Male-Centered Dating Advice Directed at Women - A Compilation

ten-of-wands · 2019-12-25T19:28:28+00:00

Advice: "Guys love gamer/geek girls!"

Reality: LVM use gaming to gatekeep ("lol fake geek girls don't know this character's zodiac sign and blood type!!"), call us "filthy casuals" if we dare like consoles/mobile games, bitch to us about "girls who cosplay for attention" (aka wear sexy costumes and won't fuck them), and compare our bodies to their favorite female game character. Gamers hand us a game we are unfamiliar with, on a console we don't play (e.g. Call of Duty on Xbox whatever) and gleefully chortle when they "pwn" us. They bring over a video game and "let" you watch them play, but when you ask to play on your own save file they lie and say it's not possible to make a new save file. Gamers have a false sense of superiority and think they somehow have earned life merit/credibility (like an unpaid job) by wasting hours in front of a screen. If you play JRPGs instead of FPS, your games are "stupid" and "girly." If they do play JRPGs or whatever, it becomes "why aren't you like my dream girl character?" Uhh because she is a 3D character with an impossible bust-waist ratio and powers not humanly possible IRL?

I love video games, but I stay away from "gamers" and do not identify as one anymore. All it does is attract abuse and attention from LVM. These men got what they fucking wanted by keeping us out of the culture. Fuck the industry; I'm just going to play games by myself circa pre-Gamergate.

P.S. Thank you mods, for the FDS Disciple flair. With great power comes great responsibility 👸🏼

2019-12-25T19:31:52+00:00

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TheOGJammies · 2019-12-25T19:16:50+00:00

Ugly men will treat you better because they’ll be so grateful to have female attention
Older men are more mature and better in bed
If you’re really a bad bitch then men won’t treat you bad, if you’re attracting bums it’s your fault
You should always pay your own way on dates because he’ll be impressed you’re an independent woman who don’t need no man and it’s the only way to establish an equal relationship and gain a man’s respect.
Bringing up the fact that you’re looking for a committed relationship early will scare him away so it’s better to play it cool
A man should be able to expect Sex after the third date
Women of his own race are too demanding and feminist and masculine and that’s why he has to date outside of his race.
It doesn’t matter when you have sex with a man if he likes you he’ll treat you the same
Losing your virginity is a magical experience that will change your life forever
Men like variety so it’s okay if he has a wandering eye or flirts with other women it doesn’t mean he doesn’t respect you
Slutty girls never get good guys. Only perfect women get good men.
If you don’t have sex right away with a HVM you’ll lose him because what you won’t do another girl will
Attractive men are all cads and womanizers so it’s better to focus on nerdy shy guys
Women are naturally monogamous, only men need variety
No man is perfect you have to work hard to help him reach his potential
Don’t take it personal if a man doesn’t want to add you to his social media, some guys just like privacy
A lot of good men are “intimidated” by a successful woman so you should always make sure to downplay your accomplishments
Focusing in your education over your relationship is stupid because your degrees won’t keep you warm at night
Most guys know their girlfriend has a sexual past so it’s okay to discuss it with him in a relationship
Having sex without a condom is more intimate and means he trusts you
Telling a guy about your sexual trauma will bring you closer together
It’s normal not to orgasm during sex
You can learn to love a guy you’re not attracted to
You have to give guys a chance
You don’t need titles because What’s understood doesn’t have to be explained
You have to Be patient and supportive with a man who says “let’s see where this goes” because he probably had his heartbroken in the past and needs you to be understanding.
Men are most loyal to the woman who loves him for who he is even when he’s struggling
If a man has a wandering eye it’s because you’re not talking care of things at home
Men need porn because they’re more visual and sexual than women.
Porn is harmless and doesn’t effect how a man feels about you or your relationship or his sexual performance
If you want to keep a man you have to show him you’re a ride or die woman
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach
Size doesn’t matter
If you’re dating more than one guy at a time you’ll get a “reputation” so you have to focus on one
Men in professional high paying careers are more mature/less fuckbois
Virginity is something special that should be saved for your husband
If a man tries hard to get back together after a breakup it’s because he’s changed and you were truly were meant to be

All of it’s fucking lies.

2019-12-25T19:53:00+00:00

"Use him before he uses you"

Literally impossible to do because a man can use me sexually and i can't use him sexually (unless it's for oral sex only but a man would never agree to that, of course. most of them can't even give good head) since my n number is increasing due to that.

