Trying to flirt with a escort

jimmysnooka1 · 2022-03-08T18:01:29+00:00

I’d try it out but read lightly my friend

JXphile4 · 2022-03-08T18:07:06+00:00

You can try, but until she proves to you otherwise that for these future experiences she’s not an escort…you must continue to view her as an escort.

As the other commenter said…tread lightly. Or you could be down lots of money really quick

splusm4 · 2022-03-08T19:11:59+00:00

Let us know how that turns out.. I'm genuinely curious

ItIsICoachCal · 2022-03-08T20:03:11+00:00

Escorts make money on repeat customers: they pay in full, are lesser risk, tip well, and are somewhat predictable as to when and how often they book. If an escort could block out all her appointments into known quantities in a nice regular schedule, they would in a heartbeat. As such, stuff like

even during “downtime” she would always laugh at my jokes while touching me and likes to cuddle after sex, to the point of ask to spoon

Is most likely simply part of the business, keeping regulars happy, as is the insta thing or sushi thing. It is possible she wants to see you outside of business? Stranger things have happened I guess, but dollars-against-rubies here, I would bet on her just being good at her job.

Cplpunishment03 · 2022-03-08T20:41:36+00:00

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PuempelsPurpose · 2022-03-08T19:58:36+00:00

Tell her "I know we both enjoy spending time with one another, so this time, sushi's on you."

When you're out for sushi, take her out for a drink or two afterwards. Flirt, touch, etc., and then say "I want you to come home with me... I'm not going to pay you, though. I want you to come home with me because you want to."

Either she will or she won't. I don't have any experience with escorts, but if I was in your shoes, I would either fuck her for free like you want (assuming she is in) or I would fuck off and bang other escorts (if she isn't in).

Good luck.

Tiko853 · 2022-03-08T20:29:38+00:00

I mean at the end of the day, escorts have feelings and desires for relationships too if they meet the right one. Most of them are still human.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-08T19:19:09+00:00

You are looking at this the wrong way. If you want to have truly seamless success wjth women and have all the power in a relationship, you need to internalize the attitude that you are doing them a favor by being with them.

Guys always look at beautiful women and think "gosh, I'm lucky I can breathe the same air as her, if I could just smell her pussy, I'd die happy or I will eat a foot of her shit just to see the hole it came out of". That attitude is extremely off putting to women because the last thing they want is a weak guy who sees himself as beneath her and is ready to sacrifice himself.

You need to reframe this relationship and tell her "I'm not really interested in having a transactional relationship with you. I actually find you quite interesting and easy to get along with. I want to take you out for a drink and spend time with you". This way you turn from a man who has to pay to a a man who approves of her not just for her body, but because of other personality and all the daddy issues that she has will instantly turn to "daddy approves of me and I get to fuck this one".

Marcoscondit · 2022-03-08T18:19:25+00:00

Why would she fuck you forvfree when she can get paid lol

mchief101 · 2022-03-08T19:52:29+00:00

Dont get attached, it’s the worse feeling ever knowing that ur going about ur day but in ur mind u know shes slamming other men. It sucks….

indrid_cold · 2022-03-08T20:09:37+00:00

Prolly trippin but go for it anyways. Be aware she can be a totally nice person but still view everything as a transaction, that's just survival skills in her world.

Andrew54321 · 2022-03-08T21:22:39+00:00

You’re a customer not a love interest. Keep that context in perspective while assessing her actions.

PondScum420 · 2022-03-08T19:44:28+00:00

It happens man, I know a lot of sex workers. One is dating a long time client now, and I’ve known sex workers to eventually fuck clients for free. Not saying it’s the norm, but it definitely happens

2022-03-08T21:49:18+00:00

Bro you catching feelings for a hoe? Smh, you could do better. If she’s an escort than she’s going to be nice and be fake that’s all apart of the job. Be safe tho

orionshat · 2022-03-08T19:29:43+00:00

No bro, there’s nothing there. You’re trippin, she wants money.

StraightBait30 · 2022-03-08T20:38:11+00:00

If she initiated the sushi hangout then it’s probably not a work related activity. As everybody is saying though, be wary of it. I don’t see a problem with asking her during the meal and just asking “oh man I’m surprised you wanted to hangout with me outside of work” to kind of see how she reacts. That might tell you if she views it as another res pet duty or if she genuinely likes hanging out with you

spicy_simba · 2022-03-08T20:49:40+00:00

It doesn't hurt to be open and transparent and just ask if there is something more there or if its just some loyal customer perks.

