situations change. Sometimes our romance lasts weeks, other times months, but they all end because they are not designed to last. Because of my unique situation I’m very comfortable when a plate wobbles or falls because I have lots of practice both dumping and getting dumped. Now to my story.

To be brief. Met online. First date was tequila and tacos, a walk around a park to feed fish, and then a stroll to my hotel. Full close.

Second date: she meets me at my hotel. Couple Massage, corney cowboy restaurant for dinner, hot tub, full close.

Leaving out a ton of details because it’s not a field report.

From the day we met it was constant texts, calls and Marco polos (the best way to flirt on your phone). The vibe was great and the rapport was strong.

She takes a trip home to her parents. Tons of interaction. We’re sending sexy videos. Her and her old friends are blushing at my flirting and having fun. It was sexy, fun and exciting. On the last day of her trip she went cold. Then ice cold. And here is the whole point to this post.

I sent her one message and one message only. It read: “whatever took you out of my life, come find me when it passes”. It’s not Shakespeare but it worked.

2 weeks pass - no contact 4 weeks pass - nothing

Sunday she calls. She doesn’t text or MP - she calls. She apologizes, tells me how her ex made a full court press to give it one more try. They have a son together so she thought it was worth a try. Turns out he’s still the gaslighting, verbally abusive prick she remembered and she ended it.

Now I look like mr perfect. Why? Because I wasn’t needy, I didn’t get angry, I treated the situation like a man and she recognized the difference when she went back to her ex. She spent half an hour apologizing, telling me how great I am (I’m not) and asked me if I’d give her a second chance. 🤯

Now she’s fully back in my life. We met last night and picked up right where we left off. Her plate is back up and spinning nicely.

Hope this helps some of you.