"Be more chill and down to earth. No drama."

No! i will not let my man get away with stuff that bothers me or turn a blind eye. If i do it on one thing from there it only goes downhill and he will start to think that he can get away with more and more.

"Give him a chance, he's a good guy"

Theres many good men out there. What did he do to deserve a chance except for liking me? i can like Liam Hemsworth, does it mean he's obligated to date me? no.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2019-12-25T19:06:52+00:00

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fim_de_semana · 2019-12-25T21:15:37+00:00

“Men want a girl who’s chill, low maintenance, and puts out a lot.”

If men wanted low maintenance women, they’d date and marry low maintenance women. The fact they complain so much about how their girlfriends and wives are high maintenance indicates these are the women who they date (and marry).

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-12-25T20:03:41+00:00

Edit: Had to post multiple comments because my original comment was "too long'. Something about a word limit.

Be desperate, be insecure, be alone, and be pathetic: You are told that you need to "wait" before moving on after a breakup. If you need "space" or "time" or "distance" to heal and gather yourself before jumping into another relationship, then MORE POWER TO YOU SIS!!! I fully support you! But if you use this time to ruminate on your ex, stalk his social media, or compare yourself to his new GF or obsess endlessly over why you're not good enough?? You need to face the reality that you might need therapy, or a distraction, or both. You are fully capable of meeting someone else right after a breakup, and you are under NO OBLIGATION to "wait" for ANYTHING before moving on. As usual, you're told that you should wait before moving on because this allows your ex the time and space to get over you, or to beg for you back. It also allows for women who are lonely to make bad choices in the heat of the moment and sleep with their ex, or take him back after the begging wears on you, because you're lonely. NAH SIS. Set up OLD profiles THE SAME DAY you dumped his ass and swipe within MINUTES of leaving his life. This allows you to notice other men and re-assures you that you're attractive, desirable, and you can talk to ANY other man, instead of your ex. NO, you don't need to text him at 3 because you're so lonely and desperate for human contact that he's the only one you can rely upon. BULLSHIT. Fuck that, and FUCK THEM for brainwashing women into thinking that a man is SO MAGICAL AND IRREPLACEABLE, that NOBODY ELSE could possibly offer you comfort, companionship, loyalty, kindness, passion, and happiness. They don't want you to date other men. They don't want you to fuck someone else. If you move on immediately, and they hear about it, the first thing they do is stalk YOUR social media and bombard you with messages like "how could you?!? I thought I meant more than that to you!??!". NAH SIS, block that ass and MOVE ON IMMEDIATELY. You don't owe him ANYTHING,. You're only told to wait before moving on to spare the man's feelings from having to watch you move on. Because women can and do move on faster than men, and they don't wanna see it. They NEED YOU to wait before moving on. It doesn't maximize benefit to you. It puts you at risk for missing him, taking him back, fucking him, or watching him move on. It sets you back. You are ALSO told that you need to speak to only one man at a time. This festers loneliness and desperation. STOP THAT IMMEDIATELY. If dude #1 stops responding.... then dude #3, #4, #7, #8, #9.... #50 will. DO NOT date just 1 man at a time and do not be exclusive to these men before they explicitly discuss exclusivity with you. Dating multiple men prevents you from feeling lonely or desperate. It puts an "abundance" mentality in your head and you'll end up like me. Not worried about any one man, ever. They compete for your time and affections, not the other way around.
PRIVACY - You're told to assume that he's not lying, cheating, or hiding anything from you, and you're told to put his privacy above your mental, physical, and emotional health. You're told to never ever check his phone, his social media, and you're told to blindly trust him with all that you are. This puts you at risk of finding out that he's cheating on you at an STD clinic.

I'll write more if I think of more, but my fingers are on fire from all this typing :/

DO NOT LET THESE "MEN" GUIDE YOU WITH THEIR "ADVICE" THAT'S AIMED AT BENEFITING THEM. LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF LADIES.

raindampened · 2019-12-25T21:16:00+00:00

omfg THANK YOU. I had a few months, after I lost lot of weight, when I would approach guys to ask them out bc on the internet I read that guys loved that. B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T! I had been turned down every time, though the guys were always sweet. but men who find you attractive will approach you. and the guys who suggest that women should approach them aren't actually shy but ugly/dirty and know that they would be turned down. guys in real life will approach you, it's only here on the internet where these LVMs whine otherwise.

be pretty in your own way, radiate that you are a HVW and guys will approach you.

riseaboveagain · 2019-12-25T21:24:16+00:00

“He needs some space because his feelings for you are too intense”

Girl, no. He’s playing it cool because your feelings for him are too intense. He just wants a fuck buddy.