That will quickly stop all wondering and to know what's what.

coldbrew18 · 2022-03-08T21:25:31+00:00

Her job is to arouse you enough that you push your wallet out of your pocket. She’ll probably ghost you if you ask for a freebie.

kuavi · 2022-03-08T22:17:14+00:00

Have you spent money on her?

If yes, you are her client. She may like spending time with you but you are her client. Do not get that confused.

furtivespork · 2022-03-08T20:41:17+00:00

Why are so many r/seduction posts about trying to find out if you can be in a relationship with someone you pay for sexual services? What is there to seduce? You already pay her for sex. Are you trying to get sex for free? Convince her to quit her job to see you exclusively and lose her income? What do you even want out of this?

SpookyKG · 2022-03-08T19:25:21+00:00

This ain't dating advice.

You're haggling.

Just pay the girl what she's asking for.

skinisblackmetallic · 2022-03-08T19:48:18+00:00

I wouldn’t be sure until she paid for the sushi.

iamthatguyiam · 2022-03-08T20:18:01+00:00

If I were regularly sleeping with a woman I liked and she was banging 5-10 guys a day, I would not be down. Everyone is different but do you think you won’t develop a disdain for her sleeping with all these men?

Skydiver860 · 2022-03-08T20:48:46+00:00

Why not just find a girl who wants to fuck for free? No judgement about seeing an escort but she’s being paid to pretend to like you. Chances are she’s just being friendly so she can get more business from you. I could be wrong but I think you’re better off finding a woman that you haven’t had a transactional relationship with who is just looking to fuck.

comacove · 2022-03-08T21:33:19+00:00

creamyturtle · 2022-03-08T22:00:12+00:00

totally possible. I've converted a couple strippers into housewives and it's just like you say: when you feel the vibe forming, just start inviting them to regular people stuff. you will see they are hella regular degular just like everybody else and proceed from there

All4upvoting · 2022-03-08T22:00:27+00:00

Sounds like she wants you to be one of her regulars. Nothing more.

BostonConnor11 · 2022-03-08T22:25:14+00:00

I’m sorry man but the most successful escorts are the ones who are most manipulative. Tread lightly. You wouldn’t have to pay her if she genuinely liked you.

MrNaturalInstinct · 2022-03-08T22:26:00+00:00

It can be done.

As others have said, tread lightly.

Don't go T-Pain and "fall in love with a stripper/escort". Let her fall in love with you. Keep doing what you've been doing. Let the cards fall where they may.

I'd be direct.

Ask her intentions for going out for sushi. What does she want going forward? "Is this still a business transaction to you or something more?"

You're asking us our interpretation of a dynamic we're not privy to. Man up and make her get to the point so YOU aren't mislead into thinking it's anything more than her securing a solid 'John'.

I learned the hard way, LAST thing you want is to get emotionally invested in an escort who 'knows us men inside and out', and will use that knowledge to their benefit.

She deals with many, many men and has fine tuned her ability to know what makes us "tick", and it's "working" on "you". If it's genuine, you can relax a bit, but still, not to much because she's still "sleeping with other men as her job besides you", and that can get tricky if you both fall for each other and she's not willing to quit.

Hired Hands are the toughest nuts to crack sometimes, but when they like you, they REALLY like you, because you're not like the other guys they do business with.

Baron_Semedi_ · 2022-03-08T22:26:30+00:00

Bro, don't fuck this up by getting involved with her. She is a great provider, leave it that way. Everything you see from her is what she wants you to see. You really don't know her.

2022-03-08T23:03:02+00:00

Good luck, I used to be a male model and my cock is 3 inches wide, and zero hos have offered it for free. I knew a couple. Didn't pay for it though, I didn't have an issue getting it for free from women.

Skizznitt · 2022-03-08T19:49:50+00:00

Here's the other thing that no one mentioned. So say she really is cool with dating you, are you okay with dating a chick that fucks other dudes for a living? If you're expecting she changes professions for you, don't, you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment.

changthaiman · 2022-03-08T20:32:12+00:00

Just went through this myself actually. Overall, she’ll never respect you because you paid her the first time. Don’t catch feelings. Please don’t.

Most-Order-9464 · 2022-03-08T20:59:38+00:00

Lmaoooo bro come tf on 😭😭

Ivabighairy1 · 2022-03-08T20:31:25+00:00

Every guy out there is trying that. She’s making her living off of them. Same with you. You’re no different than any of those others. She’s going to play you like a Stradivarius.

