Whats your reasoning that you actually notice your own privilege?

So there is a lot of talk about how people who are counted as X (white, straight, rich, etc.) don't actually notice their own privilege and instead tend to see their privilege as normal.

There is a ton of talk about it—studies and work showing how people begin to notice the difference if they really start to think about it.

You would need to live under a rock to not know what I mean (at least on the internet).

So what’s your reasoning that women today are actually the most privileged in dating and that all the talk is nothing more than a big “then they should eat cake”?

Edit: i speak especially about the dating context