PrettyCicada · 2019-12-25T20:24:42+00:00

The whole "Just be forward and honest" thing is the biggest pile of BS ever. It's a very easy way to get exploited and taken advantage of by fuckboys who aren't willing to put in any time and effort. That said I don't think passivity usually works well for most women either since that typically leads to having to filter out a horde of LVMs with nothing to offer. Imo there actually are ways of for a woman to make first move that actually keep the power in her hands but they typically involve doing it in a more subtle and understated way that draws the guy in quickly and makes him do the rest of the work.

littytitty00 · 2019-12-25T22:48:18+00:00

If a guy doesn’t listen to your sexual needs, it’s your fault for not telling him:

nicely enough
enough times
patiently enough
convincingly enough
sweetly enough
loud enough
softly enough
persistently
at the right time
in the right moment
with the right tone

The list goes on....

And if you did it perfectly enough, enough times, then maybe you just picked the wrong guy. Your fault for choosing poorly.

modernmedusaa · 2019-12-26T07:01:29+00:00

here's another

if a grown man has ED / intermittent soft dick issues from his dumb habits/lifestyle choices/lack of confidence then its your duty to be super pandering to him and fulfil x y z bizarre fetish/request in order to 'help him out' rather than nexting him or its 'your fault' for not turning him on enough

buuuuuuullllshit

listen sis , if you've had no trouble getting 99% of mens thing pinging up in 0.2 seconds before do not feel obliged to play dick therapist to some loser who drank himself into oblivion and is still doing that shit at 32. Most likely you'll be giving a really immature dimwitted irresponsible manchild sympathy he does not deserve

this is just a way for low value immature undesirable men to override natural selection and guilt trip you into a sexually frustrating unfulfilling love life that centres around his fragile ego

and on that note RUN from men with 'toe fetishes' who are obsessed with anal etc- any mention of that next them... these are the WORST offenders for low stamina limp dick. Same with men who make outlandish claims like they 'always make girls squirt'- massive cope. Very few men can do that & they will not boast upfront

most young men with this issue are going to turn out to be immature car crashes with some kind of previous/ongoing drink/drug habit that you do NOT need to be dealing with whatsoever

low value men make dumb low value decisions& expect high value women to sacrifice/ help them fix it- leave them to it

it is NOT normal for grown men under 35 to be having dick issues with an attractive young woman next to them and 99% its going to be self induced- don't take that BS on

it is not 'nerves' it is not 'i had too many drinks' - their dick is going to be trash on an ongoing basis NEXT

levelupcleverup · 2019-12-25T21:14:29+00:00

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drunkmoonfarmer · 2019-12-26T00:13:41+00:00

Men on reddit love to advise women to put up with degrading, gross or painful sex acts that you have no interest in just to appease your boyfriends. Anal, facials, choking, that kind of shit. NEVER do this. If you really, really want to and you're the one who initiates it, sure. If you're even the slightest bit grossed out by or hesitant to do it, firmly put your foot down and tell him it's not up for discussion. If he keeps whining for it, he doesn't respect you or see you as an equal. Walk, then block.

I've never degraded my sexual boundaries for anyone, and I've never regretted it for a second. If I'd ever actually let a man I was dating put his dick in my ass or cum on my face, I would have hated myself for it and hated him even more for breaking me down until I agreed. Not only that, They will absolutely lose respect for you if you let them degrade you sexually like this, even if they talked you into it. Anyone who does this is a LVM, and it's almost a guarantee that a LVM will immediately brag to all of his friends about what you let him do to you as well.