Renshato · 2022-03-08T21:58:52+00:00

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TiNyUzi · 2022-03-08T21:05:52+00:00

Nah bro see thru the bs. If y'all already smashed a good 4 times I feel like she's just tryna keep you hooked. Doing things that u wouldn't expect (spooning, sushi, following on IG) all ultimately driven by money. Even if she was "interested", she knows u paid her 4 times already and presumably has what she wants in a man. Personally, I would want someone who truly wants me for myself but u do u.

vandaalen · 2022-03-08T20:52:42+00:00

Why? There are billions of women, why do you want to go through the fuzz of dealing with a damaged woman?

shinymusic · 2022-03-08T20:52:11+00:00

I would run. This sounds like terrible heartache and alot of BS.

Ok_Independent_487 · 2022-03-08T20:59:49+00:00

I always ask them if they want to go out hand out with me after work :D

Purplegetraenk · 2022-03-08T21:04:33+00:00

I had a friend that managed to have a rich escort 10/10 insta model type fall in love with him. He’s a good looking guy and we happened to live in a luxury villa…

ChurchofCaboose1 · 2022-03-08T21:09:56+00:00

I mean I guess if you're ok with knowing your potentional partner is sleeping with who knows how many guys, go for it. If you can't be cool and accepting of it, steer clear. Don't go out with her hoping to talk her out of having sex for money. You should never date someone in hopes of changing them. It would be one thing if ya'll were dating then she decided she wants to be a escort.

Nullroute127 · 2022-03-08T21:24:42+00:00

Your situation isn't something I can identify with personally; I've never used an escort.

However, thinking about your problem and your goal my strategy would be to disappear for a bit. When/if she inquires just say you've had a great time but you're investing your time into genuine relationships. If she's actually into you she'll pursue you. She'll be somewhat indignant if she feels your relationship was genuine. "You mean we don't have a connection?" To which you might respond, "Things are murky when my bank account is involved." How she responds after that will be your sign.

She's probably used to dudes falling over themselves to her, so you need to do what the clientele doesn't.

If not, she'll be probably give you the soft, professional disappointment, "Ah well let me know if you ever want my company again."

I've met quite a few sex industry workers. If you ever talk to them many of them are Hollywood level actresses. I had a dancer tell me, "I've got a regular coming in 5 minutes, guy is such a creepy douche bag but he's got loads of money." The when the client shows up she's all smiles, hugs, laughing at his jokes, etc. Even though she just told me what she really thinks. Even KNOWING it's an act I was hard pressed to be able TELL it was as I was seeing it in front of me.

They'll stroke their hair, point their feet towards you, constantly touch, get in close, etc. they'll toss all the signals at you, but they're spoofed.

Women understand us more than we do them. The clever ones are able to weaponize that for their own ends with near pathological precision.

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-03-08T21:47:57+00:00

From what I hear from Vice - it’s vice, take it with some salt - is that an escort is a little different from a prostitute. An escort is basically a girlfriend without the title, actually it’s more like a date. You’re on a date, this girl has her career picked out for the moment, being an escort. Doesn’t need you to recommend a career change, that’s her decision, and besides it will be WAY more work for you trying to be captain save a hoe if she does switch jobs anyways. That’s her stuff to work out, not yours, so for a better night just don’t come near that conversation.

2022-03-08T22:08:17+00:00

If she offered sushi, you could have questioned if it was for an actual friendly dinner date or for the next time that she comes over, if you understand what I mean.

peewee369 · 2022-03-08T22:24:33+00:00

Go light, try a couple of times not to pay her and let her make the first step showing you that you are not just a safe, regular customer. Be a leader like hard to get and try to make her wanting you.

whiplash81 · 2022-03-08T22:28:33+00:00

If you've already paid, then you're a John and that's not going to change.

Ectoplasmic1984 · 2022-03-08T22:39:23+00:00

so you have paid for sex more than once already? any regrets about it or was it an overall good experience?

Casanova-Quinn · 2022-03-08T22:46:21+00:00

even during “downtime” she would always laugh at my jokes while touching me and likes to cuddle after sex, to the point of ask to spoon.

She's just giving you the "girlfriend experience", that's normal for good quality escorts.

said we should go out to eat sushi

And she's probably expecting you to pay for it.

Honestly, none of her behavior you mentioned is "special", she's just a good escort. That said, you can still try it, there's nothing to lose. I'd bet she'd give you free sex once in a while if you continue to be a good customer, but not regularly.

mhairabi · 2022-03-08T22:58:51+00:00

>We genuinely get along and we vibe together.

you'll be amazed by how many people are good at faking this, escort or not...

2022-03-08T23:15:32+00:00

Do it

Title	Trying to flirt with a escort
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