If you actually are freaky in bed, more power to you. Be safe, have fun. But never, even lower your sexual standards for anyone or let yourself be talked into anything you're not comfortable with.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-12-25T20:03:36+00:00

Male-authored dating "advice" which is aimed at women, ONLY maximizes benefit to men by getting as many men laid as possible. This "advice" is awful to women who are looking for something serious, stable, and lifelong. This "advice", if followed, will get you pumped and dumped by men of all kinds. It's goal is to get as many men laid, with as little investment in women as possible. There is not much else to this "advice". There's no "deep" or "philosophical" meaning behind it. ALL IT DOES IS GET MEN LAID AND NOTHING ELSE. Men depend on women buying into (and following) this advice in order for it to work. Most of this "advice" contains gross exaggerations of small nuggets of truth.

OLD is terrible/bad/dangerous for women: You are told that "online dating, aka "OLD"" is BAD. You're told that it's AWFUL. It's TERRIBLE! It's the worst! You are told that there are only losers and dumpsterfire men on online dating. You are told that OLD is terrible for women, that it's dangerous, ineffective, and that there are NO good men on OLD. That there are no handsome, successful, high-value men (HVM) on OLD. This is a myth. The reality is that OLD does suck.... FOR MEN. It is MEN who struggle to get matches, get responses, attract (non-robot) women, and get dates from OLD. There is a nugget of truth in this advice. There are AWFUL men on OLD, but there are also great men on there. The reality is that your OLD experience depends on YOU. If you CHOOSE to put zero effort into developing a high quality profile, you won't attract high quality matches. If you CHOOSE to present yourself in an awful light (like the women on that whereareallthegoodmen subreddit), you will attract TRASH and scare off HVM. If you choose to swipe right on low-effort profiles, on losers, scumbags, and fuckboys, you will have a bad time and your OLD experience WILL suck. You will then jump to the conclusion that OLD sucks, and that the apps don't work. THIS IS FALSE. I CANNOT OVEREMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH! YOUR ONLINE DATING EXPERIENCE DEPENDS ON YOU. You must take the time to develop a high quality profile, you must take the time to (face or) set your self-esteem issues aside and present yourself in the best light. MUST MAKE THE CONSCIOUS CHOICE TO BLOCK, DELETE, IGNORE, AND GHOST LOW-VALUE MEN (LVM). Do not swipe on them. Do not match with them. Do not entertain them. Do not waste time with them. ONLY SWIPE RIGHT ON HIGH QUALITY, HIGH-VALUE, ATTRACTIVE MEN. There are TONS and TONS of them. Simply swipe left on everyone else, and swipe right ONLY on high value, high quality men. Swipe LIBERALLY, you DO NOT have to speak to only 1 man at a time. SWIPE EVERY DAY, and DO NOT STOP SWIPING UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED. Swipe on at least 50 high quality men a week, and do NOT stop until you're married. You will have amazing results. Do NOT buy into the male-bullshit "advice" that OLD is bad and "sucks". It does suck... FOR THEM, because as we all know, the male to female ratio on most OLD apps is typically 2 to 1, or 3 to 1. They hate it because OLD apps FORCE them to compete with each other for available, attractive women, and makes it harder for them to pump and dump because of the intense competition they encounter. They HATE it because they actually have to compete and work to match with, attract, and get responses/dates from women.
Meet men in-real-life (IRL): You are told that you should give up on OLD apps and meet men IRL. Because this spares men from the intense competition which exists online and maximizes their opportunity to pump and dump girls easily and quickly. It also provides men with an opportunity to inflict violence on women that reject male advances. On OLD apps, you get the option of vetting them before you choose to meet them. They have to create a profile, and answer questions, and work on attracting women, and you get to reject them from the safety and comfort of your living room, without having to face the dangerous and often fatal consequences of rejecting a male face-to-face. Women have been murdered in cold blood because they told men "no". This is ANOTHER REASON men hate OLD apps. These apps allow women to block and unmatch a motherfucker without ever having to meet up with them. You get to vet them upfront and decide for yourself whether or not they get your number, your time, or your affections. You get to decide that he's not your cup of tea without all that pesky male anger and violent consequences of rejection. IRL? You might have to give him your number to avoid being shot in the head because you turned him down. Or you might have to give him your number because he followed you around the block and is begging and making you feel nervous. OLD makes rejecting men easier, quicker, and safer by eliminating the face-to-face part of initial rejection, and MEN HATE THIS. They want women to face the consequences of rejecting a man. They want to put their hands on you, call you names, yell at you, threaten you, kill you, or insult you to your face because you said "no". They cannot insult or murder a woman who unmatched and blocked them, they can only insult a woman who is standing there, might be alone, or can't run away from a situation fast enough. AGAIN, this depends on YOU. YOU must take steps to make sure your OLD profile doesn't include your name, street address, social security number, work schedule, and passcode to your car and apartment and phone. PLEASE be smart and safe out there. VET THEM before you let them know your personal info.
Casual sex, Friends with benefit (FWB) and "Situationships": You are told that a relationship isn't required for sex. Good treatment isn't necessary. He doesn't even need to be nice to you, associate with you, or call you his "friend". Just throw your pussy at him. You are told that sex should be free! That it's empowering to fuck a man with no commitment and with no investment whatsoever. All he needs to do is be present. He doesn't even need to be nice to you, or be attractive, or fuckable. You're told to just fuck and suck ANY MAN who "is nice to you". You're told to Fuck him as fast as possible. Fuck on the first date, after netflix and chilling. Suck and Fuck him because it's "feminist" and "liberating" and "spontaneous". Anything else makes you a "prude". This "advice" is typically coupled with "advice" which tells you to overlook his appearances and fuck men who are short, bald, fat, old, married/unavailable, and ugly. You're told that being a side chick is "a rush", you're told that fucking a married man means he's choosing YOU above his wife and will someday leave his one and only for you, and it'll be romantic, like in the movies, and that it'll fill your heart with Joy once you "win him". You're told that your standards are appaling, and you are downvoted, banned from subreddits, and stalked by incels for suggesting that you need to be attracted to a man in order to fuck him. You are treated like GARBAGE for suggesting that he might need to be tall, handsome, romantic, and successful, and you are told that you'll end up ALONE in this cruel, cold world, and die a lonely life involving cats! if you don't randomly fuck drunk, unemployed, ugleoids who are fat and balding and married. You are told standards shouldn't exist and you are told that you are a horrible, shallow, vain, vindictive gold-digging (b-word) woman for having standards. The icing on this fucked-up cake?? If you DO buy into this advice and fuck an ugleoid or marry him and lose attraction to him?? You're told you're horrible and you owe them "duty sex" because they're entitled to it. Damned if you do. Damned if you don't.

popfriday · 2019-12-25T19:34:31+00:00

My bf was so shy and nervous when we first met. It was adorable. Did I then aggressively pursue and chase him even though he’s tall, hot and successful? Hell no. Even though he was shy, I still let him take the lead.

3 years later he is still very very cautious of how I view him. Men should be on their toes at all times. Despite popular belief it keeps all parties interested. It’s not a fun truth but it’s a fundamental truth.

quasarbar · 2019-12-26T03:00:33+00:00

Same.

I too believed in principle that things should be equal. But they're not. The men I pursued were never interested in me as anything more than a backup plan for if they never found their dream girl.

That's just how men are, and we have to work with reality, not with ideals of "equality." That means women shouldn't pursue men. It's as simple as that.

alyssagrayxo · 2019-12-26T11:16:57+00:00

One of the most common ones for OPs: The "busy guy" (usually have gym involved)
- Text him again and ask him out, maybe he's busy at work, for example, I work full-time, and I go to the gym, I have hobbies/friends, so I have no time to text, people are busy. You're being clingy.

So you're literally a robot who takes no breaks in between? Other people have a full time job and other responsibilities too. You don't need to drop everything in your life to send texts. And Idk why everyone emphasizes "going to the gym", as if it's some sort of activity that disables your ability to text. Those are not legit excuses/reasons.

MaizeMalaise · 2019-12-26T01:43:18+00:00

Anything by Steve Harvey, he's trash 🤮

Queencake504 · 2019-12-26T12:11:33+00:00

*Men are most loyal to the woman who loves him for who he is even when he’s struggling

*Ugly men will treat you better because they’ll be so grateful to have female attention

*You have to Be patient and supportive with a man who says “let’s see where this goes” because he probably had his heartbroken in the past and needs you to be understanding

*No man is perfect you have to work hard to help him reach his potential

All Bullshit!!! All Lieeeeesss🚫

2019-12-26T00:47:24+00:00

there is a rubbish reddit called asktrp

2020-04-29T22:21:02+00:00

any time I have pursued a man he has never loved me the way I want to be

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Title	Male-Centered Dating Advice Directed at Women - A Compilation
Author	pickmieshaexorcist
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Date	December 25, 2019 6:58